My DH just called me worthless

It's possible. She wrote that she asked for an apology though, which I read as "apologize please" or the like.

If you really must know, my exact words were "DH, you know I worked hard to take today off. That really hurt my feelings. I would appreciate it if you would apologize."

But whatever. Looks like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't.

It sounds like both you and your DH have a lot of resentment building up and could use a good clearing of the air.

I don't think it's unreasonable that you asked for an apology if he really hurt your feelings, and I think his response was not okay. But I also think it's really strange that you then threw out that you're leaving for the weekend. That seems really over-the-top for what appears to be a snippy little morning exchange. And if you do follow through on your threat, when you get back Sunday evening, not a darn thing is resolved and you're still in the same relationship you were when you left Friday afternoon. What good does that do?

ML is sounding really undercaffinated in this post...

I do think there is a bit of overreaction to be all "I'm leaving" - but I don't it matters that it was meant to be harmless. It actually doesn't sound like it was meant that way - but regardless, you should apologize when you hurt someone.

Hmmm. Thinking there must be more to this story. I'd be hurt too.

If this is a one time thing then I think you're projecting your past issues onto him and that's not fair (though I will say that if H called me worthless as a joke I would tell him that I don't find being called worthless funny and would appreciate if he didn't use that phrase again). If he regularly demeans you and this is the proverbial straw, well that's a different story.

My H isn't a very emotional person so if I had been called stupid and lazy growing up and then he called me lazy and I got upset, he would honestly never connect the two unless I spelled it out for him. If it happened once I would explain to him why it upsets me so much and then would expect that he would use another phrase to joke around. If he then did it regularly to annoy me, then I would be pissed.

If this is not a normal occurrence then your response does seem over the top, and if you have a lot of unresolved issues from your childhood it couldn't hurt to talk to someone. I'm sure everyone says dumb shit from time to time (I know I've pissed H off and he's done the same) but threatening to leave is a pretty big deal.

I really get the feeling that this is a) not a joke and b) something that happens on the regular in her marriage.

If it was just a joke, then why not fucking apologize?

I do not understand most of this thread.

you must be married to my ex fiancé, which is why i wised up and DIDN'T end up marrying him.
sorry your h is a douche.