What about yourself are you working on?

[compassrose]

I realized when I moved here that I weighed 10 pounds more than I normally do and I had to buy new jeans. Since then, I have been working on portion control and not overeating and doing regular (albeit short) exercising. It's going well and I am pretty happy with how I look.

Post divorce, I have been working on taking care of myself and putting my mental health first. While I am in a long term relationship, it is also long distance, and that has given me a lot of time to focus on myself. I am more comfortable spending time alone, I went to therapy for the 6 months before I moved, and I have been meditating more regularly. Over all, I feel like I am getting to a very good place.

The thing I need to work on more is being less reactionary. I tend to take things personally, and I need to step back and look at the situation more, especially at work. My boss is going through a hard time right now, and I am trying hard to be patient and supportive, but still stand up for myself (in a respectful, profession) when she questions my judgment or doesn't follow through on things without being defensive.

What things are you working on?

[Deleted]

Add me to the weight list!

I want to lose 40 lbs. I started 7 weeks ago and im down 12.4

[liubotflittyfud]

I'm working on being financially stable alone. It's very hard but I'm doing better. I have an appointment with a financial fitness planner today, and best thing it's free because it's through my credit union.

I'd love to lose 40 lbs. I didn't quite start back into that groove yet.

[bullygirl979]

I am working on thinking more with my head and less with my heart. I think this last relationship really showed me that thinking with my heart gets me into trouble!

I am also working on doing more "fun" things. More vacations, etc. Life is too short to be conservative all the time!

[doriswe]

I'm working on taking more risks since the divorce! I was always scared to try new things and I've been making lists of stuff I was too scared to try and checking them off one by one! Currently on my list: zip lining and shooting a gun!

I'm also making sure I have some "me" time because it's easy to get sucked into "mom-mode" or "employee-mode".

[bullygirl979]

Jun 13, 2012 15:57:17 GMT -5 mags said:

Add me to the weight list!

I want to lose 40 lbs. I started 7 weeks ago and im down 12.4

That is awesome, mags!

[compassrose]

Jun 13, 2012 16:01:31 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I'm working on taking more risks since the divorce! I was always scared to try new things and I've been making lists of stuff I was too scared to try and checking them off one by one! Currently on my list: zip lining and shooting a gun!

Ooh, zip lining is fun! I'm scared to shoot a gun, though. What else is on your list?

[trafficgirl]

I'm also working on weight, but for me right now it's more of a mental thing. I've been overweight most of my life (with some bouts of skinny) and I'm currently in therapy to get to the bottom of things. So far it's actually been really good - though I haven't lost weight. That's gonna be a while yet.

[gozf]

I want to get all nice and fit and healthy.

[bullygirl979]

Jun 13, 2012 16:01:31 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I'm working on taking more risks since the divorce! I was always scared to try new things and I've been making lists of stuff I was too scared to try and checking them off one by one! Currently on my list: zip lining and shooting a gun!

Hmm...looking at your list and the second thing on my list, plus my earlier post about difficulty booking a vacation for 1.....I think we could get into a lot of trouble!! LOL

[doriswe]

Jun 13, 2012 16:04:12 GMT -5 compassrose said:

Jun 13, 2012 16:01:31 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I'm working on taking more risks since the divorce! I was always scared to try new things and I've been making lists of stuff I was too scared to try and checking them off one by one! Currently on my list: zip lining and shooting a gun!

Ooh, zip lining is fun! I'm scared to shoot a gun, though. What else is on your list?

Snowboarding was, but I didn't have a chance to try that this winter.

Right after the divorce my list was: get a new tattoo (check), kiss a boy (check) and karaoke (check)! Then I took my kids to Disney by myself, which I never would have done before.

I'm also planning my first trip out of the country this year and am doing a run, of some sort, every month from May-November.

[doriswe]

Jun 13, 2012 16:06:25 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jun 13, 2012 16:01:31 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I'm working on taking more risks since the divorce! I was always scared to try new things and I've been making lists of stuff I was too scared to try and checking them off one by one! Currently on my list: zip lining and shooting a gun!

Hmm...looking at your list and the second thing on my list, plus my earlier post about difficulty booking a vacation for 1.....I think we could get into a lot of trouble!! LOL

Duuuuuuddddeeeeee, let's plan something!!!!!!

[achase123]

I'm currently working on studying my ASS off so I can finally pass my CFP test.

I'm also working out really hard and being accountable about everything I eat. My (super vain) goal is to have a six pack by the time we go to Scottsdale at the end of July.

[lovelybb]

I'm working on cooking more and eating healthier... spending WAY too much $$ on eating take-out.

I'm also trying to work out more consistently

Trying not to take things too personally also, while not letting someone stomp all over my boundaries... I'm also working on being more patient. So not a strength of mine!

[sharic]

I am working on not trying to please everyone. I feel that I used to post everything exciting I was doing on FB because I wanted to look "happy" post-divorce so people didn't feel bad for me. I realized this became a competition within me more than anything to try to look like I was having so much fun.

I am also saying no to things that I really don't want to do. I used to say yes to everything so that I was getting myself 'out there', but now I realize that it was too draining, and I was paying with time and money for things I really didn't want to do:)

[dakotadangerdog]

Jun 13, 2012 16:07:06 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jun 13, 2012 16:04:12 GMT -5 compassrose said:

Ooh, zip lining is fun! I'm scared to shoot a gun, though. What else is on your list?

Snowboarding was, but I didn't have a chance to try that this winter.

Right after the divorce my list was: get a new tattoo (check), kiss a boy (check) and karaoke (check)! Then I took my kids to Disney by myself, which I never would have done before.

I'm also planning my first trip out of the country this year and am doing a run, of some sort, every month from May-November.

Come visit me, I'll take you snowboarding

Though my version of teaching you is taking you to the top and yelling YOU CAN DO IT!!! While you try to make your way down lol. So maybe don't do that.

[dakotadangerdog]

I'm working on health/fitness goals. My new one is: No more hurting my back! We will see how I do with that lol

Besides fitness, I'm just trying to be really aware of how happy I am and make changes I need to if I'm unhappy. That definitely pertains to dating. If I'm unhappy with a relationship I need to figure out if there's a way to make it work or walk away. I am getting much better at that. I ended my last 2 relationships because I realized they were not going to work for me.

[letyourselfgo]

1. Resisting the urge to chase guys. I feel like I'm part of Relationship Anonymous or something, if such a group existed.....lol.

2. Learning to live with myself and by myself.

3. Finishing school.....I still have 2 years to go. I'm waiting on an Transfer admissions letter from the University......it should be here any day now.

[doriswe]

Jun 13, 2012 17:37:51 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Jun 13, 2012 16:07:06 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Snowboarding was, but I didn't have a chance to try that this winter.

Right after the divorce my list was: get a new tattoo (check), kiss a boy (check) and karaoke (check)! Then I took my kids to Disney by myself, which I never would have done before.

I'm also planning my first trip out of the country this year and am doing a run, of some sort, every month from May-November.

Come visit me, I'll take you snowboarding

Though my version of teaching you is taking you to the top and yelling YOU CAN DO IT!!! While you try to make your way down lol. So maybe don't do that.

This version of "teaching" makes me believe I will break something!! But I'm all for an adventure

[dakotadangerdog]

Jun 13, 2012 18:24:15 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jun 13, 2012 17:37:51 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Come visit me, I'll take you snowboarding

Though my version of teaching you is taking you to the top and yelling YOU CAN DO IT!!! While you try to make your way down lol. So maybe don't do that.

This version of "teaching" makes me believe I will break something!! But I'm all for an adventure

Nah you won't break anything, you'll just learn really fast but if you do hurt yourself I'll have booze in my backpack to make you feel better

[bowies]

Woohoo mags!

I'm working on getting back into a fitness and healthy eating routine. I've exercised two days in a row and currently cannot walk up a flight of stairs because my quads hurt so much. My goal is to feel good in a one-piece swimsuit without a coverup.

I'm also working up the cojones to make a change at work. I'm bored in my current role and I'd like to work on something different. I talk with my manager in a couple of weeks.

I want to be more social. I'm fine when I get out of the house, but my first instinct is always to curl up with a book instead.

[doriswe]

Jun 13, 2012 22:00:11 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Jun 13, 2012 18:24:15 GMT -5 doriswe said:

This version of "teaching" makes me believe I will break something!! But I'm all for an adventure

Nah you won't break anything, you'll just learn really fast but if you do hurt yourself I'll have booze in my backpack to make you feel better

Deal! And I'm guessing I'd have some damn good stories to tell after the fact!!

[BookLover]

I'm currently working toward my degrees. I just got my certification in one field last month. I'm one class short on my associates and I'm about 6-8 classes shy of my bachelors. I stopped school when I got married and I had only taken care of my basics.

I also am trying to get into better shape. Have been failing lately, but since moving back almost 3 years ago, I've lost about 40lbs. Still have at least another 60-70 I want to lose.

[aliciar6]

I continue to work on being more calm, I used to have one heck of a temper and have huge fights and yelling matches with XH. I can't recall the last time I have had one of those.

I am working on continuing to be less stubborn and focusing on the positive things in life vs the things that annoy me...which i do because i want to fix the things that annoy me, but to get wrapped up in them causes stress

I am working on my 5K times and I need to get into the 24's to be more competative in my age group, but that means I have to up my training, which means leaving my running buddy in the dust some times. we have very different paces. I am not running for fitness reasons, but it relaxes me and it's something to do with my friend but fitness is a side bonus that comes with it.

I'm working on trying to get along better with the dog, it's not her fault she acts out and has serious issues it was the assholes who had her before that abused her. I'm also more of a cat person, but if FI can love both equally and not be a cat person, I should be able to love both equally.

[udscoobychick]

I would like to lose ~10-20 lbs. I'm at a healthy weight now, but the higher end of healthy...I'm not being really hardcore about watching what I eat or anything like that, but I do try to eat healthily for the most part. I also stay very active dancing several times a week. I'm looking into buying some silks so that I can practice them at BF's house.

I am trying hard to be more patient and less snippy when I'm stressed out or tired.

[farfalla2011]

I'm still in my pursuit of becoming fit and healthy. I would love to lose another 5-10 pounds, but I've pretty much been at a stand still since March - since Jan, I've lost 13. I have been exercising, but I've really been eating more than I should because I've been really busy and not able to meal plan as much. I am pretty happy size-wise, so I guess that's why I'm never able to remain motivated to finish to my fitness goal...maybe that's the next thing I need to work on lol.

I'm also trying to be reasonable about my financial goals. I have student loan debt that makes me feel like I'm suffocating at times but I need to find my balance since it'll be around for a while and I still want to be able to enjoy life.

[explorer2001]

Patience.

[explorer2001]

Jun 13, 2012 16:08:45 GMT -5 achase123 said:

I'm currently working on studying my ASS off so I can finally pass my CFP test.

I'm also working out really hard and being accountable about everything I eat. My (super vain) goal is to have a six pack by the time we go to Scottsdale at the end of July.

Good luck with the CFP. It's a hard test.

Say hi when you're in Scottsdale. You'll be right around the corner from me.

[phoenixrising]

I will preface this by saying I just moved out on my own on Friday, but I feel like I have SO MUCH to work on. I had been doing well with weight loss but have fallen back into my disordered/binge eating patterns, so I am working through that with my therapist. I am working on being less hard on myself. I am working on being more open/less numb and actually feeling things and expressing feelings, instead of intellectualizing everything (this is REALLY hard for me, as I did not "learn" to feel my feelings when I was growing up). I am working on controlling and managing my anxiety (and not with meds as my therapist doesn't want to further numb me to my feelings). And I am working on making my apartment a home for me and my dog, which is the only fun thing on the list! But every day is a teeny bit better, so there's that!

[mysterons]

Losing weight and self esteem.