*state of the ute*

[awick14]

It's that time of the week again.

1. Where are you in your TTC journey?

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related?

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people?

[awick14]

1. Cycle 4 cd 19, I should O any day now. Which sucks that I am out if town.

2. I am so excited. When I get home in 2 weeks I will no longer be working OOT anymore!!! I am so stoked! DH was so happy when I called him yesterday.

3. I want to hold off telling people until at least 12 weeks. Other then my parents and his parents. But DH doesn't want anyone to know until everyone can know. He says that way no one could tell someone else before we get the chance to. I get that but when I am pregnant I want my mom to know as we are so close that it would be weird not telling her. I could care less I'd the ILs know though. I guess we will just have to wait. (Sorry for the vent this is just a recent conversation I had with DH)

[annabear07]

1. Where are you in your TTC journey? Cycle 4 CD23 5ish DPO

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related? Well this time last week I was convinced that I was in the middle of an anovulatory cycle, but then I ovulated! Happy but mad that we missed our window. Lesson learned for next cycle!

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people? I go back and forth with this. I think we will tell anyone that we think will
be supportive of us if we need it. This includes family and close friends. I think...

[belovedbride07]

1. Cycle 9, CD 15. I think the twinges I'm feeling might turn into full-blown ovulation pain, which would put this at the earliest I've O'd since last May.

2. I'm feeling very defeated, like "why even try?" this month. DH has a follow-up with his regular doctor next week and then will get a referral to a urologist; I look forward to having answers.

3. I go back and forth on whether to tell our parents and siblings a few days after a positive test or wait until after our first OB appointment. I'd rather not tell work until 12 weeks, but depending on how sick I am and how well I can hide it, I may tell earlier.

[simpsongal]

1. Cycle 3, CD 8 (temp dropping, probably going to O around CD10 or 12).

2. DH and I had our first TTC-driven sx last night. We were both in the mood earlier in the day, but after making dinner and watching The State of the Union, we basically guilted ourselves into doing it.

3. I'm not sure. I know better than to tell too soon, but I think I'll tell my closer CWs as soon as I get a BFP. I'll probably tell my boss early on too. I'd like to tell my parents in person, so that may help us hold off from telling other people (they're a few hours away). My folks are coming down next weekend so we probably wouldn't see them for another 6-8 weeks after that.

[coribelle26]

1. Cycle 7, CD 7.
2. Both H's best friend and sister had their babies in late November 2012. If we get pregnant this cycle, our due date would be right in that range. I am weirdly hopeful that it means it will happen this month. This is crazycakes.
3. Unless we were in some situation where we can't keep the secret, I'd like to not tell anyone until after we hear a heartbeat. General public (meaning beyond parents, our two best friends, and SIL and BIL) I'd like to wait until 12 weeks.

[bazinga]

1. First official cycle TTC. CD 14.
2. This is my third cycle off BC. First was 44 days and second was 27 days so I am not sure what to expect yet.
3. I think I would like to wait to tell until 12 weeks but maybe tell my parents after the first doc appt. I guess I will decide when it happens based on time of year and who I will be seeing in person and what is happening at work. So I guess basically I have no idea !

[FastHands]

1. Cycle 7, CD 7
2. Looking forward to my ob/gyn appt on Fri when I will get a referral for urologist for DH and I assume blood work for me. My hope needs a boost... or an ejector seat.
3. I'm really sick of making plans for something that may never happen, so I've stopped thinking about it, honestly.

[pooh8402]

1. Cycle 2 cd 35 9 dpo.
2. My weird cycle ended up in a very delayed ovulation. I wish FF had stuck with my original O date (on cd 21 instead of 26) because then I could have tested tomorrow.
3. We're going to wait until at least 10 weeks. DH wants to have a big party to reveal a pregnancy. I want to tell our immediate family right away. I told him that the simple fact that we would be having a party is suspicious enough. He essentially doesn't want to favor one side over the other, telling my mom before his mom or vice versa. I would tell work after that time too.

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[kdubs923]

Lurker coming out to play!

1. Where are you in your TTC journey? 4th cycle after mm/c, CD 31, 9 dpo

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related? Um, this is my first cycle charting and I'm finding it way more interesting that I had anticipated. I thought it would stress me out, but I like having more info (and in my brain, 'control' over the situation, even though I can't control anything)

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people? We told immediate family (both sets of parents, BILs/SILs) and 2 of my BFFs. We would likely do the same as their support was very helpful during/after the miscarriage. Extended family, work, general friends will wait until 2nd tri.

[mtgirl]

1. Cycle 2; 19 dpo I am nervous! I did not feel great about this cycle but no period yet and my boobs are killing me.

2. I am obsessing about when to test and how to involve dh. I am making my self wait until tomorrow to test. But do I test and let dh know of it is positive or involve him a bit to wait out the test with me?

3. We won't tell anyone but my running buddy until 12 weeks. My running partners needs to know why I may slack off a bit. But they they are great about keeping silent and isolated from my main friends group. But my mother is the mouth of the south. If we tell family I might as well get a billboard. I want to keep it just to myself for a bit.

[simpsongal]

LOL @ "mouth of the south."

awick, I feel like the PG lady should be able to tell her mom early on. Well, that's our dynamic anyway. My mom and I are really close - I could see telling her before DH's parents.

The 'who and when' really seems to run the gamut -- pop on over to Got Pregnant, there's a thread or two about it.

btw - Am I the only one that lurks on "Got Pregnant" to see what those ladies are facing/discussing?

[kateross]

Feb 13, 2013 10:05:40 GMT -5 awick14 said:

It's that time of the week again.

1. Where are you in your TTC journey?

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related?

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people?

1. CD28.  About 12DPO.  I will give myself the optimistic plan of POA on Friday morning, if AF has not arrived yet.

2.  BFF is PG.  I learned about the fingers/toes separating at kumquat size.  I like the fact that I don't have to do much researching during my PG months, considering she's doing it all.

3.  We would likely tell close friends and family at 8-12 weeks.  Knowing myself, I will likely out us at first doctor's visit (after BFP).  I can't hold things like that to myself.

[kateross]

Feb 13, 2013 15:10:55 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

LOL @ "mouth of the south."

awick, I feel like the PG lady should be able to tell her mom early on. Well, that's our dynamic anyway. My mom and I are really close - I could see telling her before DH's parents.

The 'who and when' really seems to run the gamut -- pop on over to Got Pregnant, there's a thread or two about it.

btw - Am I the only one that lurks on "Got Pregnant" to see what those ladies are facing/discussing?

I tried to go in there once, but it gives me the false sense of hope and excitement that I still don't have at this point, so sadly, no.   

[kateross]

Besides, I already have a PG GF that I check in regularly to offer her support and share in the excitement, so I get my deets from her at this time.

[gibbylod]

Feb 13, 2013 15:00:30 GMT -5 mtgirl said:

2. I am obsessing about when to test and how to involve dh. I am making my self wait until tomorrow to test. But do I test and let dh know of it is positive or involve him a bit to wait out the test with me?

I ended up asking DH if he wanted to be present when I test because I wanted him to feel like I was including him in the process. He thought about it for a bit and then told me he preferred that I surprise him when I do get a BFP.

I think you should just ask him if he wants to be there or not when you test.

[awick14]

I lurk every now and then on got pregnant.

Simpson- I will probably end up telling my mom and dad and just tell them we are waiting until 10-12 weeks before we tell others. My mom had a few miscarriages when she was TTC, (one as far along as 20 weeks) if we ever do have a miscarriage I would tell her anyways. So what's the point in not telling her right away.

[mtgirl]

Feb 13, 2013 15:10:55 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

LOL @ "mouth of the south."

awick, I feel like the PG lady should be able to tell her mom early on. Well, that's our dynamic anyway. My mom and I are really close - I could see telling her before DH's parents.

The 'who and when' really seems to run the gamut -- pop on over to Got Pregnant, there's a thread or two about it.

btw - Am I the only one that lurks on "Got Pregnant" to see what those ladies are facing/discussing?

Slowly raises hand..... I lurk there too.

[gibbylod]

1. Cycle 3 CD 35!!

2. See #1. Still no AF and no BFP!!! At first I found it odd that I didn't get the usually signs of AF arriving (boobs are normally extremely sore 1 week before AF). When AF didn't show I got my hopes up, then 2 BFN later and a week late now, I'm starting to get really frustrated. Mostly because I can't look forward to the next cycle yet. I feel like I'm stuck in limbo

3. We will probably tell parents soon after finding out, the rest of the family after hearing the heartbeat, and friends and extended family after 12 weeks. I'm self employed so I don't have to worry about telling work.

[mtgirl]

Feb 13, 2013 16:02:15 GMT -5 gibbylod said:

Feb 13, 2013 15:00:30 GMT -5 mtgirl said:

2. I am obsessing about when to test and how to involve dh. I am making my self wait until tomorrow to test. But do I test and let dh know of it is positive or involve him a bit to wait out the test with me?

I ended up asking DH if he wanted to be present when I test because I wanted him to feel like I was including him in the process. He thought about it for a bit and then told me he preferred that I surprise him when I do get a BFP.

I think you should just ask him if he wants to be there or not when you test.

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That is so......logical. I think you are right. Communication. The best option every time.

[thoseareradishes]

1. Cycle 9, CD 23

2. I've been spotting and its getting heavier so tomorrow will probably be CD1. Sigh.

3. My sisters ask every time I see them, so everyone will know pretty quickly. That is ok with me.

[vmars]

1. Cycle 3, Day 13. A bit confused over this cycle...my temps shot down early so I took an OPK on CD11 & it was negative, but darker than a normal negative is w/me -- my temps are now going up, but I still have fertile CM. I am hoping it just a "teaser" again and I O this weekend. I didn't give it my all early this week b/c I was sick and even though we would've been okay with our timing, I dunno if it was my best effort lol.

2. I also lurk on Got Pregnant and MM Moms...I am jealous of all the cute baby bumps!

3. I will probably wait until 8 weeks for family and very close friends and 12 weeks for other relative and friends, but it will all depend how I feel once I get KU. I make no promises

I wil def. tell DH when I test, there really isn't any other way since we work the same schedules -- so I'd have to be super sneaky or do it at work, but I def. do not want to learn I am PG at work!

[krystee]

1. Cycle 2, CD 28.
2. I'm excited. I thought this was an annovulatory cycle, but I Od on CD 24. What's odd is my chart and the cheapo OPK confirm it, but the CBE was never positive.
3. I am a major over-sharer. I have no idea if I could wait 12 weeks. I'm pretty sure our parents and close friends will know immediately.

[awick14]

Feb 13, 2013 16:08:04 GMT -5 @callmefia said:

Feb 13, 2013 16:03:38 GMT -5 awick14 said:

I lurk every now and then on got pregnant.

Simpson- I will probably end up telling my mom and dad and just tell them we are waiting until 10-12 weeks before we tell others. My mom had a few miscarriages when she was TTC, (one as far along as 20 weeks) if we ever do have a miscarriage I would tell her anyways. So what's the point in not telling her right away.

This is it for me. I'm an open book. I think if I m/c I would be fairly comfortable telling people. I'm usually pretty obvious about my mood so people can read when I'm really bummed.

I'm an open book too. It can suck at times. Lol

DH is just afraid that my mom will have the "mouth of the south" once she finds out. I don't think she will.

[goodygumdrop]

1. Where are you in your TTC journey? Cycle 4 CD27, 12dpo... I think I'm going to test tomorrow!!!

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related? nothing really, just trying to patiently wait.

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people? I will tell my mom right away and I should notify work asap because I am around radiation and would need to declare my pregnancy in order to get a fetal badge.  This makes me nervous because I would prefer to not tell anyone until we are out of the first trimester (especially work), but if I declare my pregnancy I won't get as much radiation exposure. tough call. *-)

[Cricket0619]

1. Cycle 4, 1 or 2 dpo
2. hmmm not that I can think of
3. We will tell our parents and siblings right away and close friends probably 10 weeks and others 12 weeks.

[awick14]

Feb 13, 2013 22:21:37 GMT -5 goodygumdrop said:

1. Where are you in your TTC journey? Cycle 4 CD27, 12dpo... I think I'm going to test tomorrow!!!

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related? nothing really, just trying to patiently wait.

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people? I will tell my mom right away and I should notify work asap because I am around radiation and would need to declare my pregnancy in order to get a fetal badge.  This makes me nervous because I would prefer to not tell anyone until we are out of the first trimester (especially work), but if I declare my pregnancy I won't get as much radiation exposure. tough call. *-)

That would be a tough call but I think telling your work is better in the long run.

[Deleted]

1. Cycle 2, CD10. It's is the first cycle properly charting, temping, OPK.
2. Nope
3. Depends what surgeon says. I'm high risk, so I don't want to spread the news until its more certain. Maybe 4 months for family. Strangely, I get more high risk the long I am pregnant. So I'll be hesitant to tell anyone. I work from home, so ths won't be an issue.

[statlerwaldorf]

1. Where are you in your TTC journey? TTC#2 for 3 years.  CD17

2.Anything interesting/funny/neurotic to share TTC related? Nope

3. QOTW/QTKY- CBH but when you do become pregnant how long will you wait before you tell people? We told close friends and family around 9 weeks with DD.  We waited until after we saw the heartbeat on the u/s.  We don't live as close to family as we used to, so I might tell earlier if we get to see them face to face.  I'd rather tell them in person.

[coribelle26]

I'm burying this little confession in here. Today I opened a fortune cookie that I got as part of a gift from a student, and the fortune said "A wish will be granted after a long delay." And I started to cry, like a nutjob. TTC has broken my brain.