Can I ask my H to change?

I could use some opinions/perspectives about this situation. I have been with my h for 3 years, married for 1. We are in our 30s. My h has always been a bit high on the worry/anxiety spectrum. He is an extreme planner and often finds the unexpected to be challenging for him. I have been aware of this since I first met him and it hasn't posed a big problem for us. I am more laid back and have an avoidant personality, so we tend to balance each other out.

However, he has been having some job stress lately and seems to get angry/overwhelmed so easily. When he is mad/frustrated/upset he slams things around (throws his wallet/phone down, slams items on the counter, throws things into the sink, punches doors/walls). Last night he told me that he has always had a tendency to deal with anger this way-he would bloody his knuckles a few times a month as a teen.

I HATE when he acts this way. To be clear: he never gets mad/frustrated/upset with me or anything I have done. He has never-not even once-in 3 years raised his voice to me, spoken disrespectfully to me or even made a snide/snippy comment. He never criticizes me, etc. These outbursts occur when he is mad at himself or frustrated with unexpected changes from outside forces.

Is this something I just need to learn to live with or do I have the right to ask him to make a real effort to make changes? I saw these outburst two or three times before we were married, but with the new stressors it has been like two to three times in the last few months. I am not afraid of him and he does not take his anger out on anyone around him. Even so, when it happens, I get tense and jittery and I hate feeling that way.

Do I need to stop making this about me? He is willing to go to counseling (which he needs for his anxiety), but sometimes I worry that I am overly critical of his behavior. Is this something I just need to accept as part of taking the bad with the good?

Sorry this is so long!