I had a bunch of guys say, "but aren't you on birth control?" *sigh*. Oh, and my favorite- "I'm too big for regular condoms." Oh, sweety, no. No, you aren't.
I seriously wonder what these guys are thinking. Do they assume that girls really are sugar and spice and everything nice and couldn't possibly have an STD? I don't get it at all.
Post by starburst604 on Apr 15, 2013 7:23:55 GMT -5
Yeah when I was dating I found that there were few guys who insisted on condoms. Some, but few. Most would have just gone without if I didn't bring it up. I think people have really let their guard down about HIV in the last several years, and since the other diseases aren't fatal they don't care. Dumb.
Yeah, many guys don't seem worried about this. Most guys I've been with, I've been the one to provide the condom. I don't get it... What do they think?? Std? Pregnancy? It baffles me!
I think people have really let their guard down about HIV in the last several years, and since the other diseases aren't fatal they don't care. Dumb.
Sure they're not fatal, but would they really be okay walking around with an incurable case of HPV that caused genital warts for the rest of their life? And it's not like anyone is really as forthcoming as they should be about their incurable STDs, so even if they contracted it, they would probably continue to have unprotected sex as long as they weren't having an outbreak. So hooray for knowingly passing it on to everyone else. *shudder*
And of course I have to stipulate HPV that causes genital warts, because I'm pretty sure a lot of guys could care less if they contract a symptomless strand of HPV. It's not like they're at risk for cervical cancer.
I think people have really let their guard down about HIV in the last several years, and since the other diseases aren't fatal they don't care. Dumb.
Sure they're not fatal, but would they really be okay walking around with an incurable case of HPV that caused genital warts for the rest of their life? And it's not like anyone is really as forthcoming as they should be about their incurable STDs, so even if they contracted it, they would probably continue to have unprotected sex as long as they weren't having an outbreak. So hooray for knowingly passing it on to everyone else. *shudder*
And of course I have to stipulate HPV that causes genital warts, because I'm pretty sure a lot of guys could care less if they contract a symptomless strand of HPV. It's not like they're at risk for cervical cancer.
I agree with you. I was just saying I think a lot of people are either uninformed or just don't care.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Apr 15, 2013 8:21:40 GMT -5
I encountered it a lot too while on my slutty tour of my state last year. But I'm onto these little games. You don't like one brand? Bam! I've got several. You think you're too big? Bam! Magnum. I am not fucking around when it comes to fucking around.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I encountered it a lot too while on my slutty tour of my state last year. But I'm onto these little games. You don't like one brand? Bam! I've got several. You think you're too big? Bam! Magnum. I am not fucking around when it comes to fucking around.
I encountered it a lot too while on my slutty tour of my state last year. But I'm onto these little games. You don't like one brand? Bam! I've got several. You think you're too big? Bam! Magnum. I am not fucking around when it comes to fucking around.
This cracked me up!
Me too! And it makes me realize I should carry multiple brands of condoms. I carry them everywhere with me now. One just never knows what might happen.
Here's the thing. If he's willing to go without protection with you, he's doing it with other people. Biologically, it is much easier for a woman to contract an STI than a man. He is being straight up selfish. No glove, no love.
And, yes, I think it is totally douchey for a man to choose his own preferences over your preferences and your health. You can find better men for casual sex.
I encountered it a lot too while on my slutty tour of my state last year. But I'm onto these little games. You don't like one brand? Bam! I've got several. You think you're too big? Bam! Magnum. I am not fucking around when it comes to fucking around.
This cracked me up!
Me too! I'm imagining a Rolodex of condoms that she whips out.
Me too! And it makes me realize I should carry multiple brands of condoms. I carry them everywhere with me now. One just never knows what might happen.
Durex makes a metal condom case thy holds about 4 condoms. They're discreet so you're not picking foil packs out of your bag in front of strangers and keep the condoms in good shape (no bending, folding, crinkling foil)
Me too! I'm imagining a Rolodex of condoms that she whips out.
This reminds me of Pretty Woman and her "buffet of safety." I've got pink ones, orange ones, green ones. I'm all out of purple, but I do have one gold coin!
Me too! And it makes me realize I should carry multiple brands of condoms. I carry them everywhere with me now. One just never knows what might happen.
Durex makes a metal condom case thy holds about 4 condoms. They're discreet so you're not picking foil packs out of your bag in front of strangers and keep the condoms in good shape (no bending, folding, crinkling foil)
I bought one of these at the grocery as an impulse buy just because it was pretty.
I encountered it a lot too while on my slutty tour of my state last year. But I'm onto these little games. You don't like one brand? Bam! I've got several. You think you're too big? Bam! Magnum. I am not fucking around when it comes to fucking around.
Lyss, this is just one more example of why you are loved so much around these parts! You go girl!
Me too! I'm imagining a Rolodex of condoms that she whips out.
This reminds me of Pretty Woman and her "buffet of safety." I've got pink ones, orange ones, green ones. I'm all out of purple, but I do have one gold coin!
Durex makes a metal condom case thy holds about 4 condoms. They're discreet so you're not picking foil packs out of your bag in front of strangers and keep the condoms in good shape (no bending, folding, crinkling foil)
I bought one of these at the grocery as an impulse buy just because it was pretty.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Wow! I dated two guys between my ex-FI and DH and both them were equally as concerned about this as I was.
Yeah this is me. I've only had one relationship since the divorce, and he always had them. He was never married, had been living the single life for a while, so maybe this is why?
Eww. Add this to the list of things about post divorce dating that I'm not looking forward to. I cannot imagine.
I do know when I was in college this was sometimes an issue, but I figured that was immaturity on all of our parts. It grosses me out to think that I ever did it without a condom back in those days. I chalk it up to being young, drunk, and stupid, but what's the excuse now?
I think it's douchey if a guy refuses to wear a condom when requested or getting pissy about it.
But the not being proactive about wearing one and being okay without one? I think that is a problem of both sexes and isn't so much douchey as just plain ignorant. People are naive about their health risks and don't think it can happen to them or that they can tell if there is a risk. Or people know they are clean and assume others they date or sleep with or clean (I don't know why). It's just the idea that people never think it can happen to them so they take the risk. People with fewer partners seem to worry less about it I find.
Oddly enough, I've met tons of guys who say they hate condoms or would be totally fine without using them. Definitely more often than not I've run into the "I hate condoms" mentality. So strange in this day and age.
Oddly enough, I've met tons of guys who say they hate condoms or would be totally fine without using them. Definitely more often than not I've run into the "I hate condoms" mentality. So strange in this day and age.
I know. I want to roll my eyes at this. OF COURSE they hate them. Doesn't everyone prefer the way sex feels without them? I prefer being barefoot, but that doesn't mean that I'm going to walk into a truck stop restroom that way. Know what I mean?
This is the best analogy EVA!!! I plan to use this reguarly!!!
Post by glitzyglow on Apr 15, 2013 17:40:38 GMT -5
I don't get it and I wouldn't risk it. I am terrified of STDs. My exH had sex with three women while cheating on me and contracted genital warts (I never slept with him again after he slept those women, thank God). I have such an a fear now because I think about how it simple it was for him to contract it (he assumed it was the one he had unprotected with that gave it to him, but she denied it...why the fuck wasn't he wearing a condom? The stupidity never ceases to amaze me.) One guy I was with was frantically digging through a drawer to find a condom and was all, "I will go to the store right-mother-fucking-now and buy the enough condoms to last forever if there isn't one in this drawer!!" Haha! He found one.