I am so sad for my sister.

[LeggsBenedict]

Jun 18, 2013 14:14:57 GMT -5 jamaicam said:

My brother knew full well that he better be nice to his girlfriend while he was doing his PhD (they lived in different cities, he travelled the world while she stayed and worked, she agreed to wait till he finished to get married etc). He is crazy smart bookwise but he also managed to be a human being.

Your BIL is an arse and it's not the PhD that is making him that way

uh, yeah. this is me. RIGHT NOW. if h were anything less than The Best Husband in the World right now, I would kick his ass.

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how old is he?

[dandylion]

Jun 18, 2013 14:26:57 GMT -5 cville said:

how old is he?

27

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Apparently the "d" in Phd stands for dick in this guy's case.

[cabbage10]

This entire thread breaks my heart and is too close to home.

Prior to the relationship I am in now I had a FI who also was getting his PhD in Chem E. On more than one occasion I was told that I just wasn't that smart and that it would be nice if I could have intellectual conversations, also that I had no ambition to become anything. (i actually love my job and am pretty damn good at it)

I don't think I am really that dumb, I majored in a science field and work hard to be on top of current research. Sorry I don't want to sit around at a party and discuss that stuff all the time and like being silly

Please help your sister find someone who loves her for her wonderful self, I know that my self esteem took a huge beating and I had to go to counseling and everything before realizing that I was worth a lot more than I gave myself credit for. I hope the same for your sister. I am very lucky to be with someone now who likes me for my seriousness and silliness.

[Wrath0fKuus]

People who are actually super smart are bright enough to know how to hide this kind of assholishness. Sounds like this guy learned everything he knows about how to fool other people into thinking he's smart by watching House.

[auntie]

Jun 18, 2013 13:33:21 GMT -5 dandylion said:

Eta: I think he wants to discuss his research & ideas pertaining to school.  He's a chemical engineer.  

A chemical engineer? Couldn't hack it as a real chemist, huh? Seriously, my PhD chemist friends make jokes about chemical engineers moving their lips when they read.

[10nille]

Jun 18, 2013 13:10:52 GMT -5 dandylion said:

He told her he has no respect for her profession and that he thinks she doesn't want much in life.

What do I say to her? Of course I want her to leave, but she is really hoping to work it out. They've been together since college and she's very opposed to divorce. Ugh.

You tell her the next damn time he tells her she "doesn't want much in life" she tells him she must not to settle for a jackass.

I get the feeling he has someone else and even if she is very opposed to divorce it won't be up to her. Also, is being opposed to divorce is all well and good but NOT if it means you are belittled.

She should visit her family more often and hopefully being away let's her see he is mean. Don't badmouth him, just keep telling her stuff to build herself up.

[joshlyman]

Also the whole too close to her family thing reeks of controlling douchenozzle.

[karmasabiotch]

All you can do is let her know how much you love her and be there for get if she wants to talk.