Say you had a 5 months pregnant houseguest...

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Who was crashing for one night at your 1BR apartment with her husband.

And you had a pretty nasty cold yourself. And a husband who also has to sleep somewhere.

Imagine that the sleeping options were queen-sized air mattress in the living room (which gets quite toasty when the heat is on), or queen-sized bed in the bedroom (but the heat in the bedroom isn't currently working, and it does get quite cold in there because it is really cold outside/high ceilings/big windows/etc.).

Who would you have sleep where?

Note: I am super regretting getting a non-sleeper sofa!!!

[GailGoldie]

i'd ask the pg person where she felt most comfortable and go from there - having all options clean/ready.

[ssmjlm]

As a pregnant person I would be fine on the air mattress. But sleeping for me is still pretty normal at the moment.

[auberge]

I would have her sleep on the air mattress. No way am I'm camping out in my own place and she's pregnant not disabled.
She can handle it for one night.

That's me (but I could be an asshole )

[ijack]

how much do you like this person?

[Deleted]

I'd take/want the air mattress right now unless the bathroom was off the bedroom. I have been peeing in the middle of the night for months.

[brooklyn]

I'm currently pregnant, and I'd be fine with either. I think I might slightly prefer the bed though. Any chance you have extra pillows you could give her? I can't sleep without my snoogle, and I'd definitely need a pillow between my legs. Right now, I prefer colder rooms, with extra blankets, since the heat keeps giving me nose bleeds. Not sure if all pregnant women are dealing with that though...

[Deleted]

That's a tough one. Personally, my DH would throw a fit about giving up his bed so they'd be sleeping in the living room.

For me personally, I'd give up my bed. Then sleep on air bed or couches if you have more than one. Air beds are pretty comfortable.

[dexteroni]

Air mattress, but I would just make sure they know about it up front. Do you think they'll expect you to give up your bedroom? That would be pretty presumptuous. This might non-mom ignorance, but IMO 5 months't even that far along to warrant special sleeping requirements for most people. My sister was barely showing at 5 months.

The only reason I might offer the bed is if your apartment is set up so that she has to cut through the bedroom to get to the bathroom.

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Dec 31, 2012 11:52:03 GMT -5 ijack said:

how much do you like this person?

Best friend!

But I think that also puts her in the stop-being-polite-and-start-getting-real category. She's stayed at my place when it was scary messy, has slept on my dorm room floor, etc. so I imagine she is not expecting luxe accommodations (But today at least, my apartment happens to be decently clean.)

[ijack]

as long as she has easy access to a bathroom, I say the air mattress is good

[dexteroni]

Dec 31, 2012 11:57:03 GMT -5 v said:

Best friend!

Oh! Then she knows what to expect. But it's also fine to ask her which she would prefer.

[birdmom]

I would have been fine with an air mattress at 5 months pregnant, but I had an easy pregnancy. I wouldn't expect someone to give up their bed for me if I were staying at their house for a night.

[njohnson1972]

When I was pregnant, I was so damn hot all the time. That would be my deciding factor. But I would have survived on an air mattress.

[Deleted]

Bathroom is equally (and easily) accessible to both sleeping locations!

Thanks guys!

[yourmom]

Knowing it's your BF, she knows what your apartment looks like. If she can't sleep on an air mattress, she shouldn't have accepted an invite to stay with you.

[sa]

I was in this exact same situation last year (and you know how much I hate giving up my bed!).

I did end up offering my bed, but she said the air mattress would be fine.

[Deleted]

I slept on an air mattress at 7 months and was no more uncomfortable than in my own bed. Let a little air out of it and it's probably more comfortable.

[MadamePresident]

I would feel weird staying with someone who gave me their bed.

[penguingrrl]

The only thing giving me pause about saying there's nothing wrong with the air mattress is that if your heat is like the heat in the 3 NYC apartments I lived in I would want the room with broken heat because I'm hot normally, when pregnant in the city I kept my radiators off, a window open and a fan blowing and was still uncomfortably warm. So if the bedroom gets chilly I might offer it for that reason alone. An air mattress is fine to sleep on pregnant.

[mrshandy]

DH and I slept on someone's air mattress at 5 months in NYC. I was fine.

[kelseybelsey]

She knew the situation before she agreed to stay so I bet she doesn't mind. I also think its weird to sleep in someone else's bed.

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Dec 31, 2012 12:56:43 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

The only thing giving me pause about saying there's nothing wrong with the air mattress is that if your heat is like the heat in the 3 NYC apartments I lived in I would want the room with broken heat because I'm hot normally, when pregnant in the city I kept my radiators off, a window open and a fan blowing and was still uncomfortably warm. So if the bedroom gets chilly I might offer it for that reason alone. An air mattress is fine to sleep on pregnant.

We actually have (some) control over our heat -- it is either completely on or completely off. We rarely turn it on so if anything, it tends to be on the colder side in our apartment (particularly in the bedroom, where the heat isn't currently working at all -- but hoping that gets fixed soon). I guess we're lucky in that respect because I hate too much heat? But I dream of the day I will have a thermostat!!!

[Becca]

If she was 8 months pg and staying for a week, I would be more inclined to offer up my bed.

For one night at 5 months? She can sleep on the air mattress.

I also agree that it is weird to sleep in someone else's bed, and even now at 8 months, I might still prefer the air mattress - especially knowing that I wouldn't get a good nights sleep either way

[Deleted]

I would prefer to sleep on an air mattress rather than a friend's bed regardless of pregnancy or not, especially at 5 months.

[Deleted]

I would ask her which she preferred.

[penguingrrl]

Dec 31, 2012 13:06:37 GMT -5 v said:

Dec 31, 2012 12:56:43 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

The only thing giving me pause about saying there's nothing wrong with the air mattress is that if your heat is like the heat in the 3 NYC apartments I lived in I would want the room with broken heat because I'm hot normally, when pregnant in the city I kept my radiators off, a window open and a fan blowing and was still uncomfortably warm. So if the bedroom gets chilly I might offer it for that reason alone. An air mattress is fine to sleep on pregnant.

We actually have (some) control over our heat -- it is either completely on or completely off. We rarely turn it on so if anything, it tends to be on the colder side in our apartment (particularly in the bedroom, where the heat isn't currently working at all -- but hoping that gets fixed soon). I guess we're lucky in that respect because I hate too much heat? But I dream of the day I will have a thermostat!!!

That's not too bad! We kept our radiators turned off in the whole house but the people below us kept theirs on so our apartment was so hot! I also come from a family that always kept the house cool, so that affects it too. We're in a SFH now and keep the heat at 62 and are comfortable!

[hellonurse]

Dec 31, 2012 11:54:46 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

Dec 31, 2012 11:52:01 GMT -5 auberge said:

I would have her sleep on the air mattress. No way am I'm camping out in my own place and she's pregnant not disabled.
She can handle it for one night.

That's me (but I could be an asshole )

Word. Plus, she's 5 months not 40 weeks.

This. My answer would be different if she were further along.

[redheadk]

I'd put her on the air mattress. I was sleeping just fine at 5 months. If I had not been sleeping well, I would not have chosen to stay at anyone's 1-bedroom apt overnight. I would have opted for a hotel.

[Deleted]

Air mattress. Hotels are always an option and since she's your BF, I'm sure she was fully aware of your sleeping options and okay with the air mattress or she wouldn't be staying with you.