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[dixeedeluxe]

I don't give cards with kid gifts. And, a book sometimes IS the gift! So, to me, it seems gift grabby.

[erniebufflo]

I can't zoom in, but is it a book theme and they're asking for books?

Seems kind of weird. But I'm putting, "no gifts please" on our invites because they really just got a ton of awesome toys at Christmas and don't need anymore, so really, I know I can't stop the grandparents, but no one else needs to buy them stuff.

[AndyCohen]

I kind of like it more for a first bday than a shower because Audrey will enjoy books much more at that age.

[The Foozzler]

I think it is cute for a shower but weird for a first birthday.

As a teacher, I give a lot of books. I usually prefer it to a card anyway. But don't tell me how to give a gift.

[eav2c]

I dont like it for baby showers and this is no exception!

[ruby412]

Jan 28, 2013 15:26:05 GMT -5 @chelsmonster said:

I don't like people telling me what gift to give their child. I don't know it seems rude.

I'm with Chels. I think this is strange.

[erniebufflo]

In a similar vein, I just got an invite to a wedding shower and it says "In lieu of traditional gifts, let's shower them with cash!" Ugh.

[punkyjulster]

The note wouldn't bother me. I think it's a good idea. I would rather spend the money on a book than a card that will get tossed out.

[katie]

I don't know, this stuff doesn't bother me. I don't know half the time what to get my friends kids so any type of hint instead of "anything" is always appreciated. I hate spending money on something that they won't like, already have, etc so it takes the guess work out for me. I'm fine with this type of theme for baby showers too.

[biblionerd]

I loathe people telling me what (and what not to) get as a gift. It's a GIFT- you don't get to choose what I get you. I think it's so tacky. I also have never understood the "please don't bring gifts", etc. I think it puts people in an awkward position. I mean, I would feel crappy not giving a kid a present on their first birthday, even if it was something little. A friend did this and I begrudgingly listened and didn't bring one, but other people did. So it was just a weird awkward "why did some people bring gifts and some didn't". Then people brought just cards, and some did money assuming that (like Ernie said) they have so many toys already. I just say let people bring what they want. I would be a little more receptive to "a gift is not necessary" which leaves it more open to either bring it or don't, but gives you the out to not bring one and feel better about it. One thing we did with Linus for his birthday and 1st xmas since he got so much was to put a bunch of them away. Then over the rest of the year he'd get one every now and then. Nice to have a "back stock" for when he was sick, etc.

[rxbeth]

I very much dislike this for showers or any party. People should be able to give/do what they want.

I'm so torn because I want to say 'no presents' for her birthday but I know people don't listen to it anyways. My brother and SIL put this on my nephews invite but I KNEW his side of the family would still give gifts so I just gave a small present and a check with money for education fund.

erniebufflo - do you still intend to open whatever presents they do get in front of the guests at the party?

[AndyCohen]

Jan 28, 2013 15:29:10 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

In a similar vein, I just got an invite to a wedding shower and it says "In lieu of traditional gifts, let's shower them with cash!" Ugh.

I find this incredibly tacky!

[rainbowchip]

I guess its an UO but I see nothing wrong with this. Kid probably needs books! And its not like they are saying to bring the kid skittles or something.

I always ask what to get the kid when I'm invited to parties so this takes away a step.

[mumegs]

I don't see anything wrong with it, if I bought the kid a book as a gift I would still get a card which they're just going to throw away. I don't see it as a requirement, if you don't want to do it then get a card.
Although now that I think about it, kids books are expensive. So I would only do it if I could find a good book for the same price as a card, which might be tough.

[The Foozzler]

Jan 28, 2013 15:47:59 GMT -5 rainbowchip said:

I guess its an UO but I see nothing wrong with this. Kid probably needs books! And its not like they are saying to bring the kid skittles or something.

I always ask what to get the kid when I'm invited to parties so this takes away a step.

See, my problem with this is that it is asking for a book in addition to whatever else you give.

[Deleted]

I see no harm. I love being told what to buy kids. It's so hard because they have so much already. Now being told cash as a gift for any event would irk me.

[The Foozzler]

Jan 28, 2013 15:29:10 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

In a similar vein, I just got an invite to a wedding shower and it says "In lieu of traditional gifts, let's shower them with cash!" Ugh.

Puke.

Of course everyone wants cash for a wedding.  It is totally inappropriate to say it to people on an invite.

[dixeedeluxe]

I don't mind being told what to buy....when I ask.

I guess it would also depend on who was invited. We only invite immediate family to bday parties. I wouldn't feel the need to put a "registry" or "gift request" like that in an invite. I only do the invite for the 1st birthday so we have it as a memory. After that, e-vite.

[dixeedeluxe]

I'm bitter, and this is the part that actually makes me roll my eyes because I started reading with Edie day 1 and she didn't enjoy it until...just now.  So, as a seasoned Debby Downer, I'd never make a statement like this because it could be assume the reverse is also true.  Which, it is not always.

Williams will become
Very smart indeed
If we start early
He will soon learn to read!

Read more: pandce.proboards.com/thread/129099/wdprobiest#ixzz2JJ2qyBVe

[fusion]

The only problem I have with it is asking for a book and a gift. If it was just asking for books instead of gifts I wouldn't have an issue.

[laurack]

I would assume they meant a book instead of a gift, not a book AND a gift?Am i wrong?

either way its a bit strange. BUT if they meant a book as the gift I kind of get that, I mean I'm already worrying about if we have a 1st birthday party will people buy all kinds of plastic crap for her, I mean she doesn't NEED more stuff and our house is small..

I don't know about the "no gifts please" either because that might be confusing... then I'd wonder do they really mean NO GIFTS or do they mean just give us money or a gift card?! I don't want people thinking I mean oh just give us money if I say no need to buy presents.

[dixeedeluxe]

It says "please bring a book instead of a card"

[jfh]

Jan 28, 2013 15:56:07 GMT -5 hoodyhoo said:

I see no harm. I love being told what to buy kids. It's so hard because they have so much already. Now being told cash as a gift for any event would irk me.

This, word for word.

[laurack]

I just don't know why they'd want so many books. I haven't bought a single book and the house is full of books. I'm like, can I say "take a book when you leave"? hahaha

[AndyCohen]

Jan 28, 2013 16:03:54 GMT -5 laurack said:

Oh I agree with laurack. I was assuming they were asking for books as the gift. I have a problem if they're asking for both.

[dixeedeluxe]

I asked my sisters to get Adeline books for christmas because, though we do have lots of books, most of them have messages TO EDIE in them!

But, again, my sisters, and no formal request for that.

[laurack]

Well if it's definitely saying they want a book AND a card, then that's stupid! losers. just bring some old book thats all tattered and covered in dog poop or something and be all "oh I didn't know you meant a NEW book! because of the gift being new?"

[TrudyCampbell]

I had it for my baby shower and loved it. I never understand all the hatred.

[mamasaurus]

Jan 28, 2013 15:29:10 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

In a similar vein, I just got an invite to a wedding shower and it says "In lieu of traditional gifts, let's shower them with cash!" Ugh.

[lolaburns]

Tacky. Especially since they are asking for a book instead of a CARD and not as the gift. I think it is strange to make gift requests like that outside of shower & bridal registries, unless someone specifically asks you what you would like for a gift.


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