Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 18, 2014 2:33:33 GMT -5
I accepted them once they graduated and put them in a group that had limited access to my FB. I've moved a couple of them to less limited access because they are now truly adults and they visit with me when they return to London to visit parents.
Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 18, 2014 2:28:37 GMT -5
Kissing is VERY important, though even more important when it's horrible. I gave up a very lovely multi-millionaire due to his horrible kissing abilities. I just couldn't imagine a life of kissing that bad (plus I'm guessing other things might not work as well).
Post by sunshineluv on Sept 18, 2014 2:14:07 GMT -5
We got new floors when Annabelle was born, while I was in the hospital! (Flooding) anyway, we went with a med tone engineered hardwood. I wanted darker, but picked the medium one so dust wouldn't show up as much and for resale. I love my new floors.
Post by Mrs.Rad888 on Sept 18, 2014 2:13:40 GMT -5
DH and I went to a marriage counselor earlier this year. We had some issues to work through, but the biggest problem is that neither of us are any good at resolving conflict. DH was ready to throw in the towel, so I went in 100%. I didn't feel DH was totally in, but I could understand his feeling guarded at that point. I found him by asking a friend who had gone through a problem in her marriage not too long ago. She had nothing but good things to say about him. As far as insurance, DH and I have Tricare, and all we need is a referral from our PCM, and we need to make sure they accept our insurance. To me, the sex of our counselor didn't matter, as long as we both felt comfortable with him. We had a previous counselor that we didn't really click with who was also a male. I found it very easy to be open and honest with the counselor, because it was my marriage on the line. Also, because he accepted that both of us played a role in affecting our marriage.
I believe our counselor has a MSW, or a Masters of something. My only concern was that he had gone to a school of Theology for his degree, and I didn't want our counseling to be faith-based. That's fine for those who want it, we didn't. For the record, the counseling was completely secular.
Just remember that not every person is going to click with every counselor. If you end up at another one that you don't feel is working for you, keep looking. It's important that you feel comfortable with whoever you choose.
Post by sunshineluv on Sept 18, 2014 2:09:13 GMT -5
This is the first night all week my kids are sleeping well. But I have been awake for a couple of hours. I am getting Henry's cold. My throat hurts and is keeping me awake. I really hope I feel better this weekend. DH and I Have a kids free getaway planned.
what made you realize you needed professional help? I've been in and out of therapy since I was a teenager. For me I always know that it's time to go back when my depression and anxiety start taking over my daily life or when I start physically hurting myself again. Typically it starts out with feeling worthless and having crying episodes and then it spirals down from there pretty quickly to "my life sucks and there's no hope for me to ever be happy again so what's the point".
how did you find your person? The one I have now I found via word of mouth. She came recommended by a friend that takes her daughter to see her. My last one I found through EAP.
Man or woman, did it matter to you? Your age, younger, older? Older woman. It doesn't really matter to me. I've been to both older and younger men and women. I'll go to any of them as long as they are a good fit for me.
How easy do you find it is to be honest with this person? It takes me awhile to open up and be honest but that's because I've been hospitalized before when I got caught cutting by my close friend. It was a traumatizing experience for me and most of the time unless the counselor or psychiatrist has experience with self injury then they have a tendency to freak out, claim you are a danger to yourself, and stick you back in the hospital. So it's important to me that they understand my problem and listen to me carefully. Until I feel like I can talk to them without them freaking out about my safety I'm not very open.
What do you pay pet visit? Is any of it covered by insurance? $75/ 45 minutes. I have insurance coverage through kaiser but here it's very difficult to get an appt with a therapist and typically only on a monthly basis. I know I need weekly therapy so I pay OOP.
What is your counselor's credentials? I see an LPC.
the part that i don't get about Scottish independence is that they want to retain the pound as their currency and QE2 as their monarch (i realize that Canada and Australia also recognize QE2 as their Sovereign even though they are for all intents and purposes independent of the UK)
it should be interesting to see how all of this plays out since the UK stores their nuclear weapons in Scotland .. and well the Scottish aren't so crazy about having them there.
don't get me wrong, i'm all for Scotch independence, hell if us colonies could break from England, anyone can
Won't happen regarding the pound. If they separate, they will have about a year to either join the EU & take on the Euro or they will have to get another currency. They can't pull out of the UK and expect to still have all the "perks".
Have you had white coat syndrome at all in the past? I have it and have had to do a lot of explaining/do a bit of meditating and visualization before and while getting my BP checked. If I wasn't already aware of it I would have the red flag on me as well - my BP is 140/90 if I am not relaxed and doing breathing exercises at the doc office.
We usually check it once at the beginning of the appointment and then again later. First is usually around 140/90, second is 120/70.
Post by Mrs.Rad888 on Sept 18, 2014 1:57:27 GMT -5
To me, kissing is foreplay, so if a guy were a bad kisser, I don't know that I'd ever get hot enough to want to have sex with him. At the risk of sounding shallow, if the sex isn't mind-blowing, there is very little chance of a long-term future for us.
Many years ago, I had a kind of shallow BF. I got a cut on my gums, from DS sticking his fingers in my mouth (he had just discovered my teeth). The cut took a while to heal, since gums stay wet, and it didn't look very good. This BF decided that the risk of me having a recurrent HSV-I infection that I could pass to him was too big, and he stopped kissing me. Well, to me, kissing is foreplay, and without that there's not going to be any action. I had no problem breaking up with him when we transferred to different duty stations.
I don't have kids yet, but my gut is no, simply because that's how I grew up. Also, kids are only in school 180 days a year, right? Why take them out for a week of that when there are so many other weeks where they're off? I know there are camps and sports, but I'd rather they miss a week of little league than school.
because thousands of dollars in savings? Because less people? Becsuse weather? Because people don't plan big life events around your kids' school schedule? Because some opportunities only come up during the school year? I get that some parents are against it for any reason but it's not hard to imagine why it happens.
Post by gibbinator on Sept 18, 2014 1:43:19 GMT -5
I'm assuming the posting is near Halifax if you're interested in that one since the Iwk is the only children's hospital.
NS is great. Beautiful land, mild (for Canada) winters, friendly people not a lot to do outside the city if you're city loving people though. But rural ns has tons of outdoor fun. You're never more than 50km from the ocean and unless you're posted to Yarmouth or Cape Breton, you can pretty much do a day trip to anywhere in the province.
Eta: and feel free to pm me for info if you end up posted here. I'm on the app though so tag me in a post so I get the notification. The Iwk is fantastic. I had to take ds1 there for surgery and it was just about as positive an experience as is possible in hospital.