Those who have had more than 1 serious relationshi

[pugz]

only other long relationship was with my high school boyfriend, we were together 3 1/2 years from 16-19. We tried to make long distance work our freshman year but we were going in very different directions. It was a pretty amicable breakup, we knew it was time. Both of us met and started dating our future spouses within 2 weeks after that and I'm good friends with him and his wife now.

[Deleted]

One too shy, one too much of an ass, one with major family and cultural issues/immature momma's boy.

[M]

We dated 2 years...after a year he started becoming abusive once I realized he was an alcoholic and confronted him about it. It got worse and we broke up near 2 years for about a month. He came back saying he'll change but a month after we got back together, I caught him trying to hide empty beer cans in my apartment when I got off work early one night. That was the last time I saw him.

[Deleted]

Too young. Grew too different.

[audry80]

He cheated on me. If I ever saw him I would thank him for being such a douche and for cheating on me. He was a loser and I would have never met my DH if he didn't!

[drloretta]

The first serious one was right out of HS, and we drifted apart when we went to different schools

One was for 2 years, and he took me for granted. At that point I had checked out of the relationship.

One was emotionally abusive, and in hindsight I'm glad he dumped me.

One was potentially a keeper, but he wasn't outwardly affectionate, plus we had distance working against us

One started off great, but he decided halfway through our relationship that he didn't want to get married or have kids, and wanted to be "19 forever" (his quote)

[Awkward]

First college relationship: he insisted on trying it in the butt even when I was begging him not to, he got pissed. Also his friends and family didn't like me because I wasn't "from their area." I was devastated when he dumped me, though looking back I should have thrown a damn parade. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Second college relationship: I woke up one morning and realized I could do better. It was like a switch was thrown in my brain and I knew he wasn't it for me. He is a super nice guy and I only wish him the best.

[steph96]

First one was while I was in high school. He was really controlling and the relationship was abusive. I finally ended it. I pretty much had to fake disappear to get him to stop stalking me. Now that I think about it, I'm probably lucky that I am still alive.

The one that I'm not sure if I should count....it was right after I got to college. It ended when someone told me that they saw him at the bar with someone else. I broke down and told one of my best friends who then told me that it had been going on for a long time and she knew about it but didn't want to hurt anyone by telling. Thanks bitch. We stupidly got back together after a few months. Then I went to surprise him with breakfast one morning. He wasn't home. Turns out that one of my sorority sisters had been trying to hook him up with one of her friends and she succeeded. After that I finally cut all ties.

[midnightmare81]

There was only one I would consider serious. We were together for about a year. When I met him he was working full time and talking about going back to school. Once we started dating he gained almost 75 lbs (he was a BIG guy to begin with so it wasn't as bad as it could have been but still. Found out later he was doing coke before we started dating and had quit when we started to date (I HATE drugs and he knew it). He really wasn't BAD to me, but after a couple months he quit his job and didn't really try to find another, gained all the weight, and basically just got stagnant. No more school talk, no more working, nothing. I had been planning to go back to school as well and basically he just held me back. I know that's partly on me as well, but he just kinda got complacent and I got sucked into it as well. Thankfully I realized what was happening and started moving forward with my life, and he kinda just stayed. I wanted someone who would support me, want and encourage me to always grow as a person, ect. I finally had to end it with him after realizing I would never reach my full potential if we stayed together. In his defense, he was good TO me, just not FOR me. 4 years later he works part time at Lowes, still lives with his family, and had done nothing with his life since. He has gotten so lazy that the dog we had gotten while we were together (a cocker spaniel who I kept in full coat) constantly goes a year without being groomed. This would be less irritating if he wasn't a dog groomer, therefore not working isn't even a good attempt as an excuse...

FTR I would have taken the dog back when I found out but was not in a place where I could have a dog and at this point I wouldn't do that to her. Except for the lack of grooming she is very well taken care of and really attached to him and his family

[StJess80]

I might have been too young to consider this serious, but I dated a guy in 9th & 10th grade, and then broke up with him to date his best friend. So basically, I was a gigantic douche.

The other one: I dated this guy in 11th & 12th grade, and then for a couple years after HS. We were engaged and were in looooooove. He cheated on me. Karmic payback for my douchiness in my other serious relationship? Maybe. But he was an asshole anyway.

[chessie]

I caught the 1st guy cheating on me, 2nd, we sorta just fell out of the relationship and left him for DH.

[Deleted]

Age 16-20. The thought occurred to me if we stayed together any longer, I would have to marry him.

I think mostly he was immature. And a momma's boy and somehow totally starved for attention. Mostly he acted like a fool and it was embarrassing.

[rubytue]

One -I think we were mostly still together from inertia. It ended when he cheated on me, but it was over before that. I just could cut the cord yet. Was going to move out and away to go back to school, and I knew it would end soon thereafter. He just found someone else three months before I was ready.

Two - emotionally abusive ass.

Those were my majors. First HS bf and I dated for 2 years, then he went to school and broke up with me. Second HS bf dated for almost 2 year, I went to school but we stayed together. Only you shouldn't do long distance at 18/16. That worked out in the end bc I married him 14 years later. And I had a college relationship I lovingly call the one night stand that lasted 8 months too long. It's all good though. I'm friends with him and his wife. We laugh about it.

[hbomdiggity]

we dated six years, but there was a life changing incident at year 4 that he struggled to recover from. there was a lot of hurt and our relationship couldnt survive it. he is in a much better place now, thankfully.

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[WOT?*]

High school bf decided he preferred a blonde who put out but forgot to mention the fact to me. XH and i married young, had kids young and should never really have been together. We split at year 3, got back together "for the family" which didn't work out well but after he was disabled we got back together; i was more a caretaker than wife and we split a few years later. We were divorced just short of our15 year anniversary.

[h]

I dated the same guy all through high school. He was two years older than me, and we stayed together when he went to college. We were young, but in love and talking constantly about a future together. Then I went to college out of state, and he failed out of school and wound up in rehab, so I broke things off. He did eventually get his shit together but it took him years to get there. As cold as it sounds, I am ready glad I didn't spend my 20s standing by his side while we was a total train wreck.

[ssmjlm]

College boyfriend that I dated all 4 years with a couple breakups in there. He was very immature and clingy. Plus he was catholic and I really think ultimately our religious differences would have been just another issue.

It took me a couple times to get him to realize we were breaking up. I finally, sadly, had to lie to him that I was talking to another guy bc he just did not get it. I felt bad but omg so clingy.

[Deleted]

He was my college boyfriend we dated for just under a year. He was several years older then me (I was 19 and he was 25--was a Grad student at my university) he wanted to get married and start a family, I want to finish college and start a career.

I wasn't willing to wait on that so we split up. Funny thing is, 8 years later, I am happily married with a home and he is still single.

[bazealina]

My one other than DH was my first husband...he died suddenly 6 months after we were married. I will always love him. But yes it is possible to fall in love again!

[pamela]

Came to the realization that 2 big things were going to be a problem long term (we were already engaged). First was that I'm really career driven and he's the opposite. We weren't able to work out the societal norm issues with me being the primary breadwinner (likely to start at double his salary and diverge further from there). The other was we're at the opposite ends of the political spectrum. Wasn't that big of a deal then, but now, I'm so glad we ended it. He's happily working for the Obama administration and I want him out of office and don't think the position ex-FI is working in should exist at all. Makes it hard to be supportive of your husband in that case.

[Pilsy]

Dec 30, 2012 8:15:19 GMT -5 @bazealina said:

My one other than DH was my first husband...he died suddenly 6 months after we were married. I will always love him. But yes it is possible to fall in love again!

I'm so sorry; that must have been devastating. Yet, I'm so happy you were able to find love again!

[GailGoldie]

I got out of a 7 year relationship when I finally realized it was abusive (verbally/emotionally) and I deserved better. It happened very slowly (the abuse cycles) over many years... early on things were great - I was very secure, etc - would never have put up with it then... but he slowly wore me down and when we came close to getting engaged I realized I wanted something better - i'd see other couples and think "wow, i'll never have that if I stay with him".

I needed something concrete to hold on to so i could make it happen though- b/c leaving him was going to be very difficult --- i had moved to New Orelans to live with him, etc --- finally I had a feeling he was cheating and told him it was over. Kicked him out - moved to NJ (where my family is) and never looked back - best move of my life. I felt less lonely when sleeping on my own than I did with him next to me those last couple years.

[dragonfly08]

I had two serious, long-term relationships before DH. The first started in high school and we simply grew apart in college. Plus I found out shortly after we broke up that he'd cheated (and looking back, those signs were there and contributed to our problems, I just didn't know the cause at the time). The second relationship was with someone who had a temper and after seven years just couldn't/wouldn't commit to taking the next step. We were old enough that if marriage and kids weren't on the table I was walking, and ultimately that's what happened. He had issues dating back to his parents' very nasty divorce, and I get that, but he wasn't willing to work through them with me.

On top of it all, DH puts up with my crap in ways the other two guys never did. DH is much more even-tempered and doesn't hold grudges. Works much better with my more volatile temperament. :-)

[Brie]

I dated a guy in college for 3 years. It ended because I graduated and was going to law school several hours away and he didn't want to try to make a long distance relationship work.

[limey]

First one was 8 yrs long. We started dating when I was 16. We just grew up and grew apart.

Second one was 6 years long. He was an emotionally abusive asshole.

[rosetyler]

My serious college boyfriend dumped me because his friend told him he was getting in to deep for a guy still in college, and he needed to play the field a little. The worst part was that he actually told me this when we broke up.

I broke of a fairly long term long distance relationship just because it was too much upkeep. We started dating when I lived in France, he came and visited me for over a month, then we tried to keep it up for six more months when he went home, it just wasn't going to work. Dude didn't even really speak English.

I had one other, we met when I lived in London. We dated for two years, and were going strong even when I first moved to the States for a few months, and then moved back to England but lived in another city. His calls started getting infrequent, and he hadn't been to see me in a long time. One day, I called him and a girl answered the phone. She was like, "Is this Rose? Well, this is Stephanie. I'm his new girlfriend, and I'm living with him, so stop calling." WTMF.

[genet313]

College Relationship: Eh, we were young and immature, fought a lot, still growing. If we had met later in life, we may have had better success. He was my first "love" and though it didn't end well, I still regard him highly.

Rebound: Great, fun boyfriend, except lord, he was bad in bed. It kept getting shorter and shorter the longer we were together. Terrible. He loved me more than I loved him. I went away for law school, he couldn't handle it, we had a pretty mutual break-up.

Law School Relationship: He broke up with me b/c his mother told him to. B/c I was not Jewish (I am Catholic). No joke. I was pissed/offended at the time, now, I thank God every day this happened, b/c my MIL would have been a nightmare for the rest of my life. He is now marrying another Catholic girl, which I find hilarious.

[Deleted]

He was a douche. He was immature and somewhat emotionally abusive. I still wonder why it took me so long to get out of that relationship (about 4 years).

[ondaflipside]

I had 2 prior to DH.

One is because we started so young, married young, and grew apart. And he cheated on me, so that was the straw that broke the camel's back, as they say. 8 years together.

2nd one was mostly my fault. I grew tired of living together, and thought he should put up or shut up. It was a 6 year relationship, so I think it's warranted.

DH is by far currently the shortest of my 3 LT relationships. And hopefully will be the last.