Sorry, still creepy. I tried searching for the post and couldn't find it on Google. And why me anyway? I haven't done anything to duckis. I don't think I've even talked to anyone from RE for like a year.
You kept the photo of my son to mock for a year? That's fucking weird. I'm sorry, but it is. I'm not wounded so much as baffled. I don't get why anyone over there cares about me at this point, let alone enough to save my pictures for mockery a year later.
If I seem a little creeped out by that, I really don't think that's out of the realm of reasonable behavior.
Say whut!? and where is this? People are so fucking weird and it is creepy.
You kept the photo of my son to mock for a year? That's fucking weird. I'm sorry, but it is. I'm not wounded so much as baffled. I don't get why anyone over there cares about me at this point, let alone enough to save my pictures for mockery a year later.
If I seem a little creeped out by that, I really don't think that's out of the realm of reasonable behavior.
It is completely fucking weird! You are remaining much more clam than I would be.
i feel like i might need to find an additional therapist. i've been w/ my current one since i moved here almost four years ago and i love her. i think she has really helped me sort out issues w/ anxiety, social stuff, and my marriage. but now all i am talking about is the death of my dad. i don't feel like i have made any progress, as i literally talk about the same thing every other week. but then i have doubts and wonder if that's just the nature of the circumstances. it's hard to move forward when things are ongoing and you hear new stuff every week and you see it in the newspaper and are waiting for the courts to get a move on, etc. i don't know. i just feel stagnant and don't know what to do. i feel like i make a little progress then something happens and i move two steps back.
eta: after re-reading this i can acknowledge that i have made progress. i am obviously functioning normally on a daily basis again and i'm no longer crying every single day. but now it's more trying to deal with everything going on in my head, and i feel that that is where i'm struggling.
I think a sudden death and a violent one at that come with its own set of issues and well, damage for lack of a better word. Perhaps look for someone who works with this specifically and even a support group. It can feel good to be around and talk with people who are in the trenches with you and "get it" without having to really explain anything. I'm sorry you are hurting and that this happened to you and your family.
I think a sudden death and a violent one at that come with its own set of issues and well, damage for lack of a better word. Perhaps look for someone who works with this specifically and even a support group. It can feel good to be around and talk with people who are in the trenches with you and "get it" without having to really explain anything. I'm sorry you are hurting and that this happened to you and your family.
thanks, cleo. a few weeks after it happened i looked for a support group specifically for people dealing with homicide, but the only one i found within two hours of me was VERY religion based and i'm not comfortable with that for various reasons. i would like a support group though because even talking to my therapist i don't feel like she knows my lyfe. lol. i will search around for a group that deals with traumatic death though. i may have more luck with that.
I get you on the religious group, I don't think I would go that direction either. I certainly wouldn't want it to be about how it was "God's will" or some other bullshit like that.
I think the traumatic group might be a good way to go, because even if it is not the exact same thing as the others, the feelings might be pretty similar. My mom met her best friend through a support deal from my dad's flight, her husband was also on the plane. They became wonderful, dear friends and she got my mom out there doing things again (her kids were older than my sister and me). My point is, you might end up finding wonderful people through this and being able to talk with that person outside of group could be great especially since they are not family and you don't want to feel guilty for making them feel sad.
I took K in for his 6 month well baby appointment this morning and that boy is huge! He is 85% for weight and over 50% for height....or the other way around, I can't remember now. But still. He more than made up for his weight gain issues he was having early on! Dd was never even on the charts for either one when she was little! He had to get 4 shots though. I hate shots!
My H has made amazing progress on the work to the new house! I'm so excited to see the finished product! I need to start picking out tile and paint and countertops and carpet!
My work is having an Ice Festival tomorrow. We build these giant tobogan runs, and snow tunnels, and people do ice carvings. It's super fun so I'm taking dd to it. We haven't had much mommy/daughter time since K came along so it will be nice to do something just the two of us!
You guys, there's not necessarily "MEANING" behind any of our jokes. I doubt Duckis was trying to be deliberately flattering or mean-spirited with her photo - that's how inside jokes get created sometimes. Someone does something random/funny (like LHC's picture of her kid in the box), someone duplicates it, and suddenly it's 5 years later and there are 20 photos of people's kids and dogs and a squirrel in a box labeled "Sekrit hidawt" for no apparent reason, and that IS the inside joke.
Everything is not an explicit expression of love or a personal affront. I don't know if you all have wounded hearts from the creepy/mean/whatever actions of internet people past, but MM is purely, PURELY for shits and giggles and lighthearted mockery of ourselves and others.
I know a bunch of you are going to read this as me trying to be the breezy REer all "Lighten up ML!", but seriously, we like you guys participating, and we come here and engage with you for a reason, and fuck, can't we all be brothers?
Lucy, I don't know - it wasn't me responding , it was them. But if I had to guess, I'd say it's because (some of) you guys have a habit of getting bent out of shape IMMEDIATELY with anything that could be construed as even remotely offensive. Everyone here immediately piped up about how horrible and creepy it was, so it can't be entirely surprising that the response was "Well eff you too!"
And btw, I'm not speaking for everyone, or defending everyone, or saying that no one is ever being an asshole when they make fun (or, or, or). Maybe they are sometimes. I'm just saying don't jump to the most negative conclusion right off the bat.
Then why get bitchy when I point it out? and why deny it at first? Why not just be like, "It was a joke, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to seem stalkery"? I'd like to think it was harmless and fun, but the replies in this post seem to indicate it really wasn't.
I get you guys want participants for MM, so do your smoothing over or whatever, but leave me out of it!
Nobody apologized profusely, because it was a ridiculous thing for which to demand an apology. She didn't actually do anything creepy and stalkery. And who denied what? I'm pretty sure they just mocked the outrage about it.
I get you guys want participants for MM, so do your smoothing over or whatever, but leave me out of it!
I was actually hoping no one else would sign up so I could cancel it due to lack of interest, but this thread sort of got the interest flowing. Now I'm stuck making all these goddamn polls.
Personally, I just felt like your reaction was so completely absurd.....that THAT was the conclusion you came to...that it was hard for me to respond with any sort of seriousness. It's days like these that show just how completely different our board culture is.
We didn't like ML so we left? It's not like we hung out on ML any more than now to begin with. We left the nest during one of the great clusterfucks of 2011. It didn't have anything to do with ML whatsoever.
People referenced FUPAs and cars because someone here actually suggested that in another MM thread. It's one of those inside jokes you talked about before. One from, you know, this board.
Did you guys miss when Buddha photoshopped pictures of Noisy's kid to say he was kicking puppies and into random other bad guy situations? That's what MM is about, making jokes and poking fun at other people's stuff. You entered last year and it was something that could be played on for this year's competition. Again, not about ML or you necessarily.
Post by CaliSpiderman on Feb 22, 2013 16:59:03 GMT -5
Do you guys not remember Karma saying you guys should do MM with a FUPA category? It's not like that was some sort of dig at your board.
And yeah, I'm still fucking baffled how anyone came to the conclusion you did. It's absurd to me. So, like I said, different board culture. We both think the others' way of thinking is totally nuts. Obviously my way of thinking is right though.
Haven't been here in a year? Wha? A bunch of us come here on the regular.
I can't speak for anyone else, but I come here to read commentary on interesting stuff (news, politics, celebs), be entertained, AND because I like some of you. I LIKE you.
I don't know where the disconnect is. I feel like there are many hilarious, awesome people here, and many hilarious, awesome REers, and somehow we always end up in these weird, awkward arguments/standoffs.
Part of it seems to be that we don't play the game that a lot of you seem to with tip toeing around regs, constantly apologizing and explaining yourselves to one another, and doing the requisite sucking up and/or innocuous posting long enough for it to be acceptable to have a dissenting opinion or call someone out.
Post by CaliSpiderman on Feb 22, 2013 17:12:25 GMT -5
I wasn't referring to when you were saying "this is hilarious and a little wtf". I was referring to the melodramatic conclusion you made that someone saved your kid's picture for a year in order to mock you a year later. As if the real purpose of March Madness was some long con to get you to post your kid's picture.
I don't think you're all humorless hags, for what it's worth. You're not a hive mind. Just some of you are humorless hags. And really, we owe you guys quite a debt for taking Assbride off our hands.
Come on, that happens here a lot. Are you really disagreeing with that? I feel like you guys are pretty open about it being that way. I've seen many references to "Who ARE you?" or "You haven't been around long enough to understand the back story on this person, so your opinion is invalid" and the like.
I swear to god, REers could be here for 9 days posting pics in OOTD threads, offering advice, participating in discussions, being supportive, and if on day 10 one of us was like "I disagree with something Tamb said", there would be an explosion of "WHY DO YOU EVEN COME HERE IF YOU HATE US SO MUUUCHHHH GOOODDDDDD"
I don't know why I'm even engaging in this right now. Lucy, I personally don't want your feelings to be hurt. There are things I really like about you, and things that make me a little mental, and overall I think you're good people. You probably think the same thing about me. And I should probably just stay out of arguments between you and other REers.
I'm going to go find that video of that sloth giving the girl the flower.
JFC. Yes. I'm the asshole because I remembered a funny picture from last year's MM and mimicked it this year, which is completely and totally...what we do. I honestly don't know what I have to apologize for (except maybe the goodwill comment, which was a JOKE, which came AFTER multiple people jumped on me for being a creepy stalker).
I swear to god, REers could be here for 9 days posting pics in OOTD threads, offering advice, participating in discussions, being supportive, and if on day 10 one of us was like "I disagree with something Tamb said", there would be an explosion of "WHY DO YOU EVEN COME HERE IF YOU HATE US SO MUUUCHHHH GOOODDDDDD"
LOL that a simple "I disagree" would trigger an explosion. What provokes a united board front is unflattering generalizations about the board, a la "GOD, this is what always happens here," "you all tiptoe around the regulars," and "you're up her ass because she's a regular."
But then, you seem to think you know us better than we know ourselves, so I'll defer to you, I guess.
I'll concede that the hyperbole happens on both sides. I propose an experiment where we try to give each other the benefit of the doubt and attempt to be less reactive. Either we'll all be cooler with each other, or it will end in a fiery, sarcasm and tear-filled board war.
I feel like you don't use pictures of people's kids to make a joke or be satirical. It just automatically puts you in weirdo territory.
Even when the person is using a picture of their own kid to make that joke?
It's not like she photoshopped a picture of someone else's kid that she stole off facebook for shits and giggles. If someone here did the same thing it would've probably been seen as an ass-kissing tribute.