i am SO not chinese (very long)

i told my mom "NO". and proceeded to kick her out of the house.

ETA: short version: my parents are being ridculously unfair between my brother and i, and are basically giving him a $3k gift, just because he is a boy, and i am not.

long version:

i don't know if my mom and i have ever fought like this before. i've mentioned before about how things are completely unfair between the way my brother and i are treated. well, today iced the cake. so, in chinese culture, we always have a "welcome baby" party....where we invite people to meet the baby for the first time...usually when the baby is one month old.

my brother is coming into town next month, and he is going to have his party...my parents asked to borrow money for it, bc my brother doesn't have enough money..and my brother would be able to pay it right back, after he collected all the gifts/money that people give him for the party.

i said okay, but i'm loaning the money to my brother, because i'm tired of my brother thinking my parents have money, and taking advantage of them. if i lend my parents the money, to lend to my brother, he will continue to think my parents have money.

today my mom tells me that i can't do that, because my dad offered to pay for the party.....i said that's not fair, because i paid for my own/bjl's party...and my parents have always preached about being "fair" to the kids.

my mom said, "well your dad's inviting a lot of his friends".....umm..he invited a lot of his friends to my party, too. and it's not like his friends don't give gifts enough to "pay back" their seat.

then she said "well your brother doesn't have very much money....it's not like i was *given* my money..i worked for it, too. and it's not my fault my brother had the option of going to college paid for by my parents and he chose not to. my brother chose to make irresponsible decisions with his money, like buy designer clothing, and new xboxes just because.

she said "your dad already offered to pay"...and i reminded her that it's just not fair...and i wanted her to tell me that it wasn't fair, but she refused to...she said "you know, things aren't' fair between me and my brothers, too". and i told her that when i was younger, she told me that was exactly the case..that's why they told me things would be fair between my brother and i. so i told her that when i was younger, she said she wanted to move to america, so things could be fair....she said "my brothers and i lived in america, and things still weren't fair"....i asked her how that's "fair" at all to me..and she said "well your baby's last name is XX, his baby's last name is XX".......?? and she said "things are different after you get married.."

so i said..fine..it's not fair..but tell me if this is RIGHT. and she refused to answer.....

i told her i was going to take bjl to MIL's house..and she asked "are you kicking me out?" and i said no..you're welcome to stay...but i'm taking her to MIL's. so she got up and left...

she sat in my driveway the whole time...when i was ready to leave 30 mins later, she was still in the driveway crying...so i knocked on her door, she didn't look at me...knocked again..didn't look at me...knocked again..didn't look at me.. so i put bjl in the car, and then knocked again...she still didn't look at me. so i left.

you guys know how close i am with my mom, so this is a pretty big deal. worst part is now i have to sit through a full day of work and pretend everything is just fine.