I don't expect much responses but I lost my mother last Sunday. She had a stroke in her sleep and it was too severe (probably not caught early enough) for anything to be done. We took her off the ventilator after her siblings arrived to see her one last time. She was only 61.
I had just picked her up from being on vacation with my dad since the middle of January and we had two days together before she passed. My mom lived with us most of the time and also lived in AZ where my dad has a place in Chandler. She took care of the baby while I worked and we had been getting along so well every since he was born. I cannot believe I will not have her to share with everything that is going on in my life and Peyton's. She spoiled him rotten and there were so many times I'd get mad b/c she went nuts buying him stuff. She bought him 95% of his clothes, 50% of his toys, that extreme type. Everything in the house reminds me of her. And now I don't know how it will be without her. I despise my husband's mom. She is in general a selfish person and my mom was so polar opposite. I feel so mad/hurt/sad that Peyton will not have her in his life, nor any future children. I get anxiety when I think of being by myself (though I'm not really by myself, just feel like it) for the rest of my life.
I don't know, just thought there were a few people out there that lost their parents young. How it was, what made it better, worse, etc.
Post by charlielove on Apr 2, 2013 13:51:43 GMT -5
Oh showdogz, that is devastating. Of course you can come here for support or if you need to talk anytime. I know their are several probies who have lost a parent. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Please take care.
I'm sorry for your loss. I could not even IMAGINE losing my mother, she is by far, my best friend. Though , I did lose my father when I was 22, he was 51. His situation was totally different than your mother's. He was a diabetic alcholic, essentially a ticking time bomb. I hope you can find peace and happiness with the memories, hold tight to those. And just try to take one day at a time, if you look to far out, it's beyond overwhelming, one day at a time. Hugs!
Post by orriskitten on Apr 2, 2013 13:56:35 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know no words will make it better and it all just sucks.
I lost my mom 3 years ago very suddenly. I wish I had good advice on how to make it better, but I don't. It gets easier to deal with over time. Then it sucks again, I am learning.
It is important to know you are not alone. Lean on anyone around you who will offer their support. Hug your LO extra tight for you and your mom. Keep pictures of her around. I found that while everything reminded me of her, seeing her smiling face was reassuring.
Feel free to pm me if you need to talk or just vent or whatever. Hang in there. Lots of hugs your way.
That is so sad. I am glad she was able to spend the first year of Peyton's life with him and that you will have those memories to hold onto. My condolences are with you at this time. Take care of yourself.
I am so grateful I did decide to suddenly start having kids, when before I was adamant on waiting until I was 30. There are many things I should be happy for. We were in a severe car accident where she shouldn't have made it, but she did. Those are already an extra 13 years. She just came back from a 2 week cruise to HI where she had "the time of her life". It is just we were so close. And there was going to be so much to look forward to in the next few months.
She died on the day we were throwing my dad a surprise bday party. The next sunday was Peyton's 1st Easter. Two weeks later he turned one. And then in May, over Mother's Day, I had booked a flight down to AZ to be with my parents who were heading back after the baby's bday. It was just too good to be true. Still going to go down to AZ to see how my dad will be doing though. I just really needed a vacation and now it seems like no fun at all. Just venting.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 19 and I think of how he would have loved his grandchildren a lot. At least your mom got to meet Peyton and spend some precious time together - those memories will last forever! Please get all the help you can to take care of yourself and your family right now. Hugs!