Skwcm is awesome, and she has posted pix of her munchkins on the private board. I think it's totally fine to not post pics because, it is the internet afterall and you just never know. Your life could become a lifetime movie because of a pic u post online.
Ummm how exactly. Please, paint a realistic scenario where this might happen.
Skwcm is awesome, and she has posted pix of her munchkins on the private board. I think it's totally fine to not post pics because, it is the internet afterall and you just never know. Your life could become a lifetime movie because of a pic u post online.
Ummm how exactly. Please, paint a realistic scenario where this might happen.
Someone uses your pic on a dating site, gives out Info you have shared.
Ummm how exactly. Please, paint a realistic scenario where this might happen.
Someone uses your pic on a dating site, gives out Info you have shared.
Also you may mention you are going somewhere, and a creepy person may go there as well, harm you or your baby...I mean you dont know who else could be reading the board.
Is that more likely than someone just sees you and your kid and starts stalking you that way?!
No Its probably not more likely, but you asked for a situation and thats what I got, Internet stalkers may be few and far between, but they do exist, which could be why some people dont share a lot, also because people fear their fam or friends seeing it.
I'm fairly new...I think I finally intro'd myself because I wanted so much to share about my DD's birthday party with you guys. And I waited too long and never got to share.
Sad fact...I have no friends...no seriously I have no friends, well none that have kids anyways. It is pretty lonely raising a baby with no other babies around. True story, there were no other babies at Lila's birthday party. I felt like I failed her.
Having you ladies around to chat with, keeps me sane and keeps me level headed. I am not a creepy newb, I promise!
I don't think I intro'd after a bunch of drama for fear that someone would think that I was another who just GBCN or whatever....
And if you don't want to post a pic of your kid at all, I get it. But I don't like when people tell us they have been lurking forever and know everything about the board, but they have no distinguishing info at all in their avatar/siggy.
I agree with this, and honestly, it makes me think the person is someone who used to post and left for whatever reason and is now pretending to be a different person. But maybe I'm overthinking it.
And if you don't want to post a pic of your kid at all, I get it. But I don't like when people tell us they have been lurking forever and know everything about the board, but they have no distinguishing info at all in their avatar/siggy.
I agree with this, and honestly, it makes me think the person is someone who used to post and left for whatever reason and is now pretending to be a different person. But maybe I'm overthinking it.
Post by kemangel124 on May 18, 2013 10:25:51 GMT -5
I actually waited longer than I wanted to come out from lurk-dom and say hello because I knew that you all would want to see a siggy with pics. It took me forever because my mac's iphoto library was no longer letting me transfer current pics onto my comp because I had NO memory. Then I got an external drive to store all my photos on. That is when I created my siggy and made my first post.
I had no intention of coming on here without a siggy. No disrespect to others who have, I just wanted to be sure that I had one since I had been looking at everyone else's for quite some time!
Anyone without a siggy or avatar pic of themselves, their kid etc. I will never take seriously, that may be unfair? But it doesn't matter. It's just how I feel.
Well I don't have generic Avatar, I assure you Colonel Mustard is very much real. Plus I posted a few pictures of me in the makeup/no makeup and the hot picture thread, so it's safe to assume that no one is talking about me specifically, right?
Yes I mean it doesn't have to be a big picture show. But I just feel like... If there are no personal pictures, ever in any threads... It just seems suspicious to me.
Well I don't have generic Avatar, I assure you Colonel Mustard is very much real. Plus I posted a few pictures of me in the makeup/no makeup and the hot picture thread, so it's safe to assume that no one is talking about me specifically, right?
I am not talking about you specifically. Specifically, @beeftaco comes to mind.
Yes I mean it doesn't have to be a big picture show. But I just feel like... If there are no personal pictures, ever in any threads... It just seems suspicious to me.
Oh yeah! There a few people I am convinced, for no other reason than lack of pictures, that they are BJ Barbie, lol.
Post by TrudyCampbell on May 18, 2013 11:24:47 GMT -5
I just don't see the difference between posting here and posting on facebook, flickr, etc. I have a lot of pictures of my child floating around the internet.
The only thing I do understand is that I wouldn't want my friends or family to find me here. But, I think it's unlikely. (Hello, creepy friends and family who are stalking me!)
I felt a lot less safe on the bump because it's such a well known site. I think it's more common to "run in to someone" you know IRL on there.
I do get wanting to feel things out before posting tons of pictures but if someone has been lurking for as long as they say then I think they should feel comfortable already, no? The first thing I ever do when posting on any forum site is edit my signature. I'm a freak about it! I guess if it seems that EVERYONE is posting a picture already, whats holding you back unless you've got something to hide? I don't know.
Post by TrudyCampbell on May 18, 2013 11:32:08 GMT -5
I've said it before and I will say it again- lurking is the creepiest thing ever! Especially since we don't only talk about baby stuff on here, and it's getting less and less. You are lurking on a site where you just read about other people's lives... that is WEIRD!
Yeah sometimes I worry about people IRL "finding" me on here but then I feel it's probably unlikely, who would be searching april 2012 moms on proboards you know? But if people did find me it wouldn't be the end of the world I suppose, though I'd feel awkward due to the amount of "sharing" I do on here. Not the pictures really, they are nbd.
But even if someone did find me, who has time to forum stalk someone?i mean, you'd need to have some kind of weird fixation/obsession to do that. And anyway what would they "do" with the information? Go and tell other people about how tired I am and how much or little sex I happen to be having? How much I fart?
I just don't see the difference between posting here and posting on facebook, flickr, etc. I have a lot of pictures of my child floating around the internet.
The only thing I do understand is that I wouldn't want my friends or family to find me here. But, I think it's unlikely. (Hello, creepy friends and family who are stalking me!)
I felt a lot less safe on the bump because it's such a well known site. I think it's more common to "run in to someone" you know IRL on there.
Facebook feels more private to me, probably because I keep my page on lockdown. Realistically, I know there are probably pictures of my kids floating around the Internet, but I can't rid of FB because my mother who lives in Nigeria would barely see pictures of her grandchildren. I do what I can keep the pictures "out there" to a minimum though.
As far as family goes, my cousin posts on MM occasionally, but I don't look up her sn anything. I bet she could find me pretty easily if she wanted to, but I trust her so it isn't a big deal.
I just don't see the difference between posting here and posting on facebook, flickr, etc. I have a lot of pictures of my child floating around the internet.
The only thing I do understand is that I wouldn't want my friends or family to find me here. But, I think it's unlikely. (Hello, creepy friends and family who are stalking me!)
I felt a lot less safe on the bump because it's such a well known site. I think it's more common to "run in to someone" you know IRL on there.
Facebook feels more private to me, probably because I keep my page on lockdown. Realistically, I know there are probably pictures of my kids floating around the Internet, but I can't rid of FB because my mother who lives in Nigeria would barely see pictures of her grandchildren. I do what I can keep the pictures "out there" to a minimum though.
As far as family goes, my cousin posts on MM occasionally, but I don't look up her sn anything. I bet she could find me pretty easily if she wanted to, but I trust her so it isn't a big deal.
Well, you've been around since TB! I know you didn't post here for awhile but you aren't a newbie, IMO. I totally understand your reasons for not posting pictures. I guess it's the people who are really new and picture-less that make me nervous because they could be anyone.
Post by pippilongstocking on May 18, 2013 16:35:03 GMT -5
I promise I'm not a creep! I try to post but the time difference is a big issue and I cannot post when I'm at work (I'm a teacher) but my post count has increased a lot so I guess I'm writing something!