Guys, my MIL is making me an insane person...

[SallySparrow]

She is very "poor me, no one understands" in her daily life. And she's discovered facebook. Which is a terrible combination. She posts things all the time about how her kids don't ever call her (DH talks to her about once a week on the phone and we see her fairly regularly), about how no one tells her anything, etc. When we started moving stuff out of our house into storage in preparation of putting our house on the market,  she posted something about how we didn't tell her we were moving that weekend and that it must be payback for something. We hadn't moved. We just moved STUFF.

DH has had conversations with her about this. I have stayed the hell out of it and I'm not friends with her on facebook for this very reason. 

So, my friend is throwing my shower. She mailed invites and also made a little facebook group so people could RSVP there if they prefer that over phone communication. MIL declined and posted this gem: "The grandma on the Dad's side will not be going because she will be working and has been told that day is already red lined. Was really looking forward to going but no one asked about my schedule. Oh well I'm just _____'s Mom. No one important."

What. The. Frick. First of all, we mentioned this date to her WEEKS ago and she said nothing. Also, the friend who is throwing me this shower? She lives 8+ hours away, is in grad school, and is pregnant as well. She's super, insanely busy, so it's amazing that she's throwing it for me in the first place and this was one of the few weekends we could both do it. 

I am too tired to deal with this crap. And the worst part is, it actually does make me feel bad because we really did try to pick a good weekend! I haven't even told DH about this one...he's been away all week and is traveling tomorrow. I don't want him to be stressed out because she's at it again.

[twotrue]

Passive agressive much? She sounds like a real peach.

[bazinga]

Sorry you are dealing with this. How terrible of her!

[winecheery]

I hate her bad attitude and immaturity. Don't you feel bad for a second. You can never possibly please a person like this. She is creating her own misery and being an idiot.

[Cheesecake]

I think your MIL needs to be put on the time-out-chair for acting like a baby, throwing tantrums and being an asshole in general.
Sorry you have to deal with that.

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[Lucille Bluth]

She's embarrassing herself. It sounds like some serious fremdschämen. It's a pity she can't let you have the attention without constantly painting you guys in a bad light. Clearly, she's not going to achieve anything good by acting like this.

[snickers]

I am pretty sure this is what MIL's are for.
Yours sounds like a passive aggressive peach.Sorry you are dealing with this but hey, it might be funner without her there, lol.

[SallySparrow]

Thanks everyone. I don't even know what to do about her any more. Like I said, DH has had conversations with her about this, but clearly it doesn't help. And I've taken more of a "It's your mom, you handle it" approach. It's just really starting to affect every interaction I have with her because I'm so annoyed with her all the time. Boo.

I really liked her when H and I  first got married, too. You know, when I didn't know her very well. lol

[Deleted]

she sounds like a total asshat. sorry that you have to deal with her.

[mcfelix]

Wow! That is ridiculous. I hate people who act like martyrs all the time. regardless, have a fabulous time at your shower! It will probably be nice that she is not there.

[SallySparrow]

Oh, and it just gets better. Apparently DH's sister saw the comment was talking to their mom and just told her that we didn't pick the date to spite her, that it was just the best day for my friend (who is throwing the part) and me (you know, the mom) and MIL told SIL to "f--- off" and that she didn't need her "stupid comments".

Ugh. Can I just divorce a MIL? I'd like to keep the husband.

[SallySparrow]

Jun 15, 2013 18:32:41 GMT -5 @callmefia said:

I'm glad your SIL stuck up for you! Was that on FB too?!?!

No, that was over the phone. Thank God. But MIL just needs to walk away from FB. lol