*weekly state of the ute*

[Deleted]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey?

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell?

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? Advice from others, even if their situations are different or they disagree with you? Or just a bunch of fxs, gls, and t&ps? A place to vent and get a lot of head pats? If you are doing something others may perceive as over-the-top, do you want to be calmed down or do you just want to let the cray-cray flow? (Btw, These questions are not referring to anything specific but it seems like a lot of people are very sensitive about what gets posted so maybe it would be nice to know what everyone is expecting would be proper responses.) 

[Birdie]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey?
C1D18

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell?
I saw my first + using OPK's on Friday, but I had to leave town before seeing H. By the time I got back, it was too late. On to next month!

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? Advice from others, even if their situations are different or they disagree with you? Or just a bunch of fxs, gls, and t&ps? A place to vent and get a lot of head pats? If you are doing something others may perceive as over-the-top, do you want to be calmed down or do you just want to let the cray-cray flow? 
I mostly just want to see what others have questions about since I'm kind of new to this. I think I learn stuff from what others ask.

*ETA: Also I just like a place to talk about TTC and babies. None of my friends are currently TTC right now, so they aren't really interested in hearing my babble.

[awick14]

1. Cycle 4 11 DPO

2. I am trying to wait until at least 14DPO but we will see how that goes.

3. I like to read it all. If I need to be calmed down, or it I need to stop being dramatic I want people to tell me.

I like to read about others journeys and see what sort of questions they have, it helps me feel more "normal", if that makes sense. I also want to be told if I am off base with one of my replies.

[Deleted]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 4, but 1st cycle ttc after thyroid issues. CD24, definitely in my FW but may or may not have O yet. I am wondering if I should start eating the pineapple core tonight?
Here's my chart: www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4057d3

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? I got 3 days of positive opks. I was really excited the first time because I never had a positive opk before but now it's getting kind of old. I am really hoping for a big temp shift tomorrow. My H is getting pretty tired..lol. I have been feeling really naseous the past few days but it's probably my mind screwing with me.

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? I'm not telling anyone I know irl that we are ttc so the boards are the only place I can discuss/vent. I feel like this board is way too sensitive. Everyone seems pretty nice in their responses so far but if they post something that comes off the wrong way, it is taken so personally. MM moms has been much more helpful. I guess because they can give advice without that emotional aspect because most of them have been successful in ttc. Imo, there are definitely times when someone just needs to really calm down. I mean, who else is going to tell you? Your H, your mom? I would rather get the truth from internet strangers.

[vmars]

1. Cycle 4, 5 dpo
2. I am really hoping after B6 my LP will lengthen or at least not get any shorter.
3. We are all in this crazy ttc journey together and 99% of the time this board is great and everyone is super supportive and honest. However, I think some of the newbies need to be respectful of those ttc longer and those veterans need to remember they were a newbie once too with lots of questions. Also everyone I have encountered here has been great and I think we need to work on giving people the benefit of the doubt too and not always assume the other person has ill intentions.

[Cricket0619]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey?     Cycle 6 cd 5

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell?    H and I both thought this last try was it for some reason.

3.
When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really
want/expect from this board? Advice from others, even if their
situations are different or they disagree with you? Or just a bunch of
fxs, gls, and t&ps? A place to vent and get a lot of head pats? If
you are doing something others may perceive as over-the-top, do you want
to be calmed down or do you just want to let the cray-cray flow? (Btw,
These questions are not referring to anything specific but it seems like
a lot of people are very sensitive about what gets posted so maybe it
would be nice to know what everyone is expecting would be proper
responses.)   

I like seeing other peoples questions and I like asking too.  I think people will have their own opinions obviously, but I also think people should be respectful. 

Read more: pandce.proboards.com/thread/159097/weekly-state-ute#ixzz2PQNOY7qb

[purplecow0206]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Waiting for CD1 in our first "official" TTC cycle, but I've been temping since February, just to see what my body is doing.

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? Just that DH is more excited about this right now than I am, lol. That's not to say that I'm not excited about everything, but he's been ready for this for longer than I have.

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? Advice from others, even if their situations are different or they disagree with you? Or just a bunch of fxs, gls, and t&ps? A place to vent and get a lot of head pats? If you are doing something others may perceive as over-the-top, do you want to be calmed down or do you just want to let the cray-cray flow? I think a little of both, to be honest. Sometimes, I just need to get stuff out and sometimes, a reality check is a good thing. I just hope that I can be supportive to everyone that's hanging around here.

[simpsongal]

1. cycle 5, CD 4 - at least AF was only 2 days this cycle.

2. We're on vacay all next week in New Orleans - a good time for my fertility week. I intend to make up for my unsuccessful cycle 4 by drinking Hurricanes until I'm stumbling in the streets. :beer:

3. Generally, I think of this board as a place I can post as much as I like about my TTC experience -- whether it's the crazy, minutia, genuine disappointment, comparisons, medical questions, etc. I like reading OPs about their experiences and questions - sometimes it makes me see I'm normal, in the same boat, etc.

I wish this board were more active but it's *by definition* a transient place. And I'm sure a lot of you feel this way - but I didn't think I would be on here very long.

awick - FWIW, I thought your post was fine this morning and the subsequent apology exchange.  I didn't know that poster from ML, and I think a few of us are still a little sensitive from bazinga's BFP announcement. 

[awick14]

Apr 3, 2013 13:24:17 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

1. cycle 5, CD 4 - at least AF was only 2 days this cycle.

2. We're on vacay all next week in New Orleans - a good time for my fertility week. I intend to make up for my unsuccessful cycle 4 by drinking Hurricanes until I'm stumbling in the streets.

3. Generally, I think of this board as a place I can post as much as I like about my TTC experience -- whether it's the crazy, minutia, genuine disappointment, comparisons, medical questions, etc. I like reading OPs about their experiences and questions - sometimes it makes me see I'm normal, in the same boat, etc.

I wish this board were more active but it's *by definition* a transient place. And I'm sure a lot of you feel this way - but I didn't think I would be on here very long.

awick - FWIW, I thought your post was fine this morning and the subsequent apology exchange.  I didn't know that poster from ML, and I think a few of us are still a little sensitive from bazinga's BFP announcement. 

Thanx Simpson! I didn't say it to be rude, only as a warning that she may get some negative comments.

I am only on cycle 4 and I thought this would be so much easier.

[Deleted]

Apr 3, 2013 13:24:17 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

I think a few of us are still a little sensitive from bazinga's BFP announcement. 

I went back to look at her chart. Damn, she was really lucky! lol hope it rubs off on us!

[simpsongal]

Apr 3, 2013 12:49:59 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 4, but 1st cycle ttc after thyroid issues. CD24, definitely in my FW but may or may not have O yet. I am wondering if I should start eating the pineapple core tonight?
Here's my chart: www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4057d3

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? I got 3 days of positive opks. I was really excited the first time because I never had a positive opk before but now it's getting kind of old. I am really hoping for a big temp shift tomorrow. My H is getting pretty tired..lol. I have been feeling really naseous the past few days but it's probably my mind screwing with me.  

Hmm, looks like CD 23 was a decent temp spike.  I don't understand why the OPK things say to stop testing after you get a positive.  I know I've read that somewhere.  I'm pretty sure you could get a positive OPK on your O day.

Is there a window on the efficacy of eating pineapple after conception?  Implanation usually takes 5+ days right?  So maybe give it another couple days to confirm O with sustained higher temps?

[annabear07]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 6 CD 15 Yay fertile window!

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? I'm smack dab in the fertile window as I'm leaving for England tomorrow. Here's hoping for a Made in London baby!

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? I expect all of the above! Head pats, commiseration, but also being put in my place when I might get a little crazy. This is an emotional journey and everyone can be a little sensitive every once in a while. It's no big deal!

[Deleted]

Apr 3, 2013 13:42:53 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

Apr 3, 2013 12:49:59 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 4, but 1st cycle ttc after thyroid issues. CD24, definitely in my FW but may or may not have O yet. I am wondering if I should start eating the pineapple core tonight?
Here's my chart: www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4057d3

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? I got 3 days of positive opks. I was really excited the first time because I never had a positive opk before but now it's getting kind of old. I am really hoping for a big temp shift tomorrow. My H is getting pretty tired..lol. I have been feeling really naseous the past few days but it's probably my mind screwing with me.  

Hmm, looks like CD 23 was a decent temp spike.  I don't understand why the OPK things say to stop testing after you get a positive.  I know I've read that somewhere.  I'm pretty sure you could get a positive OPK on your O day.

Is there a window on the efficacy of eating pineapple after conception?  Implanation usually takes 5+ days right?  So maybe give it another couple days to confirm O with sustained higher temps?

Thanks, that sounds like a good plan. FF says that I may O on CD22-26 based on my +opk on CD22. I think I will wait for tomorrow to start the pineapple core. If ff marks CD22 as O I will only eat it until 5 dpo anyways. I have read that you should not continue after 5 dpo but I have no idea why.

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@charky There are way too many cute babies on that board. and posts on breastfeeding..lol

[thoseareradishes]

1. Cycle 11, 12DPO

2. Started spotting yesterday, so we're out for this cycle. I had a cry in the shower yesterday, but really, I'm sad all the damn time because of this, so a BFN doesn't really make me very much sadder. I guess because I just expect it now.

3. Something that bothers me about this board is posters who come over here and say they never post here because they don't want to obsess about TTC, but then they want support for some issue they are having. I feel like to get support, you should give some too. Doesn't mean you have to respond to every post, but a "good luck" or "boo, bummer" a few times a week would make a big difference.

Otherwise, I like that we are generally kind to each other, and that we are able to post vents without getting eye-rolled at.

I think having more not TTC related posts here might help too, so we can chat about other things.

[vmars]

Apr 3, 2013 16:25:28 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

1. I honestly am not sure. I spotted for 2 days on Sat/Sun and now nothing. AF was due Monday or yesterday. I am not sure if the spotting was AF or not since mine typically lasts for 7 days. If it wasn't AF then I'm still on Cycle 3 and CD33 (not sure about DPO). I tested on Monday afternoon and it was a BFN.

2. I started temping 4 days ago and it's a learning process for me. I was expecting to be breezy about TTC, but as you can see I am experiencing a lot of new emotions. This is all new to me.

3. I don't know if I feel welcomed in this board. I feel a bit insecure about posting my questions or emotions, but I am not talking to anyone IRL about this. I know everyone asks silly questions and I appreciate it when people answer questions. I also feel bad about hurting other people so I feel like I probably shouldn't post about my feelings or questions much anymore. But I really feel reassured when I see other people are having same crazy emotions. I just am not sure anymore.

Don't stop posting...we've all been there at one time or another. TTC is a crazy process - especially in the beginning. I know I went bonkers in the beginning and asked tons of questions, but IMO that's how you learn. I think your heart is in the right place you just need to be sensitive to the fact that a lot of people here have been TTC longer & get tired of answering the same questions repeatedly, etc.

[lo]

Apr 3, 2013 17:04:55 GMT -5 MNH2013 said:

1. Where are you on your TTC journey?

Since Octoberish.  Two week wait.  Had kind of a freak out about things a few weeks ago, but feeling pretty zen right now. 

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell?

I had my annual gyn appointment and my doctor didn't seem concerned about things at all.  So that kind of calmed me down.  I don't like that she wants to wait until after 13 months of trying to reevaluate things, though. 

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? Advice from others, even if their situations are different or they disagree with you? Or just a bunch of fxs, gls, and t&ps? A place to vent and get a lot of head pats? If you are doing something others may perceive as over-the-top, do you want to be calmed down or do you just want to let the cray-cray flow?

I want to hear and post anything and everything.  If I'm being ridiculous then by all means let me know in a friendly way.  If I'm asking a question that you feel I should already know, then keep the eyerolls to yourself.  A few times I've wanted to post things, but then didn't because I didn't want to annoy anyone.  I don't think anyone should be criticized for their questions.  I also think people really need to get over pregnancy announcements on this board.  That's the whole point of this board...  getting pregnant.  So don't be shocked and all butthurt when it actually happens to someone and they post about it. 

[Cricket0619]

mekiakoo
Dont stop posting. Everyone here has questions and concerns. Ttc is hard and can be confusing. A lot of us are first timers so we have questions and some might be silly to others, but to us they are not.  

[lo]

Yeah, and I do get that. But she's not sure yet and she's TTCAL, so I didn't get the negative comments. I haven't noticed anyone gloating over a pregnancy.

[Monica Geller]

Apr 3, 2013 11:45:22 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 10 Day 9

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? TMI Random:  I had a wonky period last week...spotted for 2 days, 2 days of period, spotted for 3 more days.  I used an OPK on day 7 (still spotting!)--I got a positive that day, but no temp shift in the last 2 days, no fertile CF, no O symptoms (huh)... I think it was a fluke. I made sure we had sex that day though.  I'm still peeing on sticks in the morning...I usually O around day 12-15... if I don't O later this week/early next; I'll have to accept that I probably missed my window...

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? General support; even if that includes someone talking me off the ledge.  I worry about offending anyone with my questions or my emotions, so I don't post a whole lot.

[vmars]

Apr 3, 2013 17:50:26 GMT -5 Monica Geller said:

Apr 3, 2013 11:45:22 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 10 Day 9

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? TMI Random:  I had a wonky period last week...spotted for 2 days, 2 days of period, spotted for 3 more days.  I used an OPK on day 7 (still spotting!)--I got a positive that day, but no temp shift in the last 2 days, no fertile CF, no O symptoms (huh)... I think it was a fluke. I made sure we had sex that day though.  I'm still peeing on sticks in the morning...I usually O around day 12-15... if I don't O later this week/early next; I'll have to accept that I probably missed my window...

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? General support; even if that includes someone talking me off the ledge.  I worry about offending anyone with my questions or my emotions, so I don't post a whole lot.

Have you taken a PG test? A light period and a + OPK could mean something, but then again I don't hesitate to POAS when I get abnormal symptoms.

[Monica Geller]

Apr 3, 2013 17:53:43 GMT -5 vmars said:

Apr 3, 2013 17:50:26 GMT -5 Monica Geller said:

Have you taken a PG test? A light period and a + OPK could mean something, but then again I don't hesitate to POAS when I get abnormal symptoms.

No I didn't, but my temps did drop when I started my period; the way they usually do. I guess I worded that weird in the my OP... there's been no temp shift UP since my period.

 I'll keep it in mind as something to do if things stay weird...LOL

[sonrisa]

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? I'm in my "two weeks no wine" (it isn't 2 weeks waiting anymore, because who am I kidding? The only thing I'm waiting for these days is more test results and minor procedures.)

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? HSG was inconclusive. It looks like a hydrosalpinx on one side but they can't really do anything about it. Now on to a saline sonogram.

3. What do you expect from this board? Not much. Right now I'm just striving not to be a grinch.

[iteach10]

I'm a lurker coming out...

1. Where are you on your TTC journey? Cycle 3 CD16 

2. Any TTC randoms/stories to tell? My PNV made me nauseous while I was in the shower this morning. Before I could finish up and towel off I was throwing up in the shower...bleck. I've only been nauseous once before and that was when I didn't eat anything with it, but never threw up. On another note, I'm nervous that I might drink too much water (96oz+a day), or not test at the right time to catch a positive OPK.  

3. When you are posting about your ttc journey, what do you really want/expect from this board? Advice from others, even if their situations are different or they disagree with you? Or just a bunch of fxs, gls, and t&ps? A place to vent and get a lot of head pats? If you are doing something others may perceive as over-the-top, do you want to be calmed down or do you just want to let the cray-cray flow? I'm hoping to get support and be able to ask questions, as I'm not sharing with anyone in real life that we're TTC. I'm hoping this board will keep me firmly planted to the ground since I know I can fall off the deep end pretty quickly. We took it easy breezy the first two cycles, but now I'm temping and using opks. For timing purposes with school I'm hoping to get pregnant soon, but I know that it could take perfectly healthy couples a year or more to get pregnant. 

[thoseareradishes]

Welcome iteach10!

[Deleted]

1) Cycle 4, CD 14
2) Negative OPK today! I'm OOT working so this is a good thing. FW *should* fall over this weekend.
3) I would like to see more general conversation. I think we can have discussion without jumping to conclusions and/or jumping down each others throats. Criticism is fine, but it seems like it has been fairly catty over the past week. Meow.

[coribelle26]

Rambley answer alert: Just started cycle 9 today. I had a meeting today with my old boss about going back to work for him after this school year is over and I'm feeling really excited and happy about it. My whole reason for a career change in the first place was that I thought working in education would provide a better work/life balance, only it hasn't, and I hate it, and I'm making no money. So fuck it, I'm going back to the fun place where I made a lot of money and worked late but had a blast and felt good about myself. I told him that I was trying to have a baby and that it hasn't happened after a lot of effort but it may eventually, and he was like, "Okay. Then you have a baby. And we'll figure it out." So okay. We got a referral to an RE and we're going to get an SA scheduled and bring up my LP issues (I got a grand total of 8 days this month), so things are happening. I'm finally feeling like I can just live my damn life for a little while.

And the above is what I want to use this board for, sometimes I just want to dump all the things flying around in my head to some people who may have overlapping circumstances. I don't comment on a ton because I don't like being redundant, so unless I have something unique to say, I often don't. But I do read, and remember, and I think about you guys and hope for good things for you. There's always going to be someone that says something annoying, but it's very easy in this type of forum to just roll my eyes to myself and move on. When I was a really active ML regular on the nest I would call people out about stuff, but I don't have that kind of time anymore. Live and let live!

[Deleted]

1. I am 5 dpo, just waiting for my period or to poas. I hate the waiting.

2. Nothing exciting.

3. I hope it's just a place to commiserate with each other and offer support. I don't really have other expectations. I have t lurked around enough to know if there is drama, but I don't mind posts unrelated to TTC. I can say that if there are rules a la TTCAL on TB, that will be a huge turn off.

[thoseareradishes]

coribelle26 - Congrats on the new job! And good luck at the RE!

[coribelle26]

Apr 3, 2013 21:08:27 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

coribelle26 - Congrats on the new job! And good luck at the RE!

Thank you so much!  I don't even know what the job is yet and I don't care, lol.  He was like, "You're done in June?  Sweet.  We'll put together a job for you before then."  Done.