I think the issue with the secret board isn't so much as there was one, but that the people involved aren't fessing up. If there wasn't that much bad stuff talked about, fessing up shouldn't be that big of a deal. The fact that people aren't coming forward insinuates fear, which in turn makes people assume that board was mean in intention.
Exactly this.
Btw, dragonmommy I totally know who you are! I think J is so freaking adorable! That video you posted of his toddler tricks on FB a couple of weeks ago slayed me
I am certain that the creation of the board wasn't for the purpose of talking about members here on pro boards. That wasn't Ouiser's premise for making an alternate board. As I said before, if it was, I wouldn't have joined. It was created in the same fashion as the yuku board, password protected to keep privacy from trolls. I believe that considering Ouiser was targeted by the troll, she invited initially only those people she trusted and was sure weren't the troll, based on personal relationships and interaction outside of the board. There was a thread started on the board about who else should be included, but to tell you the truth, it never got that far really because it simply wasn't active and everyone preferred pro boards. I said before in last week's FFFC, I don't think there was anymore than 10 threads. I'm not saying that excuses anything, but I just want to give a little bit of insight to the fact it was rarely used and didn't take off. I admitted that there was some unsavory things said there, and that is regrettable. I cannot ask for any kind of forgiveness for that. But I can tell you, it wasn't a free for all, like I can't stand such, such, and such. There wasn't a list of disliked members, there wasn't a mockery of anyone.
In terms of the other aspects of last week's FFFC, I think there is a personal dynamic to the situation between Ouiser and gisa. I think there were personal feelings of trust betrayed between the two of them, and it played out on the board unfortunately. I think Ouiser felt very attacked, one by the accusation that she was trolling mamasaurus, and two, that she created a board of her besties to talk smack on everyone else. Truthfully, I don't think there was substantial proof linking her to mamasaurus' troll are, and I'm not saying that as her friend. The ip's addresses did not match, and there was no further evidence presented, as far as I can tell that she was responsible. I don't think creation of the alternate board is equal to providing someone's personal information. I think what she was getting at was that because membership to the other board was so limited, and it didn't include mamasaurus, someone had to be responsible for providing mama with that information to essentially use as ammo against her.
Everyone is certainly entitled to their opinions, decisions, observations regarding what happened. I can try to give clarity as best I can, and I can't speak for anyone else. I can only point out what intentions were relayed to me in hopes of answering some questions.
A troll on this board? I don't remember this.
ETA: I don't remember anything being said about her on here, but that she did mention something weird with her FB.
I'm filling up with the sads again. I really need to stop reading the FFFC's. I was going to come in and have a fun one, but now I'm just sad again. And I'm sad often enough.
Do a fun one! Don't be sad!
Here's one that's nasty. I just picked my nose and got out one of those super big hard boogers. I flicked it away and the dog ate it
If this secret board wasn't a big deal, why doesn't someone that has already fessed up just say who else they knew was there? It seems to be an ongoing issue here. Someone just list the names they knew and if there are more questions, those people can be asked.
I put some Desitin on my snatch because it is damaged from wild sex the other night. It didn't help. It seems to heal everything for babies, so I had high hopes.
I'm filling up with the sads again. I really need to stop reading the FFFC's. I was going to come in and have a fun one, but now I'm just sad again. And I'm sad often enough.
I hate it when people say this when discussions get a little controversial. Some stuff needs to be said!
Oh, and here's my lame FFFC. I've spent over $10 already this week on extra moves in Candy Crush. The levels take so much luck now that I can't let it go if I've gotten lucky enough to get close.
I'm filling up with the sads again. I really need to stop reading the FFFC's. I was going to come in and have a fun one, but now I'm just sad again. And I'm sad often enough.
Do a fun one! Don't be sad!
Here's one that's nasty. I just picked my nose and got out one of those super big hard boogers. I flicked it away and the dog ate it
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OK, just cause I lurve you.
My phone base is unplugged from the wall. I know my MIL called at least once today because I saw it on the TV (our caller id pops up there too) and I don't care. I'm not fixing it and DH told me I should stay away from the scary electrical stuff. I could get shocked! LOL!
Ouiser had no problems taking a shirt I mailed her for her daughter but I was still apparently in the could be troll category. I do take this personally, I shouldn't, but I do.
The whole situation sucks. For everything so many people bitched about re: yuku, this is exactly what they bitched about and then some.
I love you Cream! I hope you know that. I still can't get over that picture from last night! Ow ow.
I'd like a seat at the wine table, if there's still room. **Waves two new bottles of red enticingly**
I have no idea what this means because I haven't read the whole thread, but I'm joining you at your wine table. Unless it's a SUPER SECRET wine table. ::whips out very fancy electric corkscrew::
If this secret board wasn't a big deal, why doesn't someone that has already fessed up just say who else they knew was there? It seems to be an ongoing issue here. Someone just list the names they knew and if there are more questions, those people can be asked.
Because they don't want to name names especially when they're friends. I understand that.
I'm filling up with the sads again. I really need to stop reading the FFFC's. I was going to come in and have a fun one, but now I'm just sad again. And I'm sad often enough.
I hate it when people say this when discussions get a little controversial. Some stuff needs to be said!
In the end nothing gets resolved here unless there's some sort of massive explosion. And I'm just over that shit right now! I'm all hormonal and it just not working for me.
Not to change the subject, but I actually have a confession for a change. I just skipped out on work to get a mani/pedi because my ILs are arriving in a couple of hours and MIL always wants to go get them together under the premise of "girl bonding". She really just wants to grill me on intimate details of our lives and ask a gazillion inappropriate questions on everything from why I'm still BFing, to why H doesn't want to move back to the east coast, to why we don't celebrate Jewish holidays to specifics on how H's business is going. She knows these questions are inappropriate (and she already knows the answers to most) and that FIL and H will get irritated with her so she waits until I'm cornered in a massage chair with wet nails so I have no choice but to answer/dodge her obnoxious questions.
Now I can tell her I just had them done. Oops!
It's going to be a long-ass weekend. There will be drinking. Send survival thoughts...
Post by creamsiclechica on May 17, 2013 12:59:42 GMT -5
charlielove, I meant on the TB. I didn't want to require my novel, lol. I think she may have actually created the board close to that time? And then used it when someone she added on Facebook started telling her family members about things discussed here.
charlielove, I meant on the TB. I didn't want to requote my novel, lol. I think she may have actually created the board close to that time? And then used it when someone she added on Facebook started telling her family members about things discussed here.
I hate it when people say this when discussions get a little controversial. Some stuff needs to be said!
In the end nothing gets resolved here unless there's some sort of massive explosion. And I'm just over that shit right now! I'm all hormonal and it just not working for me.
Sorry you feel that way cat. I think it's important if stuff is bothering us as posters, that we can talk about it, even knowing that maybe nothing will be resolved. I think it's an issue on this board that a lot of people are afraid or unwilling to say stuff that's annoying them. Then it gets swept under the rug, then it explodes.
Not to change the subject, but I actually have a confession for a change. I just skipped out on work to get a mani/pedi because my ILs are arriving in a couple of hours and MIL always wants to go get them together under the premise of "girl bonding". She really just wants to grill me on intimate details of our lives and ask a gazillion inappropriate questions on everything from why I'm still BFing, to why H doesn't want to move back to the east coast, to why we don't celebrate Jewish holidays to specifics on how H's business is going. She knows these questions are inappropriate (and she already knows the answers to most) and that FIL and H will get irritated with her so she waits until I'm cornered in a massage chair with wet nails so I have no choice but to answer/dodge her obnoxious questions.
Now I can tell her I just had them done. Oops!
It's going to be a long-ass weekend. There will be drinking. Send survival thoughts...
I wish I lived closer. I would think of an escape plan!
Not to change the subject, but I actually have a confession for a change. I just skipped out on work to get a mani/pedi because my ILs are arriving in a couple of hours and MIL always wants to go get them together under the premise of "girl bonding". She really just wants to grill me on intimate details of our lives and ask a gazillion inappropriate questions on everything from why I'm still BFing, to why H doesn't want to move back to the east coast, to why we don't celebrate Jewish holidays to specifics on how H's business is going. She knows these questions are inappropriate (and she already knows the answers to most) and that FIL and H will get irritated with her so she waits until I'm cornered in a massage chair with wet nails so I have no choice but to answer/dodge her obnoxious questions.
Now I can tell her I just had them done. Oops!
It's going to be a long-ass weekend. There will be drinking. Send survival thoughts...
Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that shit. Smart move on the preemptive mani/pedi! Hopefully you aren't forced into any alone time with her this weekend.
Not to change the subject, but I actually have a confession for a change. I just skipped out on work to get a mani/pedi because my ILs are arriving in a couple of hours and MIL always wants to go get them together under the premise of "girl bonding". She really just wants to grill me on intimate details of our lives and ask a gazillion inappropriate questions on everything from why I'm still BFing, to why H doesn't want to move back to the east coast, to why we don't celebrate Jewish holidays to specifics on how H's business is going. She knows these questions are inappropriate (and she already knows the answers to most) and that FIL and H will get irritated with her so she waits until I'm cornered in a massage chair with wet nails so I have no choice but to answer/dodge her obnoxious questions.
Now I can tell her I just had them done. Oops!
It's going to be a long-ass weekend. There will be drinking. Send survival thoughts...
Wow, that's really inappropriate, blah blah blah...but seriously...why doesn't H want to move back to the east coast??
charlielove, I meant on the TB. I didn't want to require my novel, lol. I think she may have actually created the board close to that time? And then used it when someone she added on Facebook started telling her family members about things discussed here.
She created it when this board changed in January I think.
Not to change the subject, but I actually have a confession for a change. I just skipped out on work to get a mani/pedi because my ILs are arriving in a couple of hours and MIL always wants to go get them together under the premise of "girl bonding". She really just wants to grill me on intimate details of our lives and ask a gazillion inappropriate questions on everything from why I'm still BFing, to why H doesn't want to move back to the east coast, to why we don't celebrate Jewish holidays to specifics on how H's business is going. She knows these questions are inappropriate (and she already knows the answers to most) and that FIL and H will get irritated with her so she waits until I'm cornered in a massage chair with wet nails so I have no choice but to answer/dodge her obnoxious questions.
Now I can tell her I just had them done. Oops!
It's going to be a long-ass weekend. There will be drinking. Send survival thoughts...
Wow, that's really inappropriate, blah blah blah...but seriously...why doesn't H want to move back to the east coast??
Not to change the subject, but I actually have a confession for a change. I just skipped out on work to get a mani/pedi because my ILs are arriving in a couple of hours and MIL always wants to go get them together under the premise of "girl bonding". She really just wants to grill me on intimate details of our lives and ask a gazillion inappropriate questions on everything from why I'm still BFing, to why H doesn't want to move back to the east coast, to why we don't celebrate Jewish holidays to specifics on how H's business is going. She knows these questions are inappropriate (and she already knows the answers to most) and that FIL and H will get irritated with her so she waits until I'm cornered in a massage chair with wet nails so I have no choice but to answer/dodge her obnoxious questions.
Now I can tell her I just had them done. Oops!
It's going to be a long-ass weekend. There will be drinking. Send survival thoughts...
Wow, that's really inappropriate, blah blah blah...but seriously...why doesn't H want to move back to the east coast??
charlielove, I meant on the TB. I didn't want to require my novel, lol. I think she may have actually created the board close to that time? And then used it when someone she added on Facebook started telling her family members about things discussed here.
She created it when this board changed in January I think.
That is what she said. Though I know at some point a private PB board did exist but was never used (apparently?).
She created it when this board changed in January I think.
That is what she said. Though I know at some point a private PB board did exist but was never used (apparently?).
Oh maybe I thought they were the same thing, because I remember a discussion about private boards a when we did move, when was it, September? I don't know, I'm bad with dating things. And I thought she mentioned that as a option back then. I think I just assumed that one and the one we used were the same.
Post by The Foozzler on May 17, 2013 13:14:00 GMT -5
Another totally unrelated confession:
H saw me toss a tub of French Onion dip into my bag this morning. When he asked about it, told him I was planning to grab some vegetables from the cafeteria. That was totally a lie. I intended to buy a big bag of pretzels and chips on the way to school and dip them happily all day. I am doing that right now, and it is amazing.