I'm scared to get my kid...

[georgeharrison]

Seriously, it has come to this. Now, I am the first to admit that Tman's behavior affects me to an unreasonable degree, and him getting in trouble is worse to me than me getting in trouble (for what, I don't know). Anyway, I am overcome with nerves. I have been having nervous #2 all day! I just really need him to have a good day. REALLY. And I'm kinda afraid of his teacher today - not OF her necessarily, but of what she might have to say. I feel like I'm gonna puke - getting my kid from school. Who has some xanax for me?

[joenali]

Hey just to let you know, sometimes I feel the same way you do when I have to tell parents their kid didn't have a good day.

You'll be fine!! Deep breaths! Just remember we are all human and most of all his teacher wants him to be successful!!

[Deleted]

:drink: :drink: :drink:

(not while driving, of course)

[fiddles]

So sorry BA. Try to take some calming breaths. Really focus on just breathing. That sometimes helps me.

[karebear219]

I don't have anything to add, but hang in there Baby A. I hope it turns out okay.

[llh0211]

::hugs:: I hope it is all good!

[tacocat]

Hope it turns out ok!

[georgeharrison]

Dec 6, 2012 18:04:34 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Out of curiosity, is the reason you're scared and affected by his behavior at school because you think it's a reflection on you as a parent or... just general emotions? Cause if it's the former, kids will do as they do. Some of it is parenting, but some isn't and in a lot of cases it's really hard to 'control' their behavior at school.

My parents tried to teach me to stop talking so much in class, but it never worked. I generally chat a lot. They were good (if very Asian/Tigery) parents, and sometimes really scary, but... it was just in my nature to talk a lot.

Honestly, I think it's because I *think* he might be borderline "highly capable." He shows a lot of signs of being "advanced." BUT, he can't excel in school if he won't follow the rules. I know he is capable of so much, and I just want to see him live up to his potential.

Note: I do get that many parents feel like their child is super smart, and I could be totally off base.

Also, since he's an only child and all his cousins and stuff are so far away I worry about him having friends. I know I don't want to be around someone who won't shut their mouth.

I do also feel like it is somewhat a reflection on us.

Mainly, though, I'm afraid it will hinder him academically and socially.

[georgeharrison]

So, update: the teacher did not come talk to me today, so that's good. Tman said that he had a good day, got all his work done, and was allowed to start working on tomorrow's art project. He said that he was told to stop talking a couple times, but that he didn't "get in trouble" for it today. I won't know how he's done academically this week until tomorrow when I get all his papers/tests back, and then, if that looks okay, I can breath a sigh of relief, maybe he's coming out of it. Maybe he just had a bad week or so. I have those, why shouldn't he, right? I can tell by his papers, though, if he is focusing throughout the week, so those will be telling as well.

I'm wondering if having our Christmas tree/decorations up are throwing him off. He is constantly singing Christmas songs and talking about Christmas. Maybe I'm going to have to go against my own person feelings and wait a little longer to bust into the Christmas season in the future. Sad banana.

[joenali]

Dec 6, 2012 19:36:34 GMT -5 georgeharrison said:

So, update: the teacher did not come talk to me today, so that's good. Tman said that he had a good day, got all his work done, and was allowed to start working on tomorrow's art project. He said that he was told to stop talking a couple times, but that he didn't "get in trouble" for it today. I won't know how he's done academically this week until tomorrow when I get all his papers/tests back, and then, if that looks okay, I can breath a sigh of relief, maybe he's coming out of it. Maybe he just had a bad week or so. I have those, why shouldn't he, right? I can tell by his papers, though, if he is focusing throughout the week, so those will be telling as well.

I'm wondering if having our Christmas tree/decorations up are throwing him off. He is constantly singing Christmas songs and talking about Christmas. Maybe I'm going to have to go against my own person feelings and wait a little longer to bust into the Christmas season in the future. Sad banana.

does he do a lot if worksheets?

[georgeharrison]

Dec 6, 2012 19:52:39 GMT -5 joenali said:

Dec 6, 2012 19:36:34 GMT -5 georgeharrison said:

So, update: the teacher did not come talk to me today, so that's good. Tman said that he had a good day, got all his work done, and was allowed to start working on tomorrow's art project. He said that he was told to stop talking a couple times, but that he didn't "get in trouble" for it today. I won't know how he's done academically this week until tomorrow when I get all his papers/tests back, and then, if that looks okay, I can breath a sigh of relief, maybe he's coming out of it. Maybe he just had a bad week or so. I have those, why shouldn't he, right? I can tell by his papers, though, if he is focusing throughout the week, so those will be telling as well.

I'm wondering if having our Christmas tree/decorations up are throwing him off. He is constantly singing Christmas songs and talking about Christmas. Maybe I'm going to have to go against my own person feelings and wait a little longer to bust into the Christmas season in the future. Sad banana.

does he do a lot if worksheets?

Yes

[joenali]

Dec 6, 2012 20:08:55 GMT -5 georgeharrison said:

Dec 6, 2012 19:52:39 GMT -5 joenali said:

does he do a lot if worksheets?

Yes

see this makes me wonder. I don't think classrooms today should be worksheet based. It is very difficult to differentiate worksheets. Of course he gets bored, and I rarely think kids get bored in class. What is he supposed to do when he's done?

I kind of knew he did a lot of worksheets when you said he gets his work back at the end of the week I rarely send things home, because we don't do worksheets. Most of the work stays at school. Homework is worksheet based, but that allows parents to see the kind of work we are doing at school along with newsletters etc.