Post by walterismydog on Mar 13, 2013 8:23:37 GMT -5
(((((spitforspat)))))
don't be sorry, milestones are really hard.
every year on my dad's death date I eat the last meal I made him, which also happened to be his favorite meal. at first, this made me very sad, but now almost six years later it fills me with comfort. Perhaps a similar ritual would help you as well? eat her favorite meal, go to her favorite place, buy her favorite flowers, or something else that would remind you of her. <3
Sorry hon, that is hard. I think spending the day celebrating her and being with your family is a good idea. There will be tears I am sure but its a day to remember your mom and how great she was!
I'm so sorry. I lost my mom 2.5 years ago. I think it just gets easier to understand/accept but for me i haven't fully gotten over it. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers today.
Post by discogranny on Mar 13, 2013 8:28:47 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss. Even though time makes it easier, the anniversaries still sting every year. I can't bring myself to delete my dad's contact from my phone...even though it hasn't been his number in five years. Big hugs to you.
I'm so sorry. I lost my dad 10 years ago. As hard as it is to believe, it does get easier with time. Like, when not everything is the "first" without them, first holiday, first birthday, whatever. Nothing fills the void, but the pain isn't so raw. And she isn't just in an urn, she's with you guys always.
This sounds crazy, but my dad used to always plant me sunflowers in our backyard because I loved them. He never met my husband, but I know he would have loved him. After we got married, we moved to bumfuck New Mexico. Our backyard was a crappy dirt lot with NOTHING growing in it. A few weeks after we moved in, sunflowers randomly started growing in the middle of the yard. I know that was my dad telling me he thinks I did ok.
Post by flamingeaux on Mar 13, 2013 9:18:14 GMT -5
At the risk of sounding like some cheesy facebook meme. The love she gave you was part of her, and the experiences you had with her are all part of her, so as long as you remember her, you'll have her with you.