Post by dr.girlfriend on Nov 15, 2012 19:58:14 GMT -5
Not that anyone really asked, but our book club has been going great since 2004, and so I'll share what we do.
1. It is bimonthly.
This I think is the only reason it is still going. No one has time to get and read a book every month and if you know the book club is happening again in 4 weeks you're less motivated to make it this week.
2. It is co-ed
We have a few individuals who are single and a few couples of which only one of the couple is in the book club, but usually both spouses are in the club. I think that helps, everyone enjoys seeing each other and you can encourage each other to finish the book.
3. It has parameters for the date
If we know that it's always going to be on a Tuesday or Thursday and on the third or fourth week of the month, we can start planning accordingly. When we meet in December we already know if we have any trips, etc. planned in February and can let the host know.
4. We rotate hosts, and the whomever is hosting picks the book
Everyone gets a chance to host and everyone gets a chance to pick.
5. It is pretty small.
I think there are 12 of us. Before we invite someone new in we have to check with the group, and we really only invite new people when/if old people drop out (which has only happened a few times, one couple moved away and one other person stopped coming when she made partner at her law firm).
6. It is potluck
The host provides pizza or some other vegetarian entree, everyone else brings something else (appetizer, salad, dessert, etc.)
I love my book club friends!
Here are some of our books, we've actually done a lot more since the list ends, we haven't updated for awhile:
1. The Plot Against America, Philip Roth 2. A Conspiracy of Paper, David Liss 3. Middlesex, Jeffrey Eugenides 4. Love Medicine, by Louise Erdrich 5. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, Mark Haddon 6. Memoir from Antproof Case Mark Helprin 7. The Time Traveler's Wife, Audrey Niffenegger 8. Down and Out in the Magic Kingdom, Cory Doctorow 9. Fortress of Solitude, Johnathan Lethem 10. Devil in the White City, Erik Larson 11. Confederacy of Dunces, John Kennedy Toole 12. Mary and O'Neil, Justin Cronin 13. White Teeth, Zadie Smith 14. Perfume: The Story of a Murder, Patrick Suskind 15. Watership Down, Richard Adams 16. Saturday, Ian Mcewan 17. For Whom the Bell Tolls, Ernest Hemingway 18. Water for Elephants: A Novel 19. In the Company of the Courtesan 20. The Thirteenth Tale 21. Breakfast of Champions 22. Yiddish Policeman's Union, Michael Chabon 23. The Road 24. Run 25. Interpreter of Maladies 26. Thee Junes 27. The Girl with the Dragon Tatoo 28. Empire Falls 29. The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao 30. The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon 31. Let the Great World Spin, Colum McCann 32. Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet, Jamie Ford 33. The Echo Maker, Richard Powers 34. The Virgin Suicides, Jeffrey Eugenides 35. Pride and Prejudice and Zombies, Seth Grahame-Smith
My mom has been in a functioning book club for 10 years. They meet on the third Thursday of every month and every October go away for a weekend together. They have an elaborate system for picking books but do their list one year at a time.
I am sort of jealous! I love the structure of doing something like this.
CJ and I used to be in a book club, it devolved into wine club
This is my book club too but i don't mind. We still pick books (usually 5 or 6 at a time) and people read them when they can, but no one would ever skip book club because they haven't read the book! I love the excuse to get together with a group of friends. There's a core group of about ten of us, we're free to invite others that we think would be a good match whenever.
We rotate who hosts and that person provides the wine. Everyone else brings an appetizer or dessert. You can really tell what's going around on Pinterest We try and meet about once a month.
Do you end up actually talking about the book most of the time or does it turn into just a social event?
I'm worried I'm not intellectual enough for a book club, although I like the idea of the social part of it. Do you have to be smart to be in the club? (ETA - I meant to be a part of *your* club is that one of the parameters)
We usually socialize while people are arriving and while we eat, and then talk about the book for about an hour, and then the conversation wanders to other things until people decide to go home.
I don't think you have to be smart or do research or anything. One of the people (the guy who moved) was actually an English teacher, and he actually seemed to have less to say than other people. Usually we start out with what we liked, what we didn't like, any parts that struck us in particular, and then talking about whatever the book brings up. I consider myself pretty smart, but I usually end up saying stupid stuff like, "The main character really bugged me. He was just really whiny" and no one seems to mind. ;-)
This is my book club too but i don't mind. We still pick books (usually 5 or 6 at a time) and people read them when they can, but no one would ever skip book club because they haven't read the book!
Yeah, I think that's key. Once you're all friends you want to come even if you haven't read the book.
Were book clubs discussed today or is this a random topic? Just curious, I haven't been online today.
My book club has been going really strong for maybe 3 years now? It is every month and women only, but our other parameters are the same. Not everyone feels obligated to show up every month, which I think helps. We are mostly women in our 30s, from early to late, and we are in all stages of life--single, newlywed, married for a while, married with kids--so it's understood that everyone misses book club due to work, sick kid, having a newborn, whatever from time to time. It is also not a big deal to show up if you haven't read the book.
Were book clubs discussed today or is this a random topic? Just curious, I haven't been online today.
The "Some Trick is Trying to Take Over My Meetup Group" thread is about book club, and someone posted in there asking the OP for their format. I was going to post in that thread, but realized it would probably be too buried there to benefit anyone else.
That sounds a lot like mine...we meet monthly technically but probably only 9 times a year (like we didn't meet in October.). I love it. I go whether or not I read the book. We have been reading super depressing books lately. It makes me not want to read them lol.
Were book clubs discussed today or is this a random topic? Just curious, I haven't been online today.
The "Some Trick is Trying to Take Over My Meetup Group" thread is about book club, and someone posted in there asking the OP for their format. I was going to post in that thread, but realized it would probably be too buried there to benefit anyone else.
Aha, thanks! Just curious if I missed a super fun book club discussion day.
Thanks for your book list, btw--haven't read several of them and going to look them up on Goodreads this weekend. I am always looking for something new to read.
Ours is successful and very similar to yours. The only difference is that 1) it's monthly and 4) hosts do rotate BUT we all vote on the book each month. We also foray into board games after some discussions or watch a movie version of the book. Every now and then, we have a movie outing month and no book.
We have a list of book ideas that gets updated a couple times a year; any book that gets at least a couple votes gets added to the next month's poll.
A couple dozen people from the group are now friends who sometimes host or get together for other events.
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. - G. K. Chesterton
My bookclub is dismantling come Feb and I'm sad about it. At the same time people are way too serious about it (I feel shamed if I don't read the book), and it's sort of not working anymore. I need to find a new one.
My book club is only 4 women and we mostly just eat and drink. We meet about bimonthly and typically, at least one of us hasn't read the book. We're all friends from college and really just use the evening to catch up and bitch about SOs. We discuss the book for about 30 minutes and spend the other 3.5 hours on other topics.