awkwardpenguin, those long term leaves are THE WORST for kids who need stability. I wish in those situations they would move neurodivergent kids to another class whose teacher is actually there. Before we had DS’s diagnosis, when he was in Pre-K, he had a teacher who honestly missed more school than she attended. (And she had no excuses… she once took two weeks off because her husband was deploying for 3 months. She had a daughter in 11th grade who was still going to school. She just “needed some time to recalibrate.” Dude, he was career military. Really? You don’t know how to deal with deployment 20 years in?) I think a huge reason we didn’t get an earlier diagnosis for DS was she had no idea what was happening with my kid. His kindergarten teacher, who was the first person to encourage us to get him tested, told us she’d noticed in pre-k, he often played alone on the playground. When we asked the pre-k teacher, she had lied and told us he played with lots of different friends.
My DS, 10, is like your daughter. He’s in talk therapy but anything else is such a struggle that we no longer bother. He’s high functioning and super smart, so we are just crossing our fingers that it’s enough to get him through.
So a question. Anyone else struggling through the last weeks? Every freaking year, DS just decides some time in April that he’s done. This year, we pulled him out of school for almost 9 weeks, so we were hoping he would get through the end with less trouble. Nope. He’s being an utter pain in the ass. Last night I told him he has to finish so he passes 4th grade because if he doesn’t, we are going on vacation without him, and one parent will stay home with him for summer school. It probably wasn’t my best parenting moment, but I’m done with fighting him every day.
mommyatty every April/May DS(8) has more behavior challenges. I always thought it was due to the end of the school year coming and transitions/schedules being wonky. We attended an IEP team meeting recently to discuss said behaviors and the SLP and resource room teacher both suggested it could be because the difficulty level of the classwork ramped up. That makes sense to me because he struggles academically.
macmars45, here, the last few weeks after the state tests are just goof off time. They aren’t doing a lot of new stuff, though DS said this morning they are “killing him with worksheets.” So maybe it’s just that the teachers are done too so it’s lots of worksheet work. He told the school nurse that he feels like he spends his “entire life” at school. Lol. She told him that’s kind of true.
Post by awkwardpenguin on May 14, 2024 9:14:53 GMT -5
mommyatty yeah, this is the second year this has happened. His K year he was in dual language Spanish/English and he just went along with everything and his teacher was out for three months, so no one noticed that he only knew 3 letters at the end of K. It’s been really frustrating for us trying to piece together the story from a bunch of different sources.
mommyatty state testing starts next week for us but not until 3rd grade thankfully so DS won't be doing that as he's a 2nd grader. I'm undecided if H and I will opt him out next year. We need to discuss further.
Our last day of school is June 13th.
awkwardpenguin wtf?! In my school we are testing our kinders every month on letters name & letter sound and phonemic sounds (do they hear the right sound in words) specifically so no one falls through the cracks! I'm appalled that no one noticed!
helpshareplease, hugs. In Oregon DHS pays parents to stay home with their disabled children and there is a special tax bill that makes it basically free income. I know a couple people who are getting this to care for their adult children.
mommyatty, both of my kids are limping toward the end of the year. DD1 has finals for the first time ever, and seems to be in complete denial about what that's all about. She's literally never had a cumulative test like this, her grades have been garbage this term because she doesn't feel like studying, and we're "mean" when we point out that bad grades after not studying is not acceptable.
DD2 is just... oof. I think she's exhausted. But her personality is like a hair trigger, and one wrong look unleashes such fury. ADHD quick temper? Puberty? Perfect storm of both? WHO KNOWS???
We have about 1.5 more weeks of absolute insanity, then hopefully we will coast for the rest of the school year...