They don’t think the new unit will fit through the attic access. He says he’ll try first to get it through, then he’ll have to remove the trim. And then I’ll have to put the trim back up and caulk and oh the ceiling that is attached to goes to our stairwell.
I did well at my contacts appointment! Got them in on the second try and practiced successfully a few times. I really needed that win this week, lol. I'm excited to be able to wear cuter sunglasses this summer, and have more choices, as I don't really love the prescription ones that I have.
Post by litskispeciality on May 3, 2024 10:06:17 GMT -5
I'm in a big fight with my work issued wireless keyboard and it's stupid battery. I bought a rechargeable battery kit and while the battery re-charges it's not giving power to the keyboard. Trying the second battery that came with the kit in hopes that works. Honestly can I just have a plug in keyboard please and thanks?
I updated my DH as his last name - Husband in my phone contacts after the conversation here. It's so weird to see it. Can't figure out how to make an emergency contact which is kind of annoying.
Finally, a while back I was crocheting 20 x 20 granny square blankets for this local cat shelter. They give them to the newly adopted cats so it smells familiar while they adjust to their new home. Last night I finally had enough time to do a few rounds and it was awesome. I really hope I can get back in to it, even just one a month.
dancingirl21, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! That sounds really scary. I'm glad it's "just" long COVID and not something more emergent, but also that's not that comforting if it means you'll have to keep dealing with random stuff.
So glad it's Friday!! Volleyball is over for kid so thankfully no 8am game tomorrow, I am very much looking forward to sleeping in! Not too much planned for this weekend which is exciting because we have been go go go the past couple of months.
I (and H) need to get better about meal planning, I have no idea what is in our freezers and want to work on eating those down. We keep overspending on groceries because we don't have plans. I just get bored with what we normally have but also don't want to do any work associated with finding new options and don't like cooking enough to want to spend a lot time making dinner. H and I do share the load of meals so it's not all on me but I kinda don't want any of it on me LOL
So glad it's Friday!! Volleyball is over for kid so thankfully no 8am game tomorrow, I am very much looking forward to sleeping in! Not too much planned for this weekend which is exciting because we have been go go go the past couple of months.
I (and H) need to get better about meal planning, I have no idea what is in our freezers and want to work on eating those down. We keep overspending on groceries because we don't have plans. I just get bored with what we normally have but also don't want to do any work associated with finding new options and don't like cooking enough to want to spend a lot time making dinner. H and I do share the load of meals so it's not all on me but I kinda don't want any of it on me LOL
Take an hour or so, work together, and pull everything out and write it all down. We do that every so often. You'd be amazed what's lurking in there, that can be used.
So glad it's Friday!! Volleyball is over for kid so thankfully no 8am game tomorrow, I am very much looking forward to sleeping in! Not too much planned for this weekend which is exciting because we have been go go go the past couple of months.
I (and H) need to get better about meal planning, I have no idea what is in our freezers and want to work on eating those down. We keep overspending on groceries because we don't have plans. I just get bored with what we normally have but also don't want to do any work associated with finding new options and don't like cooking enough to want to spend a lot time making dinner. H and I do share the load of meals so it's not all on me but I kinda don't want any of it on me LOL
Take an hour or so, work together, and pull everything out and write it all down. We do that every so often. You'd be amazed what's lurking in there, that can be used.
Oh I know HOW to make it happen I just don't WANT to make it happen haha
It is beautiful out right now and I don't want to be stuck inside working! It's tempting to just take today off and work tomorrow when it's supposed to be rainy and cold. It's actually supposed to rain for the next week straight, according to the forecast. We could use the rain but it makes being indoors on a beautiful day even less appealing.
I have no real plans this weekend, which I'm kind of excited about. I had originally thought I would do some yard work but I guess that will depend on the weather. We're leaving on vacation in 2 weeks so I don't want to plant much right now anyway, but I need to do stuff like buying dirt and laying some stone pavers in our front yard. I also saw some adorable things in a Tiktok about Ikea for outdoors so maybe if it's raining this weekend I should go there.
Also, I have to do a bunch of grading. The class I'm teaching ends on the 12th and I can't say I'm sorry about that. I haven't been asked yet if I want to teach again next year, which is good because I'm kind of uncertain. I like it in theory but having something to do on top of my full time job has just been kind of annoying this spring. If I could teach full time I think I'd love that, but it feels like it's just adding to the to-do list right now. I may not feel like that as much next year though so it's hard to turn it down!
dancingirl21, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! That sounds really scary. I'm glad it's "just" long COVID and not something more emergent, but also that's not that comforting if it means you'll have to keep dealing with random stuff.
It’s very scary what Covid has done. I feel like a shell of my previously normal, happy, healthy self. I’m hoping with time things get better. I keep thinking I’m getting better and then have another episode like this. I’ve joined a long Covid Facebook group and there are people who got Covid in 2020 and are still dealing with my symptoms and I just can’t even imagine.
Take an hour or so, work together, and pull everything out and write it all down. We do that every so often. You'd be amazed what's lurking in there, that can be used.
Oh I know HOW to make it happen I just don't WANT to make it happen haha
I think I'm going to just start going to the grocery each time I have time to cook dinner.
I know that sounds insane, but the amount of food I buy and then we don't have time to prepare so I throw it in the freezer.. and then we never eat... It's SO wasteful. Then I also take on the task of trying to use up what's in there and I hate it. Freezing and then using meat is one thing, anything other than that, if I'm being real with myself, we rarely ever eat once it hits the freezer.
I live close enough to Kroger to walk so running up there/stopping on the way home isn't a huge deal.
I don't wanna be working today- there's no school and DS had a dr appt this morning so I originally planned to take the day off to do something with them, then he decided to go to school care for the afternoon since they're doing a fun field trip and DD has some stuff this afternoon evening so I decided to just stick w/ telework. Seriously considering ditching work for the afternoon and doing some outside cleaning while it's nice out and catching up tomorrow like wildrice mentioned.
School volunteer stuff is being annoying- the pres for a particular booster group I got suckered into is just dug in on not doing something that I made a reasonable suggestion about. It's low stakes and I don't really care enough to keep pushing, but I am smug that others on the leadership team have chimed in agreeing with me. I'm just going to sit back at this point and see what the group says.
NOTHING on the calendar tomorrow for the first time in months and Sunday afternoon is pretty open, which means I should catch up on the house/yard. Boo.
I was at a work conference all week, and although fun and educational, I have SO much to deliver by the end of the month, I'm now panicky.
I think I've finally been able to sit with myself long enough to figure out why I'm so unsettled in my role and what it really comes down to is the fact that when I moved to this position, it was a promotion - more money, more title, all good things. But what's transpired is that my responsibilities are actually about 5 rungs below what I should be doing at this level, even lower than what I was handling in another department before the promotion. I had direct reports before, and now I have none, so I have exactly no one to delegate to and the amount of time sucking tasks that I do not enjoy nor do they require my level of experience that I have to do simply because there is no one else to do them consumes my work load. I want to be doing all the other high level things that, as a director, I should be doing. But there is exactly zero time for that.
What makes this even worse is my SVP level boss micromanages to the point where she pulls herself so deep into the weeds that she'll gladly sit next to me to do this stuff neither of us should be doing. So whenever I try and voice the need for delegation, SHE just takes it on and works 100 hours a week while no one is managing what our department should be prioritizing. It's all just fires and ping ponging prioritization with no one keeping an eye on the why behind any of it. It's insanity and I am mentally exhausted by it all.
Oh I know HOW to make it happen I just don't WANT to make it happen haha
I think I'm going to just start going to the grocery each time I have time to cook dinner.
I know that sounds insane, but the amount of food I buy and then we don't have time to prepare so I throw it in the freezer.. and then we never eat... It's SO wasteful. Then I also take on the task of trying to use up what's in there and I hate it. Freezing and then using meat is one thing, anything other than that, if I'm being real with myself, we rarely ever eat once it hits the freezer.
I live close enough to Kroger to walk so running up there/stopping on the way home isn't a huge deal.
I've considered this as well! We have a grocery store right in front of our neighborhood so it's actually feasible!
Well, here’s a fun fact, Lowe’s will haul away your old machine, for a price, but will not take it off the pedestal and see if your new machine will fit on the old pedestal. No one in the store mentioned that or even tried to sell me a pedestal. Is that not a thing anymore? I could have bought a completely different dryer for less money, but I was trying to match the pedestal I already had.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on May 3, 2024 11:19:39 GMT -5
Miss R has settled down some. I want to thank everyone for their hugs, suggestions, and check-ins. She's STILL not on board completely but yesterday she asked what her 'new' school would be if we moved. I think she wanted to check it out via SM. Progress. She also asked if I could get a refill on her meds she threw away in a fit of frustration.
Tuesday I did see the house w J and his son but not w R. I like the house. Even though we JUST moved into our new unit 2 months ago, the addition of 1000 sf, a yard for Miss Ellies, and a garage for storage is even to make me change my mind. Also it gets Miss R away from a friend crowd that is less than ideal (J, her therapist, and I are all on the same page). Smaller HS, smaller school district, more individual services ... how they'll deal w her being 4 grade levels behind is anyone's guess. For all I know they could request that she starts over at 9th again (fine w me bc w her July bday makes her one of the youngest).
This week has been LONG .... I'm glad its Friday. Tomorrow we have a charity breakfast to attend to kick off for the memorial golf tourney for Miss R's cousin who passed away 3-4y ago.
Post by penguingrrl on May 3, 2024 11:55:35 GMT -5
pinkdutchtulips I’m glad to hear Miss R is doing better! Sometimes a small school/district can be more nimble with services. Ours is very small and I’ve found they’re quicker to pay for a therapeutic day school because they don’t have enough need to justify in-house resources. My kid (E) just restarted at the therapeutic day school that discharged her last June for a higher level of care and now she was ready and is thriving. They’re doing a ton of individualized instruction to work on the gaps from 4 missed years and she even made her first new friend in over 5 years since starting. So that may be worth discussing/exploring as well.
Post by litskispeciality on May 3, 2024 12:23:45 GMT -5
lust2hart, woooooooow my jaw is on the floor. I guess I'm a little taken aback and/or disgusted at the level of lying. Also a little surprised HR or management or someone eventually didn't ask for some kind of documentation, but I guess if the person was still working not using say FMLA then it's somewhat honors system? Either way I hope you're all better off, but wow.
Post by starburst604 on May 3, 2024 12:24:02 GMT -5
When I had to fill out the 37 page financial statement for our divorce, I thought to myself that STBX's head was going to explode when he had to do his. He is pretty useless when it comes to that stuff and I've always handled everything when we've done mortgages and refinancing. Our attorneys are supposed to exchange our financials today, and guess who hasn't done their statement yet despite having had over a month to do it? Yesterday he was whining to me that he needed to do it and could I come home from work 30 minutes early so he could focus on it, and I said yes because I just want this done. I told him if there was info for joint stuff on there he needed, to let me know since I had already pulled it all up for mine. But then about 10 minutes before I was to leave work early, he texted that DD was over a neighbor's, he was heading out and would be home by dark. I was like huh? I thought you were doing your financial stuff. He said I am, I'm getting help with it. My bullshit alarm went right off. He was asking me to be home early so he could have the gf "help him" with the documents. Like she knows shit about our financials? I said I'd no longer be leaving work early and to never ask me to leave work or otherwise facilitate him seeing his gf ever again.
Just now, that man texts me a pic of the blank form, complaining that he still has to do it. I just cannot. He needs to find Jesus. Also, my offer of assistance from yesterday has been rescinded. Have fun, dickhead.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on May 3, 2024 12:29:44 GMT -5
I would be so scared to lie about something like that! If something ever really happened, I’d feel just awful. And knowing my luck, it’d probably happen!
lust2hart , woooooooow my jaw is on the floor. I guess I'm a little taken aback and/or disgusted at the level of lying. Also a little surprised HR or management or someone eventually didn't ask for some kind of documentation, but I guess if the person was still working not using say FMLA then it's somewhat honors system? Either way I hope you're all better off, but wow.
Yeah I don't know... The whole thing is weird. And I'll admit that I see missteps on my director's part, too, that kind of facilitated this entire situation being possible. But I guess Anna was offered FMLA but she refused it - obviously, since the entire thing was made up - but at the time, the reason she gave was because she was still going to be working remotely and would just take vacation time as needed. And she WAS still working, so I think my boss was kinda like, "Uhhh, I don't really know what to do about this..."
We had a whackadoo work here once who within the first month of work took a call at work from her sister who let her know their other sister died. All this crying and boo-hooing ensued when she took the call. We give 3 paid bereavement days for immediate family so she took those. A week or two later, her grandmother was dying and she was needing to go see her a lot, then she died and she thought she was entitled to 3 more paid days. We started to get suspicious and I took a look at her social media, which was all public. She posted a lot about the grandmother dying but there wasn't a peep about her sister, nor could we find any kind of obituary. She had even told us which funeral home was doing her "sister's" services and there was no such person having services there. We realized that she wanted to take the 3 paid days so she faked the sister's death but hadn't counted on her grandmother dying so soon after and things looking suspicious. Then she had Covid and used the 5 days that the state allotted back then, but then asked me a week later if she felt sick after her vaccine could she get more paid Covid time? Uh, no. This went on and on for months with her making all kinds of legal threats but basically never coming to work and leaving us with our hands tied. When she did come in, she'd sit and write me these looooooong emails about how she was being discriminated against and she would be suing us. We had to get legal advice who told us to basically starve her out, don't fire her, just let her keep calling in until she either became a no show or quit. Once she had finally used up every second of any PTO she had, she finally sent an email saying she was quitting. On her desk she had left this very ominous bible verse written on a sticky, along with a cardigan on her chair. We finally threw out the cardigan and months later she left me a voicemail that she wanted to come get it. Um, no.
starburst604, Can you delete your quote, please? (I didn't originally put PDQ in my OP but just went back in and added it.) Anyway, that's basically how this situation ended too. She was running out of leave and quit the day before she was scheduled to have a meeting with our director (to be fired).
I did well at my contacts appointment! Got them in on the second try and practiced successfully a few times. I really needed that win this week, lol. I'm excited to be able to wear cuter sunglasses this summer, and have more choices, as I don't really love the prescription ones that I have.
I'm glad it went well, but prepare yourself that taking them out is the hard part. Give yourself LOTS of time and take deep breaths. You can do it and it will quickly become second nature!
I would be so scared to lie about something like that! If something ever really happened, I’d feel just awful. And knowing my luck, it’d probably happen!
Without giving too much detail, I used to work with someone who took improper benefits from outside vendors, to the tune of millions of dollars over 20 years. Finally it was exposed and they paid back a fraction of it, although I heard they are on the IRS radar now. So there will be additional consequences.
Anyway, they were the most cool, calm, friendly, unflappable person I ever met. I do not have the personality to pull off a long con!
Post by litskispeciality on May 3, 2024 13:17:23 GMT -5
I worked with a gentleman who was enlisted in the Army. He would have mandatory training weekends where you might miss a weekday of work. He eventually left, rumor had it fired. Apparently, allegedly he was lying about some of his military time. I didn't hear if he was taking extra time/days, or time when he didn't have training weekends.
I had a horrible college roommate for a semester who eventually left the college. She claimed she was in a horrible car accident with details I won't share to avoid triggering folks. Anyway the stories just didn't add up, and her friends were like "yeah WTF dude"?
Finally PDQ PDQ
DH's work has a lot of active military in some form. His co-worker complains about having to get very difficult to obtain documentation "proving" they went to the required military training (on shift days), allegedly because another colleague may have lied about their time.
Honestly folks don't like about things that have receipts!
It is beautiful out right now and I don't want to be stuck inside working! It's tempting to just take today off and work tomorrow when it's supposed to be rainy and cold. It's actually supposed to rain for the next week straight, according to the forecast. We could use the rain but it makes being indoors on a beautiful day even less appealing.
I have no real plans this weekend, which I'm kind of excited about. I had originally thought I would do some yard work but I guess that will depend on the weather. We're leaving on vacation in 2 weeks so I don't want to plant much right now anyway, but I need to do stuff like buying dirt and laying some stone pavers in our front yard. I also saw some adorable things in a Tiktok about Ikea for outdoors so maybe if it's raining this weekend I should go there.
Also, I have to do a bunch of grading. The class I'm teaching ends on the 12th and I can't say I'm sorry about that. I haven't been asked yet if I want to teach again next year, which is good because I'm kind of uncertain. I like it in theory but having something to do on top of my full time job has just been kind of annoying this spring. If I could teach full time I think I'd love that, but it feels like it's just adding to the to-do list right now. I may not feel like that as much next year though so it's hard to turn it down!
It's really freaking annoying when the weekdays are GORGEOUS and the weekend is rainy. Such a waste!!
Post by emilyinchile on May 3, 2024 13:29:44 GMT -5
I am in a meeting that is outside my regular work hours* and 100000% could have been an email. The client is reading a presentation to us without adding any additional info. Help.
*Obviously I took time to do other things during the morning because I don't work for free.
Last night my daughter had her weekly horseback riding lesson. The owner told her that she was so impressed with her riding, her positive energy, and the bond she has with her horse, that she wants to take her to a national competition this fall. DD is the only person from the barn other than the owner who would go to the competition. She is completely over the moon. I wasn't there, but H said that he hasn't seen DD so genuinely excited about something, pretty much ever. I am so proud of her. (I also want to note that the horse DD rides is technically the owner's, but over the past year DD has formed such a strong bond with him that basically anyone with eyes can see that his heart is hers. The owner is actually choosing to take someone else's horse to this competition, to allow DD to show with her horse. I am so grateful for how supportive they are of DD)
My son is in Civil Air Patrol and had his weekly meeting last night. He is on the verge of a major milestone promotion, but has to pass a notoriously difficult test first. He failed the test 4 times, and finally passed last night on his 5th try. Only about 15% of kids ever reach this milestone. It also means that he promotes into a "staff" position with his squadron, which is a big deal. He was trying to play it cool, but he was clearly relieved and excited when I picked him up last night.
Both kids have had a rough time this school year for various reasons. They both needed their wins last night. My heart is so happy for them both.
I did well at my contacts appointment! Got them in on the second try and practiced successfully a few times. I really needed that win this week, lol. I'm excited to be able to wear cuter sunglasses this summer, and have more choices, as I don't really love the prescription ones that I have.
I'm glad it went well, but prepare yourself that taking them out is the hard part. Give yourself LOTS of time and take deep breaths. You can do it and it will quickly become second nature!
Thanks! I did OK with it in the office, but I'm sure it'll be different at home and I'm prepared for frustration lol. I have a very low frustration tolerance so I was just pleasantly surprised how well it went in the office today.