I would setup a conference call. Tred lightly though. Have it write down reasons for a larger increase, and have a timeline on how he wishes to get the larger raise. Unfortunately it might not work in your favor, last 5 years I got less then 3% raise...so basic merit I was lucky. Just keep at it. "How can I get to this Paygrade, and discuss timeline.." etc. I would go from there. Managers have heard it all, I have discussed leaving and my managers have said, no one is forcing you to stay..so if he is going to go that avenue, you need to be willing to walk or eventually be put on that "laid off" list that most companies do have...
Start the meeting off as positive, don't say this is not correct for what I am doing, because a business point of view they can replace you for another cheaper employee in a second. Stick with timelines and how we can get to X goal, or some how meet in the middle, every 6 months with a new plan.
I disagree with pretty much all of this. You need to read "Women Don't Ask".
While OP's H does need to be prepared to find another job (we all do, at any time), it is freaking HARD to find GOOD employees so a smart boss lets the not-so-great workers walk & tries like hell to keep the good ones happy. Yes, everybody is replaceable, but it is not cheap to do it, so from a business point of view it does not make sense to replace everyone all the time for lower-paid people. Good employees are worth their weight in gold & I know we gladly pay a little bit more to keep the good ones around.
OP - Is your DH's boss/company smart? How is your DH's compensation compared to the industry average for his role & skills? That is your starting point. Adjust down or up based on his extra experience & skills or lack thereof. "Industry average is $x, and I also have xyz skills that many people in my role do not possess. I think a salary of $n is fair for this new role, given my skills & the responsibility involved."
I don't see the need for timelines. He's doing the work now? Get compensated now.
I'd do this initial ask in person if at all possible & have the follow up conversations by phone. Next time, he needs to be prepared with this information BEFORE going into his review. He needs to always know what the next step in his career will likely be & the comp for that role.
As for the 'tread lightly advice'? Meh. I'm not telling him to be a bull in a china shop, but if he is a good employee he needs to know his worth & be confident.
I've read it. Doesn't work where I am. I have found that most say NO right off bat, and many times if you suggest lets discuss timelines, can we discuss X in 6 months and revaulate tend to work better, then over time can get a better raise.
I like the kink and am pretty submissive in bed. I like it rough with scratching, biting and hair pulling. I have a nice assortment of toys too. BF used to be in a BDSM relationship that ended badly so it's taken him some time to get comfortable exploring the rougher stuff with me. We're having lots of fun now though!
Google spoilers if you want to read the trainwreck that Roth wrote. Imagine your own ending OR find a willing third grader to write an ending. The third graders ending would likely be just as good if not better.
Pony farm is awesome! We have a lot of the playmobil country. If you can't find it at a good price, a local store carries all the playmobil stuff and I may even have a coupon and could pick it up for you.
You fetch a pail of water from the creek, heat it over the fire you started an hour ago from wood you chopped last fall, and scrub with a knotted piece of pine and homemade soap. Hang it to dry over the fire on a clothesline. Be careful that its not too close to the flames, wouldn't want it to catch fire and then you would be out $40 and you would have period shame pants.
Hemp soap or goat milk soap? Because I have access to both.
I think lye is the gold standard. Be sure to rinse well.
I didn't get the last one. I hope I get this one. I shop there enough. I need to stock up on a few things and I there are no exclusions, I really want to get the naked 3
when you go make sure your mailing address with your rewards card is correct, that's how they send them out. my sis had to change hers because they kepy going to my mom's house and she'd throw them out, lol
It is. I get all their other coupons with my membership # and rewards points.
Yeah, I don't think I could do a dom/sub relationship as I've been with controlling men and I can't see myself being comfortable to give up my power like that. I'm very set on being an equal. So add me to the "in the bedroom" list!
Yea, I enjoy having control too much. Part of the reason I enjoy being a sub. If you think about it, the sub has the power. Use the safe word and everything stops.