Post by artichokie on Apr 28, 2024 10:38:33 GMT -5
I'm procrastinating making a decision about something. I should be working on it now but am in decision paralysis.
omg britney spears' reels on insta are...something
I have to stop shopping at jcrewfactory. But everytime i order jeans or pants, they are spot on in quality and fit perfectly but i really don't need another pair of wide-legged jeans
I love to bake something on Sundays just bc it makes my house smell homey
I tried the cottage cheese trend where you blend it up and make cookie dough, dips, various protein snacks with it on tiktok and its actually pretty gross. I'll just eat it as-is, thx
My H was nearly useless with DD1's birthday party yesterday, which annoyed me, but I already mentioned it and am pretty much over it. I just want some time to myself to recover from feeling unappreciated and overstimulated. He also went golfing this morning, and I really don't mind, but I feel entirely entitled to not waiting on anyone for the rest of the day.
My class last week was amazing- it really filled a gap in my knowledge, and because everything was provided/planned and my boss really minimized how much of my regular job I had to keep up with, I felt like I could actually focus and process the material.
Then I drove 4+ hours back, went straight to the HS to run concessions for the spring musical Friday evening, went back for 12 hours yesterday for set up/concessions for two shows/feeding the cast and crew/clean up. The show was AMAZING, like this 17yo boy had the entire sold out audience tearing up with his performance of Happy/Sad.
Finally catching up on real life today with laundry, groceries, etc. then DH heads back to Baltimore tonight 🫠
My kid has a really bad cough. He and H went mountain biking this morning and had to stop bc DS was having trouble breathing. They went to urgent care and the doctor gave him antibiotics and steroids but didn't really diagnose anything other than a sinus infection which wouldn't be causing the breathing problems. We've heard that whooping cough is going around and common in teens bc the vaccine wears off. So I guess we'll see how he does with meds.
Anyway. H was weirdly mad about the whole thing. Like stomping around about why "we" waited so long to take him to the doctor. Bro, you are an equal parent and no one was stopping you from making an appointment. If by "we" you mean "me", then fuck off.
Apparently the morning started badly because H never told DS what time they were leaving, so they were each planning on different times and DS wasn't ready when H wanted to leave. Which is also classic H.
My H was nearly useless with DD1's birthday party yesterday, which annoyed me, but I already mentioned it and am pretty much over it. I just want some time to myself to recover from feeling unappreciated and overstimulated. He also went golfing this morning, and I really don't mind, but I feel entirely entitled to not waiting on anyone for the rest of the day.
Fair?
Hell yes that’s fair! You are to wait on no one, no thing.
This is a problem that doesn't have any good solutions, but I need to vent because I'm so irritated by it all.
H's nephew is getting married in September, and we received our invitation two weeks ago. It's addressed to me and H, no mention of our two teenage kids. The wedding is in H's hometown, three hours from us, and is in the evening which means at a minimum we'll need to stay overnight. I know from back in Ye Olde Knot Days that no names on the invitation = kids not invited to the event, but H is convinced that it's an oversight and of course they're expected to come. I asked him to text his nephew to clarify because it would be beyond rude to just show up with two extra guests, but H is being his typical avoidant self when it comes to his family and has just left the invitation on the coffee table since we opened it.
Complicating matters is the fact that in the last few years MIL has become completely brainwashed by Fox News, to the point where she told H I was a groomer who wanted to give kids porn two summers ago (I'm a school librarian), and last summer she misgendered our nonbinary oldest kid to their face over and over again with no apology. These were the only two times we've seen her in the four years since we moved back to this part of the country, and I have no reason to think she'd be any kinder or less bigoted toward us at nephew's wedding. I told H after last summer's visit that I was done interacting with her, and that I thought we needed to let our kids choose whether or not they saw her in the future. He had no objections to that plan, but I don't think either of us was factoring in family events like this one because they're so rare.
I would like to go see nephew get married, and H is definitely going. MIL will 100% be there. If the kids aren't invited then we don't have to worry about them being forced to interact with her, but also DS 2 is too young to stay overnight without an adult present, and that's a ready-made excuse for me to skip the event and thus avoid any possible scene involving MIL. Our own wedding was derailed by his family's drama, and I would hate for anything like that to happen to nephew and his fiancee. I don't want to appear unsupportive of them, though, and explaining the real reason why I'm not there would also pull them into the drama which so far we've managed to keep private so as not to make anyone else in the family feel like they're picking a side. No matter what we do someone's feelings (mine, Kid 1's, nephews, and who knows who else's) will inevitably get hurt.
I’m meeting a friend to lounge in the park. So glad to have a nice, warm weekEND day.
It’s finally warm enough to wear this ridiculous slouchy overall thing I bought and I’m delighted. I told my friend I was gonna show up in a clown suit.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Apr 28, 2024 12:36:40 GMT -5
Do your kids want to attend? That would factor heavily into my decision.
Is there anything fun about where the wedding is located? Would the kids want to come and stay in the hotel, do fun things, and skip the wedding?
If the kids are meh on attending, I think the easy answer is to have H attend and stay home. If you do want to go, I don't think it's a big deal to give the couple a heads up that you all don't get along well with MIL these days, so could they please seat you away from her to help everything go smoothly?
Do your kids want to attend? That would factor heavily into my decision.
Is there anything fun about where the wedding is located? Would the kids want to come and stay in the hotel, do fun things, and skip the wedding?
If the kids are meh on attending, I think the easy answer is to have H attend and stay home. If you do want to go, I don't think it's a big deal to give the couple a heads up that you all don't get along well with MIL these days, so could they please seat you away from her to help everything go smoothly?
Kids are ambivalent on attending. They barely know their cousin (20+ year age gap), and there's nothing to do in H's hometown. It's the most boring place on earth.
I think your last solution is what we'll end up doing if I wind up deciding to attend.
Post by dancingnancy on Apr 28, 2024 13:06:09 GMT -5
Yesterday DD and I returned from a week in Ireland and it was an absolutely perfect trip. The weather was perfect, I feel like DD is the perfect age (15) and everything went great. I am usually ready to come home at the end of a trip but we are both feeling a letdown being back.
Post by nancybotwin on Apr 28, 2024 13:14:07 GMT -5
I have finished 5 loads of laundry so far and have 2 to go. It feels so good to have a normal day - it’s been so long of not only having plans but of having stressful things on my plate. I’m so happy doing laundry, cleaning my kitchen, making a Target run and taking DD1 to buy some jeans. The only bummer is that I usually hike on Sunday mornings with my friend but she is out of town, so the green ring on my watch is currently at 0.
I'm a little annoyed with DH. Not enough to bitch at him but I can let it out here. DS has a rehearsal today for the spring musical. It was a last minute add on. And he also has a meeting at church for his summer work camp that they leaders say he needs to attend, even if he's late. Which he will be. Anyway his school is 35-45 minutes from our house. I came up with the brilliant idea they would take him to rehearsal, go down the street to the movies and grab some food and we should be done the same time as the rehearsal. So they when can grab him and rush him to the next meeting.
We get to the school, drop the kid off, DH turns to me and is like "I don't feel going to the movies" so we ended up coming back home immediately. So much wasted time and gas and effort. And now I get to drive out to get him in 2 hours.
My poor H. He tried to go out and get us iced coffee from McDonald's and idk why but it is impossible. He ordered "one medium iced coffee with French vanilla and cream, and one regular iced coffee with only cream no liquid sugar" somehow that became an order for just a single coffee, so he went through it again. He got: 1 French vanilla iced coffee - no French vanilla (like this is how it was written out, it ended up being a coffee with only cream) 1 black coffee with only sugar
Without fail this is the absolute most difficult order ever. It reminded me of the convo here recently about trying to order seltzer water and it being so confusing.
Post by 1confused1 on Apr 28, 2024 15:33:04 GMT -5
I called out of work today. I kind of feel bad, but I have a horrible cough so I’m sure no one wants to taste wine while listening to me try to breathe.
My son’s junior prom was last night and I’m having big feelings about it. I’m not ready for him to be this old.
My XH came to the prom festivities and stayed for the parent after party. My daughter was so happy that he is making an effort to do this stuff. I’m glad he has figured out that I’m not the enemy.
If it were me, I'd stay home with the kids in peace and let H go alone. I wouldn't put nephew in the middle of any of it (wouldn't ask if kids were invited even - I did that one time and they weren't and everyone felt awkward).
Post by fluffycookie on Apr 28, 2024 16:29:04 GMT -5
The dog either has a hot spot, abysses or ingrown hair next to one of her nails. Last night she was licking her paw constantly and we realized there was blood on the floor. At first we thought she lost a nail, but she finally let me look at it and the nail is there but there is a red area//sore. I tried to cover it last night, but she took it off and put it next to me. I bought cleanser and wrap this morning which is working better, but she hates it. Off to the vet tomorrow.
Post by fivechickens on Apr 28, 2024 17:02:08 GMT -5
Today is my girls’s 13th birthday. D3 had the flu this weekend so we didn’t do a whole lot.
I woke up at 5:30am and realized I didn’t get any decorations or a cake/cupcakes. I feel like a horrible mom. I did go get cupcakes. They were pleased with their gifts and grandma was in town so they didn’t seem to care. Still I feel horrible.
nsl, are you comfortable with your kids staying in the hotel alone while you are at the wedding? I think we'd go to the hometown as a family and then set the kids up for a fun night alone at the hotel while you were at the wedding. They'd probably rather do that anyway. Order pizza, pack some of their favorite snacks, take a video game system or a few board games, and they'd be set for a fun night in while you celebrate the nephew. I like the idea of making that request to the bride/groom. It's far better for them to know that you'd prefer not to sit together than unknowingly put you together and have it be an issue.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Apr 28, 2024 17:10:06 GMT -5
I got my PICC line discontinued today!! I am way too giddy!!
I left comment cards for five of my infusion nurses. I wasn’t sure what to say so I said varying comments of incredible warmth and caring, impeccable bedside manner, and I said (on each individual card) that in my opinion, they deserved more money and a bigger office.
ETA: I’m having chocolate ice cream for dinner and I’m very close to ordering some Coach earrings on sale at Macy’s, but I’m not sure if Coach is a basic bitch brand or not.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
lilac05 , no, I wouldn't subject them to a 6-hour round trip drive just to hang out in the hotel.
OK! Just a thought! We make frequent long road trips and my kids love hotels, so "just" 3 hours and a solo hotel party night with a bunch of special stuff would feel like a fun treat to them. You obviously know your kids best, though!
ETA: I just ran the idea by my kids, and their faces both lit up. "Can you find a friend to get married so we can do that??" LOL.
Post by slbride2003 on Apr 28, 2024 17:18:50 GMT -5
I am traveling for work and stopped for a bottle of water before boarding my flight. When did Panic Panties become a thing? I’m trying to figure out when I would panic at an aor port and need a black lace thong. I don’t know how to post a pic but did take one. I’m fascinated!
I got my PICC line discontinued today!! I am way too giddy!!
I left comment cards for five of my infusion nurses. I wasn’t sure what to say so I said varying comments of incredible warmth and caring, impeccable bedside manner, and I said (on each individual card) that in my opinion, they deserved more money and a bigger office.
ETA: I’m having chocolate ice cream for dinner and I’m very close to ordering some Coach earrings on sale at Macy’s, but I’m not sure if Coach is a basic bitch brand or not.
nsl I'd send your H by himself. Unless this is his "closest, most specialest, most loved nephew" there really isn't a reason for the rest of the family to attend. If you kids "have" to go, I'd go ahead and call nephew your yourself and ask. I'd hate to show up with them to find out that seats/tables are assigned, and you brought two extra people. I've always gone by...if the name isn't on the envelope, they aren't invited. Maybe the nephew and bride had to have a certain head count and decided that kids/teenagers of extended relatives pushed them over the limit/budget.