These threads drive me nuts! Those of you who feel old, I really think in 10 years you'll look back and wonder why you felt old at this age. Someday you'll TRULY be old and you will have wasted all your frowny-face emoticons during your youth!
Anywho...I'm 36, had Kai at 35, hope to have the second (and last) at 37. I don't have an age when I'd "like to be done" but it looks like it will be 37 or 38. I feel young, because I am :-P
I love your words.
I'm 32. I had Lana at 31. We want 1-2 more. I lean towards 2 more. I'd like I space number 2 to be 3 years apart from Lana. If we had a third we'll see how we're feeling, but I'm thinking that baby would be 2-3 years after. So... That could make me 37.
I feel like when we get to our later 30s we won't all necessarily feel old and infertile.
I was 28 when I had Ashlynn and was 30 when Chloe was born. I'll be 32 in July. I feel ZERO need to pay for their college. Though we have saving accounts for each girl. I actually feel like it would be a disservice if we did. From my perspective, friends of ours who's parents paid for their school have been fiscally irresponsible. Those of us (ie: DH & I) who are paying for it have a much better budgeting mind set. It's like we learned the value of a dollar early on, we respect it. Anyway,that's just my opinion on our friends. Not saying it's true for everyone.
Who is over 30? Me! How old were you when you had baby 1? 32
Do you plan on more kids? If so, what will the spacing be? Nope. 2 is one more than we planned for
What is your ideal age you want to be done having kids by? I was not going to have any unless they were born when I was 32 or 34. So 34. I like even numbers and didnt want kids when I was 30
These threads drive me nuts! Those of you who feel old, I really think in 10 years you'll look back and wonder why you felt old at this age. Someday you'll TRULY be old and you will have wasted all your frowny-face emoticons during your youth!
Anywho...I'm 36, had Kai at 35, hope to have the second (and last) at 37. I don't have an age when I'd "like to be done" but it looks like it will be 37 or 38. I feel young, because I am :-P
Marry me please? I was starting to get eye-rolly until I read this.
Ditto all of that for me- just swap "Kai" with "Clara". I'm guessing we'll be done by 38 (If I can even have another. Note: this medical concern has nothing to do with my age).
We only ever wanted two, and I have never regretted waiting until now to have kids.
Who is over 30? Me! How old were you when you had baby 1? 32
Do you plan on more kids? If so, what will the spacing be? Nope. 2 is one more than we planned for
What is your ideal age you want to be done having kids by? I was not going to have any unless they were born when I was 32 or 34. So 34. I like even numbers and didnt want kids when I was 30
Looks like you were destined to have twins then
Ha! Except I (we) were in the one and done camp. Guess its two and through I will say that I always wanted to adopt but I definitely dont want more than 2 kids, so we wont now.
I never wanted to have kids in my 20s, especially not after I decided to go to law school, since I wasn't going to get married until I'd been working for at least a year. 30-35 was always my window. Everything has worked out according to my plans so far. *rubs palms together deviously* I wouldn't be horrified if I didn't have #2 until after 35. I don't feel old, and I don't think I'll feel old at 35 either. I've just decided I'd rather have them closer in age because I like the idea of them being able to entertain each other.. and I want that asap. lol
I'm still waiting for that. . . now I have to be the referee.
I never wanted to have kids in my 20s, especially not after I decided to go to law school, since I wasn't going to get married until I'd been working for at least a year. 30-35 was always my window. Everything has worked out according to my plans so far. *rubs palms together deviously* I wouldn't be horrified if I didn't have #2 until after 35. I don't feel old, and I don't think I'll feel old at 35 either. I've just decided I'd rather have them closer in age because I like the idea of them being able to entertain each other.. and I want that asap. lol
Mine entertain each other really well. (When they're not fighting, that is) !!! Seriously though, they play together nicely about 75% of the time and it's awesome. They also love sharing a room, last night DS2 went to bed first by about 5mins and he was wondering where his brother was, he was standing in the crib quietly waiting for him when I brought DS1 to bed. (heart)
We're having some issues now with jealousy from both of them. Anna is a momma-hog, and Jameson loves to torment her. It's been kind of exhausting this past month! They are only 18 months apart though, so Jameson is still pretty young also and legitimately needs momma-love sometimes too. They do love each other to pieces, and I know once Anna is more interactive that they will have a lot of fun playing together. I think this time period of having 2U2 has been the roughest so far for me. The first 6 months were a breeze!
I'm the oldie- I had Joshua at 40. If we could afford it, I would like to have another, but the fact that DH is 8 years older, I'm not taking the chance.
Jen, we are almost the same age. I have Pilar at 41 and my husband was 49. We also can't afford another child, not to mention I was very sick my entire pregnancy as well as the stress of been high risk.
Post by charlielove on May 13, 2013 22:04:26 GMT -5
Well, I'm 30, but I'm done having kids. I had #1 at 26 and #2 at 29. I had wanted to be done by 30, but it really wouldn't have been a big deal to me if I wasn't. Even if I was going to have a third, I'd want to have about the same spacing that I have now, which would mean having #3 at 32.
Well, I'm 30, but I'm done having kids. I had #1 at 26 and #2 at 29. I had wanted to be done by 30, but it really wouldn't have been a big deal to me if I wasn't. Even if I was going to have a third, I'd want to have about the same spacing that I have now, which would mean having #3 at 32.
For some reason I thought you were part of the '79 crew!
I was 29.5 when H was born and almost 33 when D was born. If we were having a third I'd be fine doing that for several more years. DH however turns 40 next year and his age is a factor for him, but not nearly as big as money and space.
Well, I'm 30, but I'm done having kids. I had #1 at 26 and #2 at 29. I had wanted to be done by 30, but it really wouldn't have been a big deal to me if I wasn't. Even if I was going to have a third, I'd want to have about the same spacing that I have now, which would mean having #3 at 32.
For some reason I thought you were part of the '79 crew!
I was 29.5 when H was born and almost 33 when D was born. If we were having a third I'd be fine doing that for several more years. DH however turns 40 next year and his age is a factor for him, but not nearly as big as money and space.
For some reason I thought you were part of the '79 crew!
I was 29.5 when H was born and almost 33 when D was born. If we were having a third I'd be fine doing that for several more years. DH however turns 40 next year and his age is a factor for him, but not nearly as big as money and space.
Well, I'm 30, but I'm done having kids. I had #1 at 26 and #2 at 29. I had wanted to be done by 30, but it really wouldn't have been a big deal to me if I wasn't. Even if I was going to have a third, I'd want to have about the same spacing that I have now, which would mean having #3 at 32.
For some reason I thought you were part of the '79 crew!
I was 29.5 when H was born and almost 33 when D was born. If we were having a third I'd be fine doing that for several more years. DH however turns 40 next year and his age is a factor for him, but not nearly as big as money and space.
Who pays for college? They do. It will teach responsibility. I grew up poor, my dad died when I was 2 and I am the youngest of 5. I did get a full ride but I blew it. When I returned, 2/3 were paid in cash with the rest in a loan. DH and I made too much for grants or anything. DH paid cash for his two degrees, he also worked 50 hours while going full-time.
As far as age, I was 23 when we were married, we found out I was infertile at 23. We waited to start trying after we bought the house knowing it would take a while. We were not ready to commit to IVF (completely OOP) so we would take a few months off. With DS born when I was 29, I figured #2 was 32+. I got lucky. I was high risk twice and I can't risk a third. Besides there's no scholarships or grants for daycare.
These threads drive me nuts! Those of you who feel old, I really think in 10 years you'll look back and wonder why you felt old at this age. Someday you'll TRULY be old and you will have wasted all your frowny-face emoticons during your youth!
Anywho...I'm 36, had Kai at 35, hope to have the second (and last) at 37. I don't have an age when I'd "like to be done" but it looks like it will be 37 or 38. I feel young, because I am :-P
Too many frowny face emoticons lead to early wrinkles on your smiley face emoticons... just sayin'
jfh, our timings are almost exactly the same, except I must be a few months older because I had A at 36 and hope to have #2 at 38. We'll see how we feel about a third after we see how we handle two, and I know we don't want to be irresponsible financially (or medically... we are both in great health, but things change). Whatever happens, we will be done by 40...
I'm a few months shy of 35 and had Madison when I was 33.
My plan all along (before I had Madison) was to try and space child #2 2 years apart. Then I had a baby and I might be one and done! lol. Seriously, I had an awesome pregnancy but my emergency c-section, NICU baby and then adjusting to a baby makes me realize I might want another. I love Madison and wouldn't trade her for the world but I think she might just be enough for me.
Well, I'm 30, but I'm done having kids. I had #1 at 26 and #2 at 29. I had wanted to be done by 30, but it really wouldn't have been a big deal to me if I wasn't. Even if I was going to have a third, I'd want to have about the same spacing that I have now, which would mean having #3 at 32.
Pretty much all of this. I will be 30 in October. I had dd1 at 26 and dd2 at 28. I wanted to be done by 30. And I am. We will probably not have any more kids, if so i would be 31-32 when I had it.
Post by skiesthelimit on May 14, 2013 7:59:41 GMT -5
I just turned 31 on Sunday. I was 29 when X was born. The plan was to get KU this past April but things have changed. I would like to be done having kids by 34 but that may not happen. Right now DH thinks he may be OAD. So we'll re-evaluate in a few months.
yeah I really can't imagine considering age (as in the "number") as the reason to not have another child. I guess being only 30 it may be easy to say that? But I don't see why I can't be in great shape at 40 too. If my kids are growing up and I want/can somehow afford another/more I don't imagine I'd say "nope" just because I turned X already.
so who knows how long this ute will stay open for business!
I may try some actual birth control after number 2 for a while. But I can't see us having hubby snipped any time soon. But maybe I'll feel differently after the second and be like "VASECTOMY. NOW"
Post by TrudyCampbell on May 14, 2013 8:14:46 GMT -5
teamhayes I wouldn't use college as a reason not to have a 3rd if you really want one. There are always student loans and of course all three of your kids will get full scholarships
Post by chasbride07 on May 14, 2013 8:18:15 GMT -5
I'm 33... I had DS1 at 27, DS2 at 29 (they are 19 months apart) and DD at 32.
Both of us wanted the kids to be close in age and get through the infant stage. I'm happy that unless we have a surprise, we will not have to start over again.
I also don't feel any obligation to pay for my children's college education.
This.
Yeah hubby paid his own college (well his dad paid first and then he dropped out and became a ski bum. When he was paying himself a few years later, he damn well stayed in college. lol)
He is still paying the loans but it's not much, $150/month or so. Totally fine. He went to state college and his tuition was reasonable.
NO WAY I would use college tuition as a reason to not have another child if I wanted another/could afford another right now. It's just too far in the future and things could change so much. Also if they have to get loans, so what. They get loans. Daycare is way more of a pressing issue. Gawd daycare is expensive. Ugh, I shudder to think of the second child because of daycare.
teamhayes I wouldn't use college as a reason not to have a 3rd if you really want one. There are always student loans and of course all three of your kids will get full scholarships