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hobs209
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More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 12:19:42 GMT -5

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Post by hobs209 on Jul 26, 2012 12:19:42 GMT -5

Inspired by JM's question to MCC about vanilla sex. How open are you all with feedback, particularly if something isn't quite up to par? What about receiving feedback?

Personally, I'm all about it. I don't generally do ONS so if I'm anticipating having sex with you more than once, I want it to be good. Likewise, I want to know if I could do something different or better. My ex did not like getting feedback at all and that was so frustrating. Luckily W (the physicist) is the complete opposite.

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Bernadine Elder Posts: 14,178 Likes: 19,439	More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 12:22:56 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Bernadine on Jul 26, 2012 12:22:56 GMT -5 I really like getting feedback, but I have lots and lots of trouble giving it. xh was really not at all receptive.
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More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 12:22:57 GMT -5

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Post by jade28 on Jul 26, 2012 12:22:57 GMT -5

I want them to show me what they like and how to do anything that turns them on. Everyone is different so I appreciate specific feedback and being led a bit. I think this is a perfect way to provide feedback without being negative. I wouldn't like someone to tell me straight up what I am doing wrong or that I am bad but rather focus on the positives and show me how to do things right.

I will definitely give a guy feedback on what I like and they always seem to pick up on it fast. As such, never felt the need to give bad feedback.

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ravenb1111 Guest	More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 12:41:16 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Back to Top Post by ravenb1111 on Jul 26, 2012 12:41:16 GMT -5 I'm way more open with my boyfriend now and have no problem telling him what I like. Where with the ex I wasn't. I don't want vanilla sex! (all the time)
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More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 13:11:30 GMT -5

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Post by roselis on Jul 26, 2012 13:11:30 GMT -5

As long as its given constructively, I'm fine with receiving. No"You are bad at this." But more "Ok, that didn't feel so great. Maybe try this..."

As far as giving, I try to tell them what I really liked and guide them if I don't like it.

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missbetty1
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More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 13:20:32 GMT -5

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Post by missbetty1 on Jul 26, 2012 13:20:32 GMT -5

I'm all for giving feedback a girls gotta have her O. I also appreciate receiving feedback as well...although I don't always believe what I hear...TMI coming....my ex said I gave the best BJs he's ever had...I didn't really believe it because I didn't feel as though I did anything that "different". Last night I gave Mars one for the first time and he said it was beyond amazing and now he needs to know my where about are at all times as well as all my friends phone numbers so that he can always track me...never heard that line before so I guess I'm pretty good at them, not sure that's something to be proud of though

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gozf Elder Posts: 15,006 Likes: 14,768	More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 13:23:57 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by gozf on Jul 26, 2012 13:23:57 GMT -5 Feedback is hugely important. Your sex is only as good as your communication.
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missbetty1
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More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 26, 2012 14:18:23 GMT -5

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Post by missbetty1 on Jul 26, 2012 14:18:23 GMT -5

Jul 26, 2012 14:16:01 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

My biggest sex pet peeve is when I give feedback at the time "softer, slower, here, there, etc" and they do it for a minute and then go back to what they were doing before. Seriously, I told you what I like, my body responded accordingly, why won't you keep doing it?! Grrr!

Jul 26, 2012 13:20:32 GMT -5 @missbetty1 said:

I'm all for giving feedback a girls gotta have her O. I also appreciate receiving feedback as well...although I don't always believe what I hear...TMI coming....my ex said I gave the best BJs he's ever had...I didn't really believe it because I didn't feel as though I did anything that "different". Last night I gave Mars one for the first time and he said it was beyond amazing and now he needs to know my where about are at all times as well as all my friends phone numbers so that he can always track me...never heard that line before so I guess I'm pretty good at them, not sure that's something to be proud of though

This is troublesome. I hope he was kidding around.

Yes he was joking....we kid around and joke alot.

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leahmel
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More sex talk! Giving/receiving feedback Jul 29, 2012 22:37:41 GMT -5

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Post by leahmel on Jul 29, 2012 22:37:41 GMT -5

The thing that is great about my current guy is that we communicate SO well about everything, including sex. I mean, down to the details of everything we like and don't like. It's to the point now where neither of us even flinches if we mention something about our sex life. We literally have a discussion afterwards. "When you did xyz, that was awesome!! ABC, not my favorite though, maybe less of that next time" lol It is so freeing!

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Post by hobs209 on Jul 26, 2012 12:19:42 GMT -5

Post by Bernadine on Jul 26, 2012 12:22:56 GMT -5

Post by jade28 on Jul 26, 2012 12:22:57 GMT -5

Post by ravenb1111 on Jul 26, 2012 12:41:16 GMT -5

Post by roselis on Jul 26, 2012 13:11:30 GMT -5

Post by missbetty1 on Jul 26, 2012 13:20:32 GMT -5

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Post by missbetty1 on Jul 26, 2012 14:18:23 GMT -5

Post by leahmel on Jul 29, 2012 22:37:41 GMT -5