Anything flameworthy/unpopular to share?

[Deleted]

I need some entertainment until I can leave the office at 3

[Deleted]

Kanye is a great role model. I don't think that's unpopular though.

[limey]

One of my friends has had a ticking biological clock since she was 15.

She met a guy this past spring, they got married a few months later and she is about 4 mo pregnant. She is also a physician, and she just started in with the "I didn't think pregnancy would be this haaaaarrrrddd...."

I'm sort of laughing/judging/eye rolling all at once.

[ijack]

I'm eating a salad with doritos on it.

[livinitup]

I would be thrilled if everyone stopped buying me gifts for Christmas or my birthday - forever. I love the holidays and lots of traditions around it but I am absolutely DONE with getting anything else from anyone else. Even good presents. I just don't need any more stuff.

[limey]

I thought of another one:

H has a friend that I hate, for good reason. I'm ok with H being friends with him, but I don't want to see him. It's been 4.5 years since I have seen him and his cunt of a wife.

They are moving next month and will only be 2 hours away from us. I'm trying to hold out as long as possible without actually seeing them. Years ago, I agreed to be civil for one or two nights annually, but I think I'm going to renege on that, even if it means having an argument with H about this.

[Deleted]

I think physical attraction is based on looks to a large degree. You can't help what you're attracted to. If my H gained a lot of weight suddenly, I don't think I would still be attracted to him. I'd still love him obviously but I don't know that I'd want to be intimate.

This is in regards to another thread but I didn't want to upset the OP.

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farmville, you *should* be doing that!!!

violets, I agree with you (and know what you're talking about). I don't know that there's a nice way to say you aren't attracted to a person, but I think that attraction is an important part of a relationship. And I don't think I could be attracted to a person if I wasn't attracted to him physically.

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Dec 31, 2012 13:58:28 GMT -5 livinitup said:

I would be thrilled if everyone stopped buying me gifts for Christmas or my birthday - forever. I love the holidays and lots of traditions around it but I am absolutely DONE with getting anything else from anyone else. Even good presents. I just don't need any more stuff.

I'm here too. I'd rather not exchange gifts within DH's family but he refuses to raise the topic with them because he thinks that's grinchy. But who knows they might feel the same way. I just think that Christmas gifts are largely a kid thing.

I'd still want to exchange with DH for all of the major gift giving occasions though.

[yourmom]

Dec 31, 2012 14:03:27 GMT -5 @lcap said:

I think physical attraction is based on looks to a large degree. You can't help what you're attracted to. If my H gained a lot of weight suddenly, I don't think I would still be attracted to him. I'd still love him obviously but I don't know that I'd want to be intimate.

This is in regards to another thread but I didn't want to upset the OP.

I agree with this. I will love my H until the day he dies (or me), regardless of the way he looks, but being physically attracted to him doesn't always = love. I would also want him to be honest with me.

[ijack]

Farmer, does he pay the tax bill in April? I'd be doing what you're doing too!

[Velvetshady]

MM flameworthy: I just paid the AmEx bill...$10,500 (none of which included x-mas spending). And if idiots people somehow keep re-electing don't get their acts together in the next 10 hours, we'll owe ~$1K more per month in taxes. And even though we still have a large amount of debt, neither of these things bothers me (well, the idiots failing at their jobs and people re-electing them bothers me, the paying more taxes doesn't).

[yourmom]

Walmart is the devil and anyone that doesn't have an absolute need to shop there sucks.

[Deleted]

Flameful: I was feeling sorry for myslef the other day and bought jewelry off etsy. Now I'm over budget for the month.

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[macmars45]

Dec 31, 2012 14:07:17 GMT -5 @lcap said:

Dec 31, 2012 13:58:28 GMT -5 livinitup said:

I would be thrilled if everyone stopped buying me gifts for Christmas or my birthday - forever. I love the holidays and lots of traditions around it but I am absolutely DONE with getting anything else from anyone else. Even good presents. I just don't need any more stuff.

I'm here too. I'd rather not exchange gifts within DH's family but he refuses to raise the topic with them because he thinks that's grinchy. But who knows they might feel the same way. I just think that Christmas gifts are largely a kid thing.

I'd still want to exchange with DH for all of the major gift giving occasions though.

I want to be a kid forever then. I love getting presents.
My birthday & H's birthday are right before Christmas so sometimes I feel we get forgotten/lost in the big holiday celebrations. Maybe that makes my want for Christmas gifts even as an adult bigger than other adults. *shrug*

[Deleted]

I am pretty darn sure I am pregnant. We are in NO WAY prepared for #2 AT ALL.

Oops

[Velvetshady]

Dec 31, 2012 14:17:26 GMT -5 BirdGirl said:

What did you buy for $10K? And what kind of debt do you have?

We average about 4K on the cc, but I'm trying to watch that.

The bulk of the $10K was for supplies to finish our basement--we did have the money in savings for this (half my bonuses went to this savings, half ot debt--for the last 4 years). ~$300 was a trip to visit DHs grandmother (but our planes tickets were free) and ~$600 was for unexpected truck repairs. The real non-MM part was the unplanned/non-saved for ~$2500 for two 170 bottle wine coolers (for the new basement). Costco had them on sale and with free delivery so we saved ~$1K on them. And they are our x-mas, anniversary, birthday, Valentine's Day, St Patty's Day, Intl Talk Like a Pirate Day, etc. gifts to each other for the year (and next year, and maybe the year after that). The bad part there is we did a wine inventory this weekend and we've got 500 bottles of wine to store. :-|

We have just below six figures in non-mortgage/SL debt. When I married DH, he had very close to seven figures of non-mortgage/SL debt (and a mortgage and SLs). That was 6 years ago. A min of 50% of our take home goes to debt pay-down, more depending on other expenses each month (60% most months). I'm comfortable with the paydown rate we are at although I know many MMers would be freaking and going full-blown Dave Ramsey plan. I couldn't make what we do, work as hard as we do, and live like that for the number of years it would take to pay everything off.

We are an example of "rich" by MM income standards, but no where near "rich" in reality. We did finally hit positive net worth this year ;D

We usually charge ~$3K per month in normal budgeted expenses.

[Kore]

I just spent $100 on perfume. Not MM. I smell gooood, though.

I spent well over $1k this month on random shit for myself. Probably closer to $2k. I couldn't even tell you what I got. Cash only spending freeze starts tomorrow.

[soozy87]

Dec 31, 2012 14:16:13 GMT -5 kooshball said:

Walmart sucks and makes me itch when people (especially MM who should know better) shop there. I know I should pay more in taxes but I don't want to.

If you can say that you know you should pay more in taxes but don't want to, why not be okay with people who say I know I should support local business and shop elsewhere, but I'd rather get lower prices and shop at Wal-mart?

[marylou]

Dec 31, 2012 14:51:34 GMT -5 Kore said:

I just spent $100 on perfume. Not MM. I smell gooood, though.

I spent well over $1k this month on random shit for myself. Probably closer to $2k. I couldn't even tell you what I got. Cash only spending freeze starts tomorrow.

Oooh, what did you buy? More Pink Sugar?

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Dec 31, 2012 14:50:44 GMT -5 Velvetshady said:

When I married DH, he had very close to seven figures of non-mortgage/SL debt (and a mortgage and SLs).

:-|

What was this debt from?

But holy wow on getting to positive net worth from there!

[Velvetshady]

Dec 31, 2012 14:22:20 GMT -5 @ruralrabbit1 said:

Flameful: I was feeling sorry for myslef the other day and bought jewelry off etsy. Now I'm over budget for the month.

Absolved if you PIP the jewelry.

[rubytue]

So many people come from families with f-ed up parents. I often wonder how many of my friends/family are fucking up the next generation of kids and will end up estranged from them at some point. FTR - I'm one of those who has no relationship with a parent.

I really want to invest some money right now, but my accounts are fully invested. H, OTOH, has way too much cash sitting around in his IRA. I about to just invest the damn money for him. Even time I threaten this, he gets defensive.

[Deleted]

Velvetshady--holy shit! Almost $1M in consumer debt when you married him? I'm so curious but feel free to ignore me - did you know about the debt when you were dating? Did he hide the amount? Did you consider not legally marrying and keeping finances separate? It sounds like you guys are doing a good job at getting rid of it, but damn. That's love. Lol

[pugz]

I don't get the hype over NYE

[ijack]

I too am dying to know what the debt is from.

[IrishBelle]

I'm home with my girls today and I'm wishing I went to work like DH did. Younger DD was up half the night and I didn't get more than a few hours of sleep. I have a headache and thought I'd nap with her today but its looking like that won't happen. Older DD got a new book for Christmas and wants to read the whole thing out loud. I'm looking forward to work on Wednesday.

[childofhiphop]

It makes me sad to see all of the dead trees curbside. DH keeps telling me to just let it go but it still seems like such a huge waste to me.

[CallingAllAngels]

Reading about someone with almost $1 million in consumer debt makes me want to go spend money. My $6000 debt doesn't seem so bad.

[gardengal]

Dec 31, 2012 15:02:17 GMT -5 childofhiphop said:

It makes me sad to see all of the dead trees curbside. DH keeps telling me to just let it go but it still seems like such a huge waste to me.

does your town not turn them to mulch?

ours does, so it's not like they get wasted...just re-purposed.