I was 14, had been "dating" him for 2 years and he dumped me because my family decided to start going to a different church. Heart broken by a pastor's kid!
My boyfriend in HS. We'd dated for two years and then went off to college (him- MA, me- VA). He started cheating on me. I still hold a little hate for him.
Mine was in high school. We were 16. He hooked up with one of my best friends at a party that my parents wouldn't let me go to. When I found out, I was so upset that I actually came down with a fever (although maybe that was just a coincidence ;). I was such a doormat that I tried to stay "friends" with her afterwards. Oh well, live and learn, lol.
Post by imojoebunny on Dec 20, 2012 9:52:48 GMT -5
I still often have sleeping dreams about my first real boyfriend. He was an ass, but I luv'd him. I was crushed when his roommate came home early one afternoon and found him in bed with the roomates girlfriend. Neither of us ever spoke to either of them again. I occasionally see the girl on Facebook or around town. The word tramp always pops into my head. Oddly, boyfriends sister friended me on Facebook a couple of years ago (this happened 20 years ago, and i haven't seen her since). I think she liked me a lot more than the girl he ended up marrying.
Yes, of course. I still wonder what might have been from time to time, too. I see that relationship through rose colored glasses, I'm sure, but I think he was the person in my whole life that I was most compatible with. I think if we had stayed together, we would have been really happy.
But we were kids, so who knows. I had just turned 18 when we broke up but he was only 16 lol.
That breakup was really the only time I can ever remember losing my appetite (other than maybe when I'm hungover, lol) and being too upset to function.
The first time I remember being really upset was during a school dance in 8th grade. I turned around and saw the boy I liked dancing with a girl from our class. I ran to the bathroom and cried and I made up my mind to despise her from there on out.
The song was Celine Dion's "It's All Coming Back to Me Now" :-(
I was 16. We had dated for a year and I thought things were great. He blindsided me with the whole, "I'm going away to college; I think we're at different places." I was too naive to see it coming. I remember laying in bed sobbing. My dad came and kneeled next to me, grabbed my hand, and told me it would get better.
My dad was a crappy dad in a lot of ways, but I will never forget this instance when he actually stepped up to the plate.
#1 -- My HS boyfriend (I was 16-19 and he was 2.5 years older). He was older and ready to get serious. I felt like a step in his plan and I wanted more. More spontaneity, more romance, more everything. I broke up with him and dated a string of assholes. We left thing son good terms, but I always wonder what might have been. He is a really great person and I am glad we are still good friends.
#2 -- on again/off again best guy friend/f*ck buddy in college. I was head over heels but he was not ready to settle down. By the time he realized he was in love with me, I had already met mh and moved on. It was a really sad time because I lost my best friend. We would have been great together if I never met mh. Mh just showed me what it felt like to be really loved. Corny, but true.
I had 2 boyfriends in HS, but there was no attraction, so I broke off both. My first real heartache was from an online boy when I was, like, 18. Back in the 90's. We met on ICQ. The word soulmate was thrown around. Lol. We talked for months, and I was waaay into him. Then one day, very randomly, he was acting distant. When I asked him what was wrong, he said something about how there are starving people in Africa, and I should quit eating all of their food. I felt as though I'd been punched in the stomach. My reaction should have been "What a dickhead," but it really freaking hurt. I still get all ugh when I think about it. I never talked to him again.
I had 2 boyfriends in HS, but there was no attraction, so I broke off both. My first real heartache was from an online boy when I was, like, 18. Back in the 90's. We met on ICQ. The word soulmate was thrown around. Lol. We talked for months, and I was waaay into him. Then one day, very randomly, he was acting distant. When I asked him what was wrong, he said something about how there are starving people in Africa, and I should quit eating all of their food. I felt as though I'd been punched in the stomach. My reaction should have been "What a dickhead," but it really freaking hurt. I still get all ugh when I think about it. I never talked to him again.
I had 2 boyfriends in HS, but there was no attraction, so I broke off both. My first real heartache was from an online boy when I was, like, 18. Back in the 90's. We met on ICQ. The word soulmate was thrown around. Lol. We talked for months, and I was waaay into him. Then one day, very randomly, he was acting distant. When I asked him what was wrong, he said something about how there are starving people in Africa, and I should quit eating all of their food. I felt as though I'd been punched in the stomach. My reaction should have been "What a dickhead," but it really freaking hurt. I still get all ugh when I think about it. I never talked to him again.
What the hell did he even mean by that?
He definitely meant that I was fat. I can't remember the exact wording, but he absolutely meant it as an insult, not a joke.
I had 2 boyfriends in HS, but there was no attraction, so I broke off both. My first real heartache was from an online boy when I was, like, 18. Back in the 90's. We met on ICQ. The word soulmate was thrown around. Lol. We talked for months, and I was waaay into him. Then one day, very randomly, he was acting distant. When I asked him what was wrong, he said something about how there are starving people in Africa, and I should quit eating all of their food. I felt as though I'd been punched in the stomach. My reaction should have been "What a dickhead," but it really freaking hurt. I still get all ugh when I think about it. I never talked to him again.
Is it bad that this made me laugh?
It is laughable! Dude was 5'6" & balding at 19. He had no room to diss physical appearances.
Post by gettingfitt on Dec 20, 2012 12:26:41 GMT -5
My HS bf was my biggest heart ache. Even though I broke up with him first. He wouldn't take me back. I was so heart broken for atleast a year. We dated for three years and got engaged at my high school graduation. I freaked out thinking about spending the rest of my life with him for real. I still am really close to his mom and miss his family. They are the greatest. I wonder how different my life would be if we were still together.
My heart has only been broken once, but it was devastating.
We never even dated, but were best friends, traveled all over the world together. Were together or talked every day for 2 years. Wrote each other letters, hung out with each other's families, the whole nine yards.
I was completely, hopelessly, out of my mind in love with him.
He carried a torch for this other girl the whole time, but she was in a 5 year relationship. We would actually discuss the fact that we would be together if it wasn't for her, and I didn't want to be second place anyway.
He finally gave up on her, I wrote him this epic letter, and things were going well.
Then bam, she broke up with her boyfriend and he was immediately pursuing her. I knew he had to do it (we even talked about it). He wanted us to maintain our friendship, but it wasn't fair to any of us. I kissed him goodbye in a garden in Jerusalem and let him go. I was still pretty sure he would realize how much she sucked and come back.
The day they got engaged I bawled my eyes out.
ETA: It is important to note that DH and this guy are complete and polar opposites. He was everything I thought I wanted, and DH is everything I never knew I needed. I could not be happier with how things ended up.
1st heartbreak, HS boyfriend, were dating 3 years, through Sophmore year of college. He broke up with me because he didn't want to settle down so early in life. I was heartbroken, told him he would change his mind/regret his decision. He did, but I had met DH and had moved on. I'm so so so so glad we didn't end up together. He is a great person, but kind of boring.
DH broke my heart when I moved away for my job after college. He was afraid to move away, and looking back I don't blame him. I didn't eat much for weeks and lost 15 pounds in a month, I looked sickly. We got back together after 2 months, he tells me it took him all of the 2 days to regret what happened, but he thought I hated him.
My heart has only been broken once, but it was devastating.
We never even dated, but were best friends, traveled all over the world together. Were together or talked every day for 2 years. Wrote each other letters, hung out with each other's families, the whole nine yards.
I was completely, hopelessly, out of my mind in love with him.
He carried a torch for this other girl the whole time, but she was in a 5 year relationship. We would actually discuss the fact that we would be together if it wasn't for her, and I didn't want to be second place anyway.
He finally gave up on her, I wrote him this epic letter, and things were going well.
Then bam, she broke up with her boyfriend and he was immediately pursuing her. I knew he had to do it (we even talked about it). He wanted us to maintain our friendship, but it wasn't fair to any of us. I kissed him goodbye in a garden in Jerusalem and let him go. I was still pretty sure he would realize how much she sucked and come back.
I had 2 boyfriends in HS, but there was no attraction, so I broke off both. My first real heartache was from an online boy when I was, like, 18. Back in the 90's. We met on ICQ. The word soulmate was thrown around. Lol. We talked for months, and I was waaay into him. Then one day, very randomly, he was acting distant. When I asked him what was wrong, he said something about how there are starving people in Africa, and I should quit eating all of their food. I felt as though I'd been punched in the stomach. My reaction should have been "What a dickhead," but it really freaking hurt. I still get all ugh when I think about it. I never talked to him again.
Only one Heartbreak I was 16 and he was 20. We dated for about a year then he dropped a bombshell that he was joining the Army and I still had another year of HS. During and after boot camp he kept telling me to move on and that he did not love me. He came back at Christmas and I was dating XH but made it clear that I would drop him in second if he would at least talk to me. He siad no and for me to stay with XH so I did. XH and I married and I lost contact. After my divorce we reconnected but by that time I was an adult with to small children and could not pull-up roots and run away. We talked and meet-up on several occasions over the years. He was in FL and I in TN and I could not move my kids. We could never work it out, then he broke my heart again by telling me he was dating someone else in TN. That was fine but then they married within 6 months and he moved to TN which he would not do for me. A couple of years later he came to my house for a party with his small child and we talked and everything is fine but I do wonder what if sometimes. I will always love him but I do not really think that it would work. If I was still 16 and him 20 maybe but not now. A lot has happened in 20+ years.
My HS boyfriend I was over the moon about broke up with me by e-mail, saying "he lost interest." I had to see him the very next morning because we were playing together in an ensemble competition. I gave him back his class ring very dramatically. LOL at 18-year old me.
I don't know if it counts as heartbreak when in retrospect I probably didn't even really love him but alas, I dated someone my first into my second year of law school. He practically lived with me but he was very committment phobic after a failed young marriage. Then one day we got into a stupid fight and he just straight up stopped talking to me. I left him so many voicemails his box filled up. My period was late (which, in retrospect it's always "late" when I'm not on bcp) and I freaked out. Drove to his mother's house and blocked his driveway with my car until he came out. Went into a dark angry poetry writing phase. It was intense. Every now and then he writes me an email about how I was the best thing that ever happened to him and he messed up. Damn straight, buddy!
Post by UnderProtest on Dec 20, 2012 16:21:40 GMT -5
Ahhhh, that would have been my high school boyfriend. We dated senior year and then into college. But we went to college very far away as my family moved away from our hometown. I broke up with him sophomore year of college in a last ditch effort to get him to pay more attention to me (he had joined a sports team and a fraternity). It didn't really work, but we went back and forth on getting together again for that whole year and continued to talk until senior year of college. I was so hung up on him. I still wonder about him.
I did see him at our ten year high schools reunion and he refused to talk to me. That opened the wound again despite being happily married.
Post by Bob Loblaw on Dec 20, 2012 16:28:57 GMT -5
I remember it well, since we felt the need to break up and get back together repeatedly for a year. That's a whole lot of tears shed while listening to "The Scientist" by Coldplay over and over.
God, I am so happy that we didn't end up together.
Post by gibbinator on Dec 20, 2012 16:38:35 GMT -5
The first time I was really crushed I was 17 and just started dating a guy I had been good friends with years before. He was very dramatic and romantic and deep and we were both out of control obsessed with each other. Then I went away for the summer, we got into a weird fight where he accused me of cheating on him. He dumped me over MSN Messenger. When I came home I found out that a few days prior to our fight he'd slept with his best friends girlfriend. I was pissed
ETA : There is another ex-bf from high school I still think about and occasionally dream about. It's one of those what - if relationships that didn't work out for reasons that are 100% my fault. I believe dh is ultimately the better man for me, but I do wonder sometimes how life would be different if I'd treated him properly.
I had a few, but none that stand out in a "I still think about that" kind of way. I was almost always the dump-ee, so they all started to blend together, ha ha
Post by ondaflipside on Dec 20, 2012 19:29:50 GMT -5
If I can count it, I'm pretty sure I've had my heart broken more than the other way around. But love hurts, right?
My exbf/now exh. We were 16. We broke up because he started hanging out with these new group of guys and they smoked weed and stuff. That's more important than being with his girl I guess. I was heartbroken. His friend tried to make a pass at me afterwards, but all I could talk about was ex. We got back a few months afterwards. After HS we moved in, then we got married. It was a very passionate relationship with REALLY great make-up s-e-x.
But in HS, I really thought my life was over when we broke up. I was miserable without him 8-D