My heart hurts for you. Just remember to do whatever you need to do, (not what you think you should do) and be glad you have your beautiful baby and your father knew her.
Such a sweet photo. I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost my dad after a long hard battle.
And I hope this isn't inappropriate to share, but when someone loses a parent, especially a father, I'm reminded of this quote from Grey's Anatomy, of all places.
Cristina: There's a club, the Dead Dads Club. And you can't be in it until you're in it. You can try to understand. You can sympathize, but until you feel that loss...My dad died when I was nine. I'm really sorry you had to join the club. George: I don't know how to exist in a world where my dad doesn't. Cristina: Yeah, that never really changes.
Ah, now I'm tearing up in the middle of the airport.
From everything you've posted, I know you and your family made your dad's last months as wonderful as anyone could hope, surrounded by the people he loved most. And I know how much you've been there for your mom, too. You did a good job, Tamb.
Post by lilafowler on Feb 24, 2013 14:20:26 GMT -5
Oh Tamb-I know you knew this was coming but it still must be so weird for you. I know it sounds trite but I hope you can find some peace in the fact that he's not in pain anymore.
I will admit though that family things like funerals generally suck-I hope that's not the case for you guys.
I'm so glad Joanna got to spend the time with him that she did!
My heart hurts for you. Just remember to do whatever you need to do, (not what you think you should do) and be glad you have your beautiful baby and your father knew her.
I agree wholeheartedly with this. There is no right or wrong way to feel or act, and you need to remember to take care of yourself.
I am very sorry for your loss, and I definitely understand the combined feeling of grief and relief, as both of my parents died after terminal illnesses (my mother just this year and my father several years ago). When my father passed away, I felt relieved not only that his suffering was over, but also that my mother could move on a bit-- she had dedicated herself so fully to caring for him that her life stopped for a while. When my mother passed away, I felt some relief that she had suffered only briefly (it was a very short illness, relatively speaking) and that she would no longer be in pain.
You and your family are in my thoughts, and I wish you peace during this difficult time. Please feel free to PM me (even though you don't really know me) if you want to talk to someone who is going through the loss of a parent, too.
My deepest and sincerest condolences are with you and your family. Allow yourself to grieve however you need to. I am glad that he is at peace and no longer suffering. (((HUGS)))