Today I was out and about with baby and was a little hungry. I had no cash but remembered I had 2 sticks from prior corn dogs each worth a free corn dog at weinerschnitzel (sp?) that I had put in the tray inside my center console. Went to grab them and they aren't there. DH is this only other person who drives my car and I know he has thrown them away. I was so irritated. I had left the first one on the kitchen counter a couple weeks back and he tried to throw it out. I told him not to and put it in my purse, he gave me a hard time about not being able to afford the $0.99 for a corn dog, blah blah. I told him it wasn't about that but I had received the stick with the free one and why not use it? It's like using a coupon at the grocery store.
He knew exactly what these were when he tossed them. I texted to ask if he moved them and he calls me back asking "what now". So I asked him about it. His first response was, "Are you serious about this right now?". I told him what they were that I had purposely put them there and went to get them and they are gone and yes I was serious. He thought about playing dumb, started with "um...." then said he cleaned out some trash and must have thrown them out. Then he's the victim with, "just add this to the list of things to be mad at me about" wth? I don't have a list and don't give me that guilt crap. This just irks me b/c he knows they weren't trash. I don't keep random trash in my car and surely not set purposely in the tray in the center console.
This is so him. His stuff is treasure, everyone else's is crap. It pisses me off b/c he is like this with everything, if it's not his, just toss it. Left over food, etc. I have to specifically tell him not to throw out my left overs so that I can save them for lunch the next day. He kills me!
The other day he asks me about a bag of returns in my car and what I'm doing with them...none of your damn business! I put the bag in my car so it isn't sitting in the house where you will throw it away so don't worry about what's in my car.
I know its a couple of corn dogs, but seriously...don't throw my shit away! Vent over.
tossing something you need is annoying, but the way he tried to turn it on you ("what now?" / "just add this to the list of things to be mad at me about!") makes him sound like a bratty twelve-year-old.
Post by marchmom06 on Jun 12, 2012 17:42:26 GMT -5
No offense, but if my DH left corn dog sticks (? is that right?) in our shared vehicle, I'd be throwing those away. Maybe not if he specifically asked me to keep them, but . . . this doesn't seem like a hill you want to die on.
lol. they are coupons for free corn dogs. she went to use them but he had thrown them away-after she had asked him not to. he told her she could pay the $0.99 for the dogs and apparently tossed them.
when she confronted him about it, he told her this was one more thing she could be mad at him for.
I don't think this is really just about corn dog sticks. How old is your baby? It sounds like you need some combination of sleep/sex/therapy/time alone with your husband, which isn't surprising if you have a young infant. Do what you need to to get things back on track with your DH. Harping on his stick disposal practices isn't going to help.
Her H threw away sticks from corn dogs that she left in the car.
Which is what I would do too if they were just hanging around. They're garbage and would need some sort of bag or labeling for me to not toss them.
That's not the point, though. She has specifically told him not to throw them away before and he purposely did it because he thinks it's ridiculous to save them.
OP- I would collect your thoughts about bigger issues that are bothering you and address them your DH, because obviously him throwing out your stuff is not OK with you.
Post by shopgirl07 on Jun 12, 2012 18:24:51 GMT -5
I guess I don't understand why you were out without your wallet? Unless you were just taking a stroll and got hungry but it seems you were driving so that's not it.
I'm sorry but... pick your battles. Is this really one you want to pick, or is this just a catalyst to other stuff that's been bugging you? I mean, his replies infer that it's not a solitary event...
I'm sorry but... pick your battles. Is this really one you want to pick, or is this just a catalyst to other stuff that's been bugging you? I mean, his replies infer that it's not a solitary event...
This. Seems like a molehill being made into a mountain here.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Jun 12, 2012 19:04:19 GMT -5
That would irritate the crap out of me.
But also, I do it to DH all the time. He is a slob and leaves bits and pieces of crap in his wake. If I never threw that shit away, we would be up to our eyeballs.
So I guess my overall opinion depends on whether you are a slob.
I think I'm just grossed out by dirty sticks lying around.
Sorry, dvlish.
This is where I am too. No matter how many times he told me not to, I'd probably see them, say 'yuck!' and toss them. Then only remember that I wasn't supposed to when asked.
Lol, thanks ladies. FWIW we don't share a car, its my car. He has his own...yes this is just an example of him throwing out stuff he doesnt think is important and it irks me. Correct with a 3 mo old I am not getting much sleep but he is getting plenty of sex so its not that:) This is his personality in general. I ask him specifically not to throw something out and he does it anyways...fine, toss it but then own that shit! Don't try and deny it or play dumb:)
Her H threw away sticks from corn dogs that she left in the car.
Which is what I would do too if they were just hanging around. They're garbage and would need some sort of bag or labeling for me to not toss them.
That's not the point, though. She has specifically told him not to throw them away before and he purposely did it because he thinks it's ridiculous to save them.
Are we talking about the slimy Popsicle sticks that are left behind when you eat a corn dog? The ones that always have bits of gummy, spit-moistened bits of the breading left behind when you're done? Because - yeah, that's trash and I agree with the DH that it's ridiculous/unsanitary to keep them hanging out on your car's console. Yuck.
OP, I always keep a $5 in my glove compartment - you never know when you'll need to buy something or get some gas and you don't have a CC or the machine's not working.
If someone texted me at work to ask me about corn dog coupons I would be all WTF too.
omg yes. I missed this particular facet of the story on my first read. dvlish, I give you a pass this time because new baby / sleep-deprivation etc., but you are *way* overreacting about this.
But I think the central thesis of her argument is that DH knew they were not just leftover corn dog sticks, but rather corn dog coupons. And he would rather her pay for corn dogs than have the sticks lying around.
Once when I was walking down a Philadelphia alley (to help with context we used to call it "pee alley" because it's where we walked our dogs) I saw a dime on the ground, and as soon as I saw it DH was like, "I will pay you $50 to NOT pick that up." lol. He knows me.