Do you think it's strange...

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 9:50:49 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

I still can't get over how someone on MM said they were bringing in 200,000 a year and considered themselves lower middle class. Sorry, off topic lol.

Haha. That is certainly flammable.

[cleo29]

Mar 3, 2013 9:39:37 GMT -5 Kore said:

Mar 3, 2013 9:31:35 GMT -5 psychmom said:

This proves that a persons claim to monetary wealth (and I use that term loosely) can buy MMs silence and/or support.

'Hey! I drove my car into a lake! It's cool, though. I has money in da bank.'

MM: Good for you! You didn't need to drive that POS Nissan anyways!

'Hey! I drove my car into a lake!'

MM: OMG! Your efund only has $1000 and your retirement isn't maxed out yet! You're BSC and are doing lyfe wrong.

That's not really true. A lot of people have met her IRL, and a lot of others have gotten to know her well over the years. There was a huge post (possibly the destination wedding one) where a shitload of people expressed concern about her moving too quickly.

I'm not at all defending this open house thing, but every board with well known regulars tends to cut the regs some slack WRT flaming when they do crazy shit. Especially when they frame it from a confession standpoint.

People here have given regulars, let's call it tough love, when they seem to be moving in the wrong direction or things are moving quickly in regards to their love life.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 9:52:51 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Mar 3, 2013 9:39:37 GMT -5 Kore said:

That's not really true. A lot of people have met her IRL, and a lot of others have gotten to know her well over the years. There was a huge post (possibly the destination wedding one) where a shitload of people expressed concern about her moving too quickly.

I'm not at all defending this open house thing, but every board with well known regulars tends to cut the regs some slack WRT flaming when they do crazy shit. Especially when they frame it from a confession standpoint.

People here have given regulars, let's call it tough love, when they seem to be moving in the wrong direction or things are moving quickly in regards to their love life.

This happens on MM, too, and has happened with Rikki in past threads. But if it happens in every single thread, there's a good chance she'll be completely run off, which isn't what most of us want. Only the Bliss & ashbride types stick around after repeated harsh flamings.

[cleo29]

Mar 3, 2013 9:57:10 GMT -5 Kore said:

Mar 3, 2013 9:52:51 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

People here have given regulars, let's call it tough love, when they seem to be moving in the wrong direction or things are moving quickly in regards to their love life.

This happens on MM, too, and has happened with Rikki in past threads. But if it happens in every single thread, there's a good chance she'll be completely run off, which isn't what most of us want. Only the Bliss & ashbride types stick around after repeated harsh flamings.

 I get that, I just didn't want people to think we talk the talk but don't walk the walk.

[Deleted]

Mar 3, 2013 9:51:20 GMT -5 Kore said:

Bliss posts crazy shit every single time she posts. Rikki has years of non-crazy history. If that's selective flaming, I think it's justifiable. And not related to the $$$ in their bank accounts.

Right? 

Bliss is bat shit and has told numerous regulars to DIAF during typical board conversations. She behaves erratically and occasionally in a threatening manner. 

Rikki is super sweet to everyone and wouldn't threaten a fly. I've gone to brunch with her and she's very normal and just as nice in person. 

I promise this isn't about money. 

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Okay then, honest question time. Do you think she is making wise decisions in her life? Do you feel like most of the board thinks she is making good decisions? I'd love to see a blind poll about whether people think she is making good decisions in her life/is a train-wreck. (I'd do it, but I am on my phone again.)

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 10:03:24 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Okay then, honest question time. Do you think she is making wise decisions in her life? Do you feel like most of the board thinks she is making good decisions? I'd love to see a blind poll about whether people think she is making good decisions in her life/is a train-wreck. (I'd do it, but I am on my phone again.)

Dozens of people expressed concern about her moving too fast in a post a couple weeks ago. I don't think it's a secret. But she's already pregnant, she wants the baby, and she can afford it. What will calling her a train wreck in every post accomplish?

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Mar 3, 2013 10:14:52 GMT -5 Kore said:

Mar 3, 2013 10:03:24 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Okay then, honest question time. Do you think she is making wise decisions in her life? Do you feel like most of the board thinks she is making good decisions? I'd love to see a blind poll about whether people think she is making good decisions in her life/is a train-wreck. (I'd do it, but I am on my phone again.)

Dozens of people expressed concern about her moving too fast in a post a couple weeks ago. I don't think it's a secret. But she's already pregnant, she wants the baby, and she can afford it. What will calling her a train wreck in every post accomplish?

And there it is again: she can afford it. What would the consensus be if she couldn't afford it?

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 10:25:05 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Mar 3, 2013 10:14:52 GMT -5 Kore said:

Dozens of people expressed concern about her moving too fast in a post a couple weeks ago. I don't think it's a secret. But she's already pregnant, she wants the baby, and she can afford it. What will calling her a train wreck in every post accomplish?

And there it is again: she can afford it. What would the consensus be if she couldn't afford it?

There would probably be some suggestions of adoption thrown in the mix (which would probably be flamed).

Spinoff debates would occur re: whether having children is a right vs a privilege.

There is a poster in a really shitty marriage who got KU on purpose & can't afford it. She's handled with kid gloves, for the most part. I figure her situation is already bad enough. She doesn't need me dogging her out.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 10:31:59 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

The whole thing is even stranger to me given that he had supposedly already proposed and she still felt the need to do this.

The last person I thought about afterH and I got engaged was his ex-wife. And this woman wasn't even married to this guy, so why go to all the effort to stalk her?

I google stalked my H's serious ex-GFs after we were married. I was curious. Hell, his high school girlfriend from 1991 was FB stalking me a couple months ago. She accidentally sent me a friend request (and canceled it).

I 100% agree that showing up at her house was insane, but I think curiosity about one's partner's exes is normal. Almost every girlfriend of mine has admitted to google stalking exes.

[underwaterrhymes]

There is a HUGE difference between google or Facebook stalking and showing up at the ex-fiancee's house. I don't know enough about this particular poster to have an opinion on whether or not she's moving too fast and would try not to pass judgment on this anyway, but I don't see how anyone can argue that finding out your SO's ex is having an open house and deciding to covertly attend is in any way not stalkerish.

H had a few serious girlfriends before he met me and I not only know their names, but also the general vicinity of where they live. Granted, it's not near where we live, but I have never once been tempted to take a road trip to check out their homes. (I've also not google stalked them, but to be fair they are friends with H on Facebook and I've seen their profiles.)

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 10:45:10 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

There is a HUGE difference between google or Facebook stalking and showing up at the ex-fiancee's house. I don't know enough about this particular poster to have an opinion on whether or not she's moving too fast and would try not to pass judgment on this anyway, but I don't see how anyone can argue that finding out your SO's ex is having an open house and deciding to covertly attend is in any way not stalkerish.

H had a few serious girlfriends before he met me and I not only know their names, but also the general vicinity of where they live. Granted, it's not near where we live, but I have never once been tempted to take a road trip to check out their homes. (I've also not google stalked them, but to be fair they are friends with H on Facebook and I've seen their profiles.)

I don't disagree. I was addressing Autumn's opinion that your SO's ex shouldn't ever cross your mind.

[psychmom]

Mar 3, 2013 10:25:05 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Mar 3, 2013 10:14:52 GMT -5 Kore said:

Dozens of people expressed concern about her moving too fast in a post a couple weeks ago. I don't think it's a secret. But she's already pregnant, she wants the baby, and she can afford it. What will calling her a train wreck in every post accomplish?

And there it is again: she can afford it. What would the consensus be if she couldn't afford it?

Thank you! I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 10:58:40 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Mar 3, 2013 10:54:39 GMT -5 Kore said:

I don't disagree. I was addressing Autumn's opinion that your SO's ex shouldn't ever cross your mind.

Hold up, I NEVER said that!

I said I don't get why she felt the need to track down the open house info and then GO INTO THE HOUSE of the ex to scope her out! Especially if her current guy had recently proposed to her!

In the OP she commented in the woman's furniture and photos for fucks sake!

Sorry for misinterpreting the "the last person I thought about was his ex" part. I'm pretty sure the showing up at her house is a unity horse. Everybody agrees it's crazy.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 11:02:53 GMT -5 psychmom said:

Mar 3, 2013 10:25:05 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

And there it is again: she can afford it. What would the consensus be if she couldn't afford it?

Thank you! I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this.

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Keep reading. I answered. This isn't a scenario the board has never encountered.

The whole fucking point is that these posts do not occur in a vacuum. I'm hardly the mouthpiece for MM, but I've been there long enough to understand why some people are flamed with every post and others are not. It has nothing to do with the $$$ they've got in the bank. Otherwise, I'd be flamed every single time I post.

[Deleted]

i am sort of obsessed with open houses. i go to most of the neighbors' open houses. and, apparently, they came to mine since they ask me stuff about my house that you couldn't know from the street. like "did you guys keep that slate floor in the kitchen?" and "i loved that yellow bedroom on the first floor!"

so, the thought might cross my mind if i was in the neighborhood or something, but then i'd get ahold of myself and cher-slap the idea right out of my head.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 11:15:44 GMT -5 mofongo said:

I am currently posting from the bushes at my H's ex gf's house. I'm peering in with binoculars. So you guys are telling me this is weird?

For the love of god, do NOT go inside. Or take note of the furniture.

[Deleted]

Mar 3, 2013 9:50:49 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

I still can't get over how someone on MM said they were bringing in 200,000 a year and considered themselves lower middle class. Sorry, off topic lol.

I don't think that happened?  If you're thinking of the poster I'm thinking of, she said that where she lives (CT) $250,000 was middle class, and she felt like lower middle class because she made substantially less than that.  It was ridiculous either way (and she was flamed to high hell for it), but I don't think anyone said that they were lower middle class making $200,000 a year.  

I don't think MM is *that* forgiving of rikki.  She's been flamed to high hell too for a few things recently.  But also, MM is slow on weekends.

[liveintheville]

Mar 3, 2013 10:03:24 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Okay then, honest question time. Do you think she is making wise decisions in her life? Do you feel like most of the board thinks she is making good decisions? I'd love to see a blind poll about whether people think she is making good decisions in her life/is a train-wreck. (I'd do it, but I am on my phone again.)

I can honestly say no I don't think her life is a train wreck or that she's fucking up her life.

And what would be the point of taking an anonymous internet poll about such a thing? 
Because you think she'll change the way she's living her life if there is a majority vote that she should, by anonymous internet personalities who don't know her and aren't vested in her wellbeing?

[kadams767]

Mar 3, 2013 12:46:14 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

I'm lol at all of the "omg the proposal was so sweet" while in the same post she mentioned that the ring is too small and she's "happy with it for now."

I get that she's a well liked poster. But I don't even coddle my irl friends like this. If my friend did something that crazy (and it's happened), I wouldn't be like "well at least your crazy behavior resulted in a needed conversation about the ex. Tee hee!"

Not for nothing, but she meant that it is literally too small, like it doesn't fit onto her finger over her knuckle, not that the stones or setting are too small.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 12:54:07 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

Mar 3, 2013 12:46:14 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

I'm lol at all of the "omg the proposal was so sweet" while in the same post she mentioned that the ring is too small and she's "happy with it for now."

I get that she's a well liked poster. But I don't even coddle my irl friends like this. If my friend did something that crazy (and it's happened), I wouldn't be like "well at least your crazy behavior resulted in a needed conversation about the ex. Tee hee!"

Not for nothing, but she meant that it is literally too small, like it doesn't fit onto her finger over her knuckle, not that the stones or setting are too small.

Also, that style of ring is 3 gold bands, not a stone at all.

[liveintheville]

Mar 3, 2013 12:46:14 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

I'm lol at all of the "omg the proposal was so sweet" while in the same post she mentioned that the ring is too small and she's "happy with it for now."

So you think she should just live with a ring that doesn't fit? Anyone who get their rings resized to fit is a bitch? What the fuck?

[liveintheville]

Mar 3, 2013 13:00:42 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

Mar 3, 2013 12:59:52 GMT -5 liveintheville said:

So you think she should just live with a ring that doesn't fit? Anyone who get their rings resized to fit is a bitch? What the fuck?

Calm down, I thought she was talking about the diamond.

But you know you're not looking for shit to pick on her about or anything. Just reading between the lines of her post and declaring her a brat, I see. 

[cleo29]

Mar 3, 2013 11:09:19 GMT -5 cville said:

i am sort of obsessed with open houses. i go to most of the neighbors' open houses. and, apparently, they came to mine since they ask me stuff about my house that you couldn't know from the street. like "did you guys keep that slate floor in the kitchen?" and "i loved that yellow bedroom on the first floor!"

so, the thought might cross my mind if i was in the neighborhood or something, but then i'd get ahold of myself and cher-slap the idea right out of my head.

Next time you are in town, I know what we will be doing Sunday afteroon.

I LOVE open houses only second to a good estate sales, then it's the best of both worlds. I get to poke around someone's house AND buy their stuff.

[Deleted]

I used to really like Rikki- she seemed so normal. What in the hell has been going with her lately? I haven't been on MM much since her divorce and subsequent speedy courtship. I knew she was pregnant and I admit to some major side eye.

[mollz007]

Mar 3, 2013 12:21:00 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Mar 3, 2013 11:48:41 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

I think it's strange how long some MMers keep underwear. For real. I try not to be judgemental but dudes, if you are still wearing the same underwear you wore while Clinton was in office, it's time to head to Walmart for another 6 pack of Hanes Her Way.

I've been going commando more and more lately. It's freeing and liberating.

AND more MM. Who wants to spend money on underwear?

[winston]

You know who would go to her significant other's ex's open house?

Leann Rimes.

[Kore]

Mar 3, 2013 20:48:58 GMT -5 winston said:

You know who would go to her significant other's ex's open house?

Leann Rimes.

Lol. So true.