The day after Mother’s Day is just doing all the chores you skipped on the holiday because “it was your day.”
That's all I really have for now. Last FULL week of school for DS, including a book fair and a celebration day on Friday so some of it should be fun at least. Next week is just 3.5 days. He is getting kind of sick of baseball practices (not the games, but the practices are 1.5 hours which I feel is long for 7 year olds) and starting to whine about it, so I need to dig deep and try to be encouraging and motivating. Or bribe him, IDK.
I had the nicest weekend. We went to our camp. My husband and kids built me a handmade wood outdoor dining table, for us to use there. It was so sweet! We had so much fun watching movies, when it was raining. Sunday, my husband fixed French toast and bacon and then we went to a local amusement park. There was hardly anyone there and we walked on nearly every ride. The sun came out just as we arrived. It was a gorgeous day and we had so much fun. I think this is the nicest Mother's Day weekend I've ever had!
Had a low-key mother's day with DH OOT, pretty much just a normal Sunday, though the kids planned and made dinner and dessert. When they were figuring out what to make, DD asked how I do this seven days a week, every week, for forever. I know kid, that's why it's a gift for me when you do it!
Today is quiet in the office but the rest of the week is a lot of work stuff outside my normal routine, so of course I feel unsettled and weird about it and slept not great last night.
We are 4 weeks away from our Universal trip and I've done almost no planning. I love it so much! We're doing club level at a premier so other than a few dinner reservations, we just show up and enjoy!
We had a super busy weekend of two days of couch shopping (5 stores!). Ultimately ended up with a sectional from raymour & flanigan and it arrives on Wednesday!! I can’t wait!! Our current sectional is a hand me down from the previous owners and is super beat up. We customized one from this collection:
Post by maudefindlay on May 13, 2024 8:57:44 GMT -5
Yesterday was so nice. Breakfast in bed, DH got us take out for lunch, and then he made dinner and we had a delicious bumbleberry pie for dessert. We watched Unfrosted and I got spa gift certificates and scheduled 2 services online (massage and a facial).
It's our last full week of school here too. Next week is 2 days. Finalized plans for DS2's bday party this Saturday (actual bday is early June, but having it before school lets out bumps up our chances that most or all his closest friend group can come).
Need to plan out 3 small trips as our big trip is taken care of. (One is an amusement park a couple hours away, another is to visit friends, and want to go to Chicago for a 3 day trip.
Post by Patsy Baloney on May 13, 2024 8:59:31 GMT -5
Last week, our award ceremony for the GS Bronze/Silver/Gold awards was atrocious, and I, expert-level complainer mommy (according to my kid), sent feedback to our council about it.
Some examples: - presenter was unfamiliar with her presentation materials (like, I would not have guessed she worked for Girl Scouts if I didn’t know she was employed by them) - 20 minute late start - presenter celebrating how few kids were there during her presentation so the ceremony would be short (not a good look to celebrate the slow death of your org) - presenter couldn’t work a/v equipment to share a gold award recipient’s presentation video - just general informal fuckery on a formal, important day that embarrassed our scouts
The council CEO replied to me this morning with an apology and said she’d be in touch. Short of building a time machine, I realize there’s not much she can do for us. But I hate that she can’t build a time machine, lol.
One of my friends here, her mother used to work at Ina's store for years, so her family was really close to Ina & Jeffrey and they've been in a couple episodes of her show (just like milling around at her parties and such). So jealous of her lol.
Post by emilyinchile on May 13, 2024 9:05:31 GMT -5
Big adulting this week: L has two doctors appointments (check ups, thankfully), we need to get a new dryer before ours totally craps out and we would like to get a new TV because Netflix is no longer supported on ours. Which, what? Like, I get that app updates can get ahead of your hardware, but also...my TV works just fine to show things and connect to the internet, it's BS that it's become obsolete because of an app update! The nice thing is that those purchases will be "free" with wedding gift money, but we were supposed to get an email on Friday with a code for free deliveries, and of course it didn't come, and they haven't replied, so now I have to follow up. More adulting, yay.
Post by followyourarrow on May 13, 2024 9:10:25 GMT -5
I started packing last night and my bag is right at 40 lbs and I still have stuff I need to add. I'm trying to figure out what I can add to my backpack to reduce the weight so I don't have an overage charge.
I took FI's daughter to visit her mom yesterday, she made the plans with her mom a week in advance. She got there and the mom was headed out for the bar and said she guessed she could go with her. Drinking and bars make FI's daughter uncomfortable, particularly because the mom seems to have a drinking problem. FI's daughter text me and I made an up an excuse to pick her up early. FI's daughter also tried calling her mom about a problem on Saturday and the mom didn't answer, so she text and mom just replied, I'm busy. I just feel bad for her.
Post by emilyinchile on May 13, 2024 9:11:53 GMT -5
Oh, on the subject of people who have cookbooks, I put a Half Baked Harvest cookbook on our wedding registry just because I feel like I've seen a few recipes of hers that looked good. And man, turns out I can't stand her! The whole intro to the book is about "healthy" swaps, which is fine, but there's sooo much diet culture/"wellness" BS. Oh well, I hope the recipes are good - and if not at least the pictures are pretty?
Mothers Day was lovely. Met my mom and SIL with DD1 and niece for an outdoor tea service at a flower garden. Started out chilly and threatening rain but the sun eventually came out and was nice.
H left super early this morning for the flight to his conference, DD1 and I head out tomorrow to meet him. I'm WFH for most of the day, but currently I'm at a spa getting a mani/pedi as a belated MD gift to myself.
I'm a little worried about leaving the twins behind with my mom. She's perfectly capable and they love her, but this is the first time H and I will both be away at the same time! I'm so worried they'll get sick and not sleep or something.
I'm feeling pretty much all better except slight nasal congestion and fatigue. I think I'll probably test negative today, but I told work that my dr said they don't recommend bothering re-testing and to just follow the 5 days quarantine, 5 days of masking guidance and so could I just WFH again this week because I don't want to wear a mask in office all day especially while making Teams calls with a headset. He said that was fine.
I feel a tiny bit guilty, but not really because I was using one of my work from anywhere week benefits last week anyway so I feel like I missed out on the "wfh if you're sick" flexibility we have lol
The day after Mother’s Day is just doing all the chores you skipped on the holiday because “it was your day.”
Haha, I said this to DH this morning. I tried not to pile on too much b/c he did try w/the kids. I reran some of the dishwasher this morning b/c it was loaded poorly and things didn't come clean. The trash was in the recycling bin outside. And our cleaners were coming this morning so things just generally needed to be picked up and tidied. I think the latter is the invisible labor I do no one sees - going from room to room putting things back, away, upstairs, etc. All the little tidying as you go.
It's a lesson, we need to get the kids better at chores. We were doing better but the 5-month kitchen reno threw a wrench into things.
emilyinchile, I really hate how TVs have become computers with an integrated screen for that reason exactly. Instead of replacing the TV entirely, could you buy something like a Roku or Fire stick so you can continue streaming Netflix?
I signed up a few weeks ago to donate some leashes to a raffle at an upcoming dog event. Sat down this weekend to make the first one and realized I ordered the wrong length of paracord. So now I have a spare (short!) leash with no purpose and I have to spend more money and time to get this done. At least the event isn't until July...
On another travel related note, why is it when the cruise says the balcony cabin starts at $857, does the first passenger's total end up being closer to $2k?
simpsongal, for me it was a ton of tidying too, and picking up groceries since we didn't do it yesterday, only this time I had to put them all away myself because H is at work. And all the laundry we didn't do yesterday. Good times, lol!
My mom threw a temper tantrum on Saturday and it tempered my entire Mother's Day... which I shouldn't have even given it oxygen to bother me.. but it's still hard.
My mom's feelings are perfectly valid, but she has zero capacity to deal with them in a healthy way and instead, blows up and spills it all over myself and my sister and brother. It's been this way my entire life, I've recognized the pattern, I've done the work to no repeat it. Hell, I'm working with my ADHD 12 yo with emotional regulation right now and he has had more success of managing himself than I'm afraid she ever will.
At this point, it just makes me sad for her. I'm afraid she will never ever go to therapy to deal with this, she will always continue to see herself as a victim and will never take real ownership of the consequences of her choices. She'll just be mean and try to bully in whatever way that she can to get her way, which is extremely limited now. It's no surprise, she doesn't have anyone that's really close to her as a result. She's not always like this, I've done my best to invoke boundaries, I just wish it was different.
I now need to turn around and get on a plane with her in two weeks for a 10 day trip. So we're just going to pretend none of this happened. I wished her a Happy Mother's Day yesterday by text and had a nice day with my kiddos and step mother.
We found out on Saturday that DS got into the HS he tested in to. So he'll be starting a new school next year for 10th grade. (we missed the application deadline last year to start there, which I had extreme guilt over) I'm so happy, I could cry. I actually did tear up a bit when he opened his acceptance letter. He's excited too. Seems to have zero qualms about switching to a new school. He's so not like me in that way. Much more like H.
Mother's Day was kind of meh, but as to be expected. We planned to go to this new coffee shop in the neighborhood that I've been wanting to try. But the place didn't open till 10 and we we're going to my parents at 11:30 for lunch/brunch. So H just ran to Wegmans and grabbed some donuts and pastries. And got me tulips. We went to my parents, which was fine... but we ate late and everyone was full so we weren't hungry for dinner, which H planned to make. We all just ended up fending/snacking around 7:30 when finally hungry. H said he'll cook tonight. So I'll have a good dinner to look forward to, which is not the norm on Monday. It's my in office day, so Monday dinners are typically quick.
On another travel related note, why is it when the cruise says the balcony cabin starts at $857, does the first passenger's total end up being closer to $2k?
Starts at $857. Oh, you want to cruise during this specific week? $999. Oh, you want to be able to pick your cabin? $1050. You want to pick a cabin in a good part of the ship? $1400. Taxes? Port fees? $1800. lol
I've been looking at Alaska cruises for me and my mom and that's been my experience.
No Mother's Day here (my mom passed a few years ago, and I'm Not Mom by choice). I did something with a friend that she wanted to do for Mother's Day--away from her teenagers & DH! LOL! They were celebrating in the evening.
I'm excited about an in person presentation I get to go to Wed. for a women's technology group here.* I'm sure I'll be the only one with a mask on (see: Heart problems) like last time. Other than that it's a normal work week.
If you are in ATL and in tech, I can share women's technology group info. DM me.
Post by emilyinchile on May 13, 2024 9:39:27 GMT -5
deadwing we probably could, but we were thinking about upgrading it anyway, I'm mostly just annoyed that we now HAVE to do something. Netflix also doesn't work on my computer because it's similarly old, and I feel very crotchety about it all!
Oh, on the subject of people who have cookbooks, I put a Half Baked Harvest cookbook on our wedding registry just because I feel like I've seen a few recipes of hers that looked good. And man, turns out I can't stand her! The whole intro to the book is about "healthy" swaps, which is fine, but there's sooo much diet culture/"wellness" BS. Oh well, I hope the recipes are good - and if not at least the pictures are pretty?
I hate that! I bought one of the cookbooks by the author of Damn Delicious and while I do really like the recipes in it, I hate how many of them are phrased in a diet cultur-y way. She's not as bad as she could be about it (like the message is really pretty positive) and I DO like that they are largely healthful recipes - but they can be healthy without being tied to weight loss or guilt or any of that stuff. I still really like her, but was caught off guard by the book for sure.
Oh, on the subject of people who have cookbooks, I put a Half Baked Harvest cookbook on our wedding registry just because I feel like I've seen a few recipes of hers that looked good. And man, turns out I can't stand her! The whole intro to the book is about "healthy" swaps, which is fine, but there's sooo much diet culture/"wellness" BS. Oh well, I hope the recipes are good - and if not at least the pictures are pretty?
Omg I could talk about her for DAYS. I believe her to be mostly a fraud. She's amazing at food styling but I think she's selling lies.
It was a busy weekend, and now we just have 5 work days and leave for vacation on Friday night. I am sure this week will zip by!
I really don't do anything for mother's day since my mom doesn't live locally and I'm not a mom. But this weekend was full of grading papers, yardwork, going to a friend's house, and some other errands. As usual I didn't get as much done as I wanted to, but I think things are in ok shape for leaving town. The cleaners come today so like others here, I need to finish tidying up around here in between working.
I just signed my dog up for an 8 week obedience course at a local dog school. I hope it's not too basic for him - he's really pretty good with most things, just could use some refinement and more than anything I think needs some exposure to other dogs so that he doesn't bark his head off whenever he sees one. I had originally worked with a private trainer, but only had 1 session with her and she seems to rely too much on things like prong/vibration collars instead of positive reinforcement. My dog isn't difficult so I really don't feel like he needs that level of restriction in order to behave - he just needs to learn! I finally texted her this morning about getting a refund for the 2 lessons we paid for that we didn't use, and she is going to thankfully. I would not have been surprised if she just didn't respond, so I'm glad she was cool about it.
Post by wanderingback on May 13, 2024 9:52:09 GMT -5
Well good thing my divorced parents get along….
I’m getting an award this week, both of my parents are coming to the ceremony. My mom has been staying with us since last week. Well just yesterday my dad asked if he could sleep on our couch tonight :/ He said hotels are too expensive. I said dad, way to wait till the very last minute! He had actually texted my mom to ask me cause I had missed a call from him earlier in the day..
Yes we live in a 2 bedroom apartment. So I talked to my partner and we figured out it would be best to give my dad our bedroom, me and him will sleep on the pull out couch and then my mom and the baby are in the 2nd bedroom.
My partner is totally fine with it and it’s only 1 night and it’s not a huge deal but def gives some insight in to why my parents divorced lol. My mom has had her train tickets and plans to stay with us for about 2 months and my dad is just making plans yesterday for today….
Post by lavenderblue on May 13, 2024 9:54:35 GMT -5
My ex-MIL (my kids grandmother) freaked out on my DD this morning because my kids didn't do anything for her for Mothers Day. Um, excuse me? My daughter told her "you are not my mother, I spent the day celebrating my Mom". I'm proud of DD for standing up to her, but the audacity of that woman. Her own kids didn't even do anything for her, why is she yelling at my child?
sproctopus, I'm going to see her in October and I'm so freaking excited!
deadwing we probably could, but we were thinking about upgrading it anyway, I'm mostly just annoyed that we now HAVE to do something. Netflix also doesn't work on my computer because it's similarly old, and I feel very crotchety about it all!
I hear that. There was a show I wanted to watch on Apple TV+ a couple of years ago and the only device I could stream it on was my laptop. I do not want to watch TV on a laptop. I still haven't seen it even though I have newer devices now.
We are 4 weeks away from our Universal trip and I've done almost no planning. I love it so much! We're doing club level at a premier so other than a few dinner reservations, we just show up and enjoy!
Yes!!! Club level was so worth it for us, we had the best universal trip (portifino hotel), the kids still bring it up frequently. Enjoy 😀