Poll: Rate your relationship

[agnes]

An 8 or 9. We are still growing and learning how to communicate with each other. It seems to only get better. I also feel like we should do more joint activities. We're working on that.

[jillboston]

I voted 9 - 12 years together, 10 married and it has gotten better ever year. We could have more sexy time though.. But we are old..

[vtdiamond]

I gave us an 8, we are definitely very happy together and can't wait to get married this year.
I only wish he could better manage his crazy family, as it is a cause of stress in our relationship especially now with wedding planning.

[Deleted]

Jan 4, 2013 9:13:09 GMT -5 ijack said:

We're not in a good place right now

({) ijack (})

We're ok. Could be better.

[Deleted]

I think on the outside it appears to be really good. He would probably rate us a 8 or 9.

But sometimes I wonder if we are really right for each other. Does anyone else feel this way? Is it just a phase?

[ladygrey]

9 - we are communicating so well and love spending time with each other. It does sound sappy to say, but I love him more every day that we are married. I would say the one thing holding us back from a 10 is our sex life (I've not been in the mood much since getting pg).

[cajunmom]

Jan 4, 2013 10:20:23 GMT -5 pitterwoo said:

Jan 4, 2013 9:11:17 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

I put it at a 5, but that's because of me, not H.

He is a great dad and partner. He's affectionate, kind, and helpful. We have a great active sex life. But lately I've been feeling very restless and unsettled and like I'm on the verge of doing something detrimental to our marriage. I'm not sure how to get myself turned back around b/c he's doing everything he should and he'd probably rate our relationship as a 9 or 10.

Sorry, that went deeper than I expected.

If you need some excitement in your life can you go out and get your hair and nails done a different way? Get a tattoo? Go out with some girlfriends for a night of bar hoping (but don't do anything dumb!)? Do what you need to do for yourself to soothe this "restlessness" and then come back and remember why you want to be with your H.

I did just get new red highlights. I do want a new tattoo (I have two already) but don't really want to spend the money on it, although it would be fairly easy for me to save some of my fun money for a few months. I really really feel a need to get away from my house/town for a few weeks, on a really wonderful vacation I guess, but we can't afford that right now.

[Awkward]

Jan 4, 2013 10:13:02 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

9. We are in that "not engaged yet, but we know this is going somewhere awesome" stage.

Can I join you in this boat? We're at an 8-9 usually, and we're long distance. Being physically together only makes it more awesome/solid 9/sometimes 10 territory.

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[SJ]

I voted 8. Things are pretty darn good, but we settle into a routine of focusing on the day-to-day and running his business and not just enjoying each other as much as we should. Need to spice it up a little.

I could not be happier with the choice I made to marry him though.

[genet313]

I gave it an 8. I love my DH and enjoy spending time with him, and he is really affectionate and loving and just wants to be loved by me, which is wonderful. But I really love my alone time and sometimes I feel like I never get it - he constantly wants to hang out with me. And it drives me crazy sometimes.

Also, I feel like a complete nag with him about helping me cook and doing chores. I hate that, but it drives me crazy and we still fight about taking out the garbage 2 years in.

[Brie]

9. Our communication is great and I agree that seeing him as a caring, involved father makes me love him even more. We have so, so much fun together.

I deducted a point because his job has been really hectic lately and we just haven't gotten as much facetime together as I'd like. But that should pass in a few months.

[Deleted]

9. Would be a 10 but we don't have as much time to do stuff "just us" or have sex as much as I would like now that we have a baby.

I think we are meant for each other. He waited around for me to get "unmarried" for 3 years after previously being somewhat of a "ladies man." We are best friends. We've arranged our work schedules so we both only work 3 days a week so we have 4 days off together every week and it still isn't enough. We talk all the time and I really can't imagine my life without him. He does everything he can to make me happy and I try to do the same.

[nonsenseabound]

currently a 10. He is a good husband, who only ticks me off upon occassion. He's an even better daddy. He works hard to provide us with a good life and he gets up with the kids on Saturday so I can sleep until 8. For that part alone he deserves an 11.

[sillygoosegirl]

Right now, I'm feeling like a 4. We had a pretty big fight last night and I'm still angry at him. Normally feel more like 8-9, and I'm sure we'll be back there soon. He pulled the "I was at work all day" card on me last night and I really lost it on him. I also work full time, from home. So on my lunch break I was doing laundry, fixing the screen door, and forwarding the seller's mail. Additionally, I'm really stressed out at work because I'm really behind because I'm the one who had to meet with a bunch of folk about the new house because I work from home (Internet guy, plumber, carpet cleaner, exterminator, realtor), which actually does add up to quite a bit of missed work. WTF, DH? I know I should apologize, because I lost it big time last night, but I'm not feeling sorry just yet.

[galaxy8227]

I gave us an 8. Always is room for improvement but we're doing good these days. Our sex life has really improved (I have a low drive but am trying to make more effort) and I think I'm getting him to see more of how money issues stress me out (that is usually our main issue). He's my best friend and a wonderful father. I wouldn't want anyone else, just maybe him listening a little more without me having to nag--that would be the best!

[pitterwoo]

I voted 9. It's taken us a long time to get here, but things finally do feel like they keep getting better.

[Deleted]

I gave us a 9. We're in a really great place with this baby coming, we're communicating better than ever, and my husband is happier than I've ever seen him. I didn't give us a 10 because our sex life is lacking - my fault, I have had very little interest since getting pregnant.

[steph96]

I voted 8. In the past week, I have only seen him for about 30 minutes a day (if even that long) and we haven't really been able to call/text more than about one minute a day. Once things calm down at his job, it will all be better.

[liveintheville]

Jan 4, 2013 9:37:19 GMT -5 h said:

About an 8. We are very happy and love each other, but at this stage of our lives we devote too much of our time and attention to the kids, jobs, etc. to really focus on our relationship enough to get it up to a 10.

Hee. This was exactly my logic in voting 8, as well
If we were on vacation with no demands and stressors then absolutely a 10. But due to unavoidable stuff (WHY do they wake up at 5am?!) we're not always in the best frame of mind.

[kangaroo11]

I picked 7. Things have been "meh" lately because I fell gross with baby coming soon. I can't find the energy to help out around the house and we just haven't been connecting. I know things will get a lot better for us after baby arrives and we can be partners again instead of me just leaning on him for everything.

[Kore]

I voted 8 & on the upswing. We're in a good place with each other right now. Very affectionate, and making really great plans to improve things. If we had sex everyday, we'd be 10.

[diamondsnpearls22]

I said 9, but pretty close to 10 because there is always room to improve. But we're really connecting and communicating very well and we're just having a great time with one another. It also helps that we are just on a positive streak on all aspects in our lives. After 10 years together, I couldn't be happier!

[cjeanette]

I voted 5. I am frustrated since we have really discussed in counseling what the one thing I value most in our marriage is and he has yet to meet that need.

Also I have been asking him to put the tree in the attic for 3 days and it is still in pieces in our living room. That irritation clouds my opinion right now. I am not good at letting things go.

[hbomdiggity]

7? Sex life is not great, but thats an ongoing thing. The end of the year was particularly stressful and and full of resentment with me working late and him working on the house.

[mbcdefg]

I voted 8. There are a few issues I wish we could fix, but overall he's a great guy and treats me well and I love being with him.

I was in a real funk over the summer for no particular reason and I probably would've voted way lower.

[Deleted]

9. I do not believe human relationships can ever be a perfect 10, but I'm happier than I ever thought I could be with another person.

we are a good team and I feel like we share work at home very well. we have great communication and we know how to make each other feel loved. we have very high opinons of one another and genuinely feel lucky to be with the other person.

[holly116]

I'd say a firm 8. We love each other to pieces, have a lot of fun together and I'm really happy with my choice to marry him. We joke that we share a brain at times which makes most of life a joy.

However, having two kids 18 months apart and since they are both so little mean less time for just us. That, and we're still working out what the priorities are in some areas in ways that just go along with the first few years of marriage.

[thegooser]

I voted 7, but as I read all the replies I've been home for a few minutes and DH has gotten me a beer and made a few funny jokes and already I feel like it should have been an 8.

It would be higher but we are still adjusting after living apart for 4 months (for career reasons). After the initial glee it became a lot of re-learning each others' schedules and habits, which can be grating. We also spent a solid 10 days together, which was almost as much as we had had together in the 4 months prior combined, which led to us bickering. No serious arguments though.

I'm another who would never give a relationship a 10, but overall I feel very blessed.

[Deleted]

I'd say 7. We have had some very rough times lately, but it's a process.

[Lucille Bluth]

We're a 9.99... We've weathered some major bumps and they've only brought us closer. It would be a 10 if he could learn to squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom.