Please help us figure our our life, aka wwmmd?

[dexteroni]

Is your husband looking for a more reliable job? Even if you stay in this job, it's always nice to have that peace of mind. Will he have more opportunities in the new city?

[cookies]

:-|

[kershnic]

In light of all of your answers- MOVE. Just do it.

[Deleted]

I'd rent it out and move. No way would I do that commute. I did 50 miles each way with no tolls and that killed me.

[magdala9]

I have commuted from Stamford to NYC. It was soul sucking because I had to drive the whole way in that horrible traffic. Are any of the buses or trains an option? Alternatively could you work from home 1 day a week to ease the commute?

[genet313]

Driving that much would stress me too much. If I could take public transportation, I'd probably consider doing it for a year.

Have you figured out if you could drive a little to get to public transportation at all? There must be some option. At least then you could sleep/read/work and cut down on some of those hours.

If I could figure that out, I'd suck it up for a year. It's a year.

Although probably, I'd suck it up for a year anyway and get as much as I could from the company now.

[Raggedeannie]

Jan 11, 2013 10:38:04 GMT -5 cookies said:

Living with my parents won't work unfortunately. I could suck up the drive (I've done it before), but my husband couldn't commute to NYC.

I think PP meant, could YOU stay with your parents during the 3 days you are working, and at your current house with your hubs the rest of the week. Say, commute to your job Monday morning, stay with parents Monday night, Tuesday night, commute back to your house after work on Wednesday. Work Thursday and Friday from home.
Not sure where your parents are in relation to your job's new location.

[sicilygirl]

I drive 65 miles each way to work, 3 days a week. I work at home the other 2 days and if I need to work on Saturday. It's not too bad for me, but I don't know if it's comparable because I'm in Texas. It's easy highway driving and no traffic. It takes me an hour. I also don't have kids. In your situation, it sounds much more difficult and like a longer commute which I agree with other posters would be soul-sucking. Good luck!

[auberge]

Refi, rent out your house and move (in the order)

Almost no job is worth that kind of commute (for me)

[cole]

Jan 11, 2013 11:32:38 GMT -5 Raggedeannie said:

Jan 11, 2013 10:38:04 GMT -5 cookies said:

Living with my parents won't work unfortunately. I could suck up the drive (I've done it before), but my husband couldn't commute to NYC.

I think PP meant, could YOU stay with your parents during the 3 days you are working, and at your current house with your hubs the rest of the week. Say, commute to your job Monday morning, stay with parents Monday night, Tuesday night, commute back to your house after work on Wednesday. Work Thursday and Friday from home.
Not sure where your parents are in relation to your job's new location.

I had a coworker do something similar to this in a PA to DC commute. They were tied there due to her H's job, but taking a closer job didn't pay nearly enough so she dealt with it for 2ish years and it was awful. If you have the resources (even taking a hit) to rent or move, I'd go that route.

[phunluvin82]

I would rent out your condo and move. That commute sounds horrible.

Given the gas + tolls, how much would this commute cost you per month? I would imagine that you're looking at a few hundred? The $300 rent deficit might actually be less than that commute would cost you...you might actually come out ahead by renting it, even at a deficit.

Once you have more equity and/or the market rebounds, you could hopefully sell without taking a $30k hit.

[kitty]

Does your DH commute to NYC every day? If you could move further in to Fairfield Country (specifically a town without train access) it would be more affordable. Maybe you could drop him off/pick him up at the train?

[dochas]

I was in your situation when my company moved from lower Manhattan to Westchester. I did the commute by car - they paid for way more than the commute cost for 2 years. We also got a retention bonus after 6 months. So I commuted from Brooklyn to Westchester for about 3 years. It was miserable and really sucked the life out of me. I don't even remember how much weight I gained but it would be even less fun with a child. And when I finally decided to leave it was very difficult to interview.

If you're going to move, I would do it now. But I would also push for more from your company. If you decide to stick it out for a while I would want it guaranteed to work from home 2 days per week and under no circumstances would I work 9-5 on the days you're driving. Do 8-4 at the latest.

[marie427]

I have a long commute that I'm fine with, but I take PT. Driving a long way is a whole ball of wax and $25/day is crazy! Ditto the idea of renting your place out. I'd consider staying only if you can work 2 days a week from home.

[cookies]

:Y:

[steph96]

Driving that far sucks. I did a 75 mile commute for a few months and it was horrible. I can't even imagine doing it if I had kids. I had no time to do anything.