More people are pissing me off these days

[sonrisa]

I think I need to sit over here more often and ignore all other ttc/pregnancy related comments in the world. I don't want to hear about how you'll "never be able to have kids" after only two failed cycles.  Or how you are "way too old to have another baby" in your early thirties. Or how those of us over 25 must be "freaking out" about genetic abnormalities while ttc. I'm annoyed at the unwanted pregnancies out there (not at the people involved, just that they happen so often). 

[mae141]

**hangs out over here with sonrisa**

[lola]

I'm LOL because just reading this thread I know exactly what posts/posters you're talking about!

I really try not to be rude/mean around here, but I admit to being like, "You're a fucking nut case" when I read somebody say they need to come to terms with "never having kids" after three damn cycles. And, the whole, "I'm entitled to feel how I feel" is an annoying fucking response.

[sonrisa]

2.5 cycles! This could be implantation spotting. I like her and really hope this works out for her, but I think I need to be over here.

[bronxgirl]

I'm glad this board has been more active lately b/c this is where I feel the most comfortable.

[Deleted]

I send a big wave to everyone here :-)

[Deleted]

That's because people are assholes. Repeat after me, people are assholes. They just don't think. I had a client last week tell me - well you're a mom, you know that. I was like, actually I'm not and moved onto the next item.

[discogranny]

Apr 1, 2013 19:25:24 GMT -5 lola said:

I'm LOL because just reading this thread I know exactly what posts/posters you're talking about!

I really try not to be rude/mean around here, but I admit to being like, "You're a fucking nut case" when I read somebody say they need to come to terms with "never having kids" after three damn cycles. And, the whole, "I'm entitled to feel how I feel" is an annoying fucking response.

The bolded struck me because I keep getting this vibe that lately feeling anything other than stoically and sensitive to others sad about actual, "hey there's an issue here" infertility is less okay than feeling sad because it's been three months. I hate the Pain Olympics that come with TTC but I'm also pretty over having to justify the fact that it fucking sucks to be unable to conceive because it makes others uncomfortable

[lola]

Apr 1, 2013 20:00:43 GMT -5 discogranny said:

Apr 1, 2013 19:25:24 GMT -5 lola said:

I'm LOL because just reading this thread I know exactly what posts/posters you're talking about!

I really try not to be rude/mean around here, but I admit to being like, "You're a fucking nut case" when I read somebody say they need to come to terms with "never having kids" after three damn cycles. And, the whole, "I'm entitled to feel how I feel" is an annoying fucking response.

The bolded struck me because I keep getting this vibe that lately feeling anything other than stoically and sensitive to others sad about actual, "hey there's an issue here" infertility is less okay than feeling sad because it's been three months. I hate the Pain Olympics that come with TTC but I'm also pretty over having to justify the fact that it fucking sucks to be unable to conceive because it makes others uncomfortable

I really struggle with this notion, particularly as I see it on TTC. The thing is, I think you DO get to feel however you're feeling. I think that 3 BFNs in a row is a total bummer. But to be so fucking melodramatic about it, and then play the "I get to feel!" card annoys me. Even though I kind of feel like it shouldn't.

The post with mofongo and LHC on ML recently annoyed the shit out of me, though, bc LHC was all, "When your feeling poorly about people that are pregnant and I AM PREGNANT it IS about me." And I'm all, "Uh, actually, no, not about you at all."

Oh, and, being called an "IFer" on ML today was fucking annoying too. lol.

[KaraOrNot]

Yep.

Apr 1, 2013 20:00:43 GMT -5 discogranny said:

The bolded struck me because I keep getting this vibe that lately feeling anything other than stoically and sensitive to others sad about actual, "hey there's an issue here" infertility is less okay than feeling sad because it's been three months. I hate the Pain Olympics that come with TTC but I'm also pretty over having to justify the fact that it fucking sucks to be unable to conceive because it makes others uncomfortable

There was a poster on MM Moms who was dealing w/ IF and daily, people praised her for how well she dealt w/ things. I actually stopped posting there as much, because fuck that. I am often bitter and pissed and sad and I just felt like you couldn't feel like that there.

[G22]

I saw that post. I rolled my eyes. I remember being at that point early on and wondering if it would ever happen, but I never would have felt like I could "complain" about it to people yet.

I generally avoid the getting pregnant board for a reason. Too many bee bee questions and responses for me to handle on a daily basis.

[jewel]

Another bitter IFer signing in....lol.

[discogranny]

If we are piling on, it's also annoying when someone makes a comment to you about how you "should relax" then a little over a year later is TTC themselves and basically racing to the RE after 5 months. 

I need to stop. I could make a 20 page bitter missive about TTC things that annoy me. 

[azurely]

I'm so glad this board is here, because I feel like there are not many people who really "get it" in real life. Or on other GBCN boards.

I'm glad most people don't get it, because that means they're not going through IF hell, but a little empathy would be nice sometimes.

[G22]

I am truly thankful for you ladies. While it's sucks were all here, good company is nice.

I have one IRL friend who is going through IF. She just moved over 1,000 miles away a few weeks ago. (thank you Air Force!)

[murdock]

((((hugs)))) all around. I didn't get to see what is being referenced. Now, I've got to go and find it. My 35 year-old butt, definitely gets annoyed by the 'old' comments.

I'm really thankful for this board. I don't know anyone else with IF struggles. I'm going to try to be around more; its been great that this place has started moving.

[changedname]

I don't even look at the ttc board because I am past all that opk jazz. haha.

Yesterday I was starting to think that I'm feeling this is more and more my home board in the sense that I really do feel at home here and we do discuss things other than ttc.

Don't even get my started on the mofongo/lhc thread lola.

[megstoo]

Apr 1, 2013 19:08:44 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

I think I need to sit over here more often and ignore all other ttc/pregnancy related comments in the world. I don't want to hear about how you'll "never be able to have kids" after only two failed cycles.  Or how you are "way too old to have another baby" in your early thirties. Or how those of us over 25 must be "freaking out" about genetic abnormalities while ttc. I'm annoyed at the unwanted pregnancies out there (not at the people involved, just that they happen so often). 

Got room for another in your corner??  I'm feeling the same thing.. doesn't help that a friend of mine who just got married end of January (2013) is already pregnant which she happened to announce on Sunday (complete with sonagram)

[changedname]

Hugs TR. Vent as much as you want here. I can imagine next week will be hard.

[ilovecandy]

Another bitter over here. Today I just wanna curl up and lay in bed all day. I have to hear about sil an she has cancer but isn't taking care of herself or doing anything about it. Which makes me angry cause she has a baby you guys.

Then a friend who just had a pregnancy announced a pregnancy yesterday and thank god it is April fools. I told h I didn't think I would be able to handle it if it wasn't.

I just want everyone to go away and leave me alone mainly my in-laws.

[discogranny]

Not about people pissing me off, just a vent about how much I hate infertility: Today is CD28, that's my "normal" CD1 before the m/c. It should be CD1 according to FF. I don't have any signs, so I went to see how long my last cycle was to see if maybe I was varying a day or two. Oh yeah, my last cycle was 109 days long because I was pregnant. Something about seeing that just made me so sad. I had to go to the bathroom to get myself together so the guys in my office wouldn't see me cry.

I guess I should revise -- I'm emotional, that's a sign of impending AF. I also assume I will get AF tomorrow or Thursday.

[changedname]

discogranny - hugs.

[jewel]

discogranny - that sucks My cycles completely changed after my m/c. They're a little longer, and the bleeding is much different. My doctor said that it's normal for your cycle to change after any pregnancy, but it's a constant reminder that I WAS pregnant. It's not cool.

[berbles]

Hugs to everyone. Ditto the eye-rolling re lhc/mofucko. I want to slap people who are like, "Oh, I AM sensitive to IF people, blah blah blah," meanwhile, it took them LITERALLY 3 months between thinking maybe baby to pregnant. STFU, KTHNXBAI. I'm definitely glad to have this board. I don't really even look at the GP board anymore.

[BNL2]

I've got nothing to add, just signing in to say I now consider this my home board too. I've been on the knot/nest/gbcn since 06 and this is the first time I feel like more than a lurker. It sucks that we're all here, but I'm happy I found you ladies.

[murdock]

Apr 2, 2013 19:01:30 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

I've got nothing to add, just signing in to say I now consider this my home board too. I've been on the knot/nest/gbcn since 06 and this is the first time I feel like more than a lurker. It sucks that we're all here, but I'm happy I found you ladies.

I'm an 06er too, feeling the same way!!
Why did I lurk mainly for so long!

[KaraOrNot]

Hugs, TR and discogranny

[lola]

Wow! I can't believe some of you that have been around for so long! Now *that's* dedication! I'm glad you're all here - and hugs to those of you that need them extra today. (heart) (heart)

[KaraOrNot]

Apr 2, 2013 19:41:19 GMT -5 murdock said:

Apr 2, 2013 19:01:30 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

I've got nothing to add, just signing in to say I now consider this my home board too. I've been on the knot/nest/gbcn since 06 and this is the first time I feel like more than a lurker. It sucks that we're all here, but I'm happy I found you ladies.

I'm an 06er too, feeling the same way!!
Why did I lurk mainly for so long!

I have been around since '06 too!  I was primarily a lurker on TN, but have been more active over here.

[azurely]

Apr 2, 2013 13:32:41 GMT -5 discogranny said:

Not about people pissing me off, just a vent about how much I hate infertility: Today is CD28, that's my "normal" CD1 before the m/c. It should be CD1 according to FF. I don't have any signs, so I went to see how long my last cycle was to see if maybe I was varying a day or two. Oh yeah, my last cycle was 109 days long because I was pregnant. Something about seeing that just made me so sad. I had to go to the bathroom to get myself together so the guys in my office wouldn't see me cry.

I guess I should revise -- I'm emotional, that's a sign of impending AF. I also assume I will get AF tomorrow or Thursday.

I'm sorry

::hugs::