Do your parents like your SO?

[mellimel19]

She didn't at first, but she's warmed up to him now that she's seen how handy he is around the house and that he is such a good cook. I'm still not sure she'd go so far as to say she likes him though. But my mom doesn't really like anyone. Sometimes I'm not even sure she likes me all that much lol

[gozf]

Jul 17, 2013 15:43:32 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

Jul 17, 2013 15:42:21 GMT -5 gozf said:

You and I should talk.

I really need you to not take this in the skin-suit way, but your relationship with Thor has been striking a chord with me as long as I've been lurking.

I'm sorry to hear that!  How long have you and your SO been together?  I'm glad that my folks are very friendly and nice to him, but I do know that they're mystified still, and it really annoys me.

[Jalapeñomel]

Yes a lot.

[rex]

They like him a lot!

[sineadorebellion]

Sometimes I'm pretty sure they like him more than me lol. They've done a lot for him, like help put him through community college.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Jul 17, 2013 15:59:04 GMT -5 gozf said:

Jul 17, 2013 15:43:32 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I really need you to not take this in the skin-suit way, but your relationship with Thor has been striking a chord with me as long as I've been lurking.

I'm sorry to hear that!  How long have you and your SO been together?  I'm glad that my folks are very friendly and nice to him, but I do know that they're mystified still, and it really annoys me.

We've been together almost 2 years.  

They are SO sweet and friendly to him, and they tell me all the time how kind he is, how much he loves me, how respectful he is of them, and what a good relationship we seem to have when we're all together.  They'll even say things like, "Well, when you get married..." and "When you guys have kids....", but might follow it up with:  "Are you sure you'll be okay with this?  Are you sure you'll be okay with that?  Why doesn't he ________________?"

I think it's their way of making sure I think critically about whom I'm choosing as a husband, but if they know me at all, they should also know that I'm a perpetual over-analyzer and have considered these anyway.

I am also the "black sheep" of the family; I don't resemble anyone, physically or personality-wise.  And every major decision I've made so far, I've made without the blessing of my dad, who then admits later that I made the right call.

They have both come out and said that they do not believe anyone will ever be good enough for me, and that they would do this to anyone.

They are terrific parents, and they mean well, and I love them for it, but at times it is exhausting being their child, lol.

[trafficgirl]

Yup, they like him. I don't think they've known him long enough to love him, but I think that will come. They definitely like how well he treats me - and how different from XH he is (in all good ways).

[mrsgoontz]

Yes, my entire family loves my H.

[snickers]

Yup, my parents love H probably more than me lol

[Deleted]

they like him a lot, and they respect him a ton. i think they're still (after 10 years) a little intimidated by him because he's self-assured and really quiet and we're all neurotic and talk nonstop.

[lolly]

They love him. My BIL set the bar pretty low for sons in law though lol.

[dcannie]

yes. probably like him more than me. he is much more personable and friendly.

[idoinjuly]

Yes, they really love him. They probably think he's too nice to be with the likes of me. lol. He had a rough road though. I'm the first one in my HUGE family to marry outside of my culture and religion. He handled it all like a champ.

[sparkythelawyer]

I think so? But on the other hand, I am really not sure if my Dad would tell me otherwise, unless he was like, beating me or something.

You never know with my Mom. I think she thought he was a nice guy. But she hated that he has diabetes and that it took him forever to propose to me. Mom had a way of letting you know when you were not up to snuff, and she made her feelings about the status of our relationship well known. But I am not sure if it meant she did not like him anymore, if that makes any sense.

[gozf]

Jul 17, 2013 16:08:30 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

Jul 17, 2013 15:59:04 GMT -5 gozf said:

I'm sorry to hear that!  How long have you and your SO been together?  I'm glad that my folks are very friendly and nice to him, but I do know that they're mystified still, and it really annoys me.

We've been together almost 2 years.  

They are SO sweet and friendly to him, and they tell me all the time how kind he is, how much he loves me, how respectful he is of them, and what a good relationship we seem to have when we're all together.  They'll even say things like, "Well, when you get married..." and "When you guys have kids....", but might follow it up with:  "Are you sure you'll be okay with this?  Are you sure you'll be okay with that?  Why doesn't he ________________?"

I think it's their way of making sure I think critically about whom I'm choosing as a husband, but if they know me at all, they should also know that I'm a perpetual over-analyzer and have considered these anyway.

I am also the "black sheep" of the family; I don't resemble anyone, physically or personality-wise.  And every major decision I've made so far, I've made without the blessing of my dad, who then admits later that I made the right call.

They have both come out and said that they do not believe anyone will ever be good enough for me, and that they would do this to anyone.

They are terrific parents, and they mean well, and I love them for it, but at times it is exhausting being their child, lol.

[gozf]

Jul 17, 2013 16:08:30 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

Jul 17, 2013 15:59:04 GMT -5 gozf said:

I'm sorry to hear that!  How long have you and your SO been together?  I'm glad that my folks are very friendly and nice to him, but I do know that they're mystified still, and it really annoys me.

We've been together almost 2 years.  

They are SO sweet and friendly to him, and they tell me all the time how kind he is, how much he loves me, how respectful he is of them, and what a good relationship we seem to have when we're all together.  They'll even say things like, "Well, when you get married..." and "When you guys have kids....", but might follow it up with:  "Are you sure you'll be okay with this?  Are you sure you'll be okay with that?  Why doesn't he ________________?"

I think it's their way of making sure I think critically about whom I'm choosing as a husband, but if they know me at all, they should also know that I'm a perpetual over-analyzer and have considered these anyway.

I am also the "black sheep" of the family; I don't resemble anyone, physically or personality-wise.  And every major decision I've made so far, I've made without the blessing of my dad, who then admits later that I made the right call.

They have both come out and said that they do not believe anyone will ever be good enough for me, and that they would do this to anyone.

They are terrific parents, and they mean well, and I love them for it, but at times it is exhausting being their child, lol.

This sounds so familiar! Ugh. Yes, it's from a place of concern and love, etc. that doesn't make it less annoying, and mine loved my exH so much that it's a little awkward.

[circa1978]

We're really lucky. My family loves him, his family loves me. ETA: And we love them back. My in-laws are eccentric but I love them like my own parents and am really lucky to have my SIL in my life. 

[sawyerthedestroyer]

They like him a lot, but my mom is pretty disappointed that he's agnostic.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Jul 17, 2013 16:46:51 GMT -5 gozf said:

Jul 17, 2013 16:08:30 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

We've been together almost 2 years.  

They are SO sweet and friendly to him, and they tell me all the time how kind he is, how much he loves me, how respectful he is of them, and what a good relationship we seem to have when we're all together.  They'll even say things like, "Well, when you get married..." and "When you guys have kids....", but might follow it up with:  "Are you sure you'll be okay with this?  Are you sure you'll be okay with that?  Why doesn't he ________________?"

I think it's their way of making sure I think critically about whom I'm choosing as a husband, but if they know me at all, they should also know that I'm a perpetual over-analyzer and have considered these anyway.

I am also the "black sheep" of the family; I don't resemble anyone, physically or personality-wise.  And every major decision I've made so far, I've made without the blessing of my dad, who then admits later that I made the right call.

They have both come out and said that they do not believe anyone will ever be good enough for me, and that they would do this to anyone.

They are terrific parents, and they mean well, and I love them for it, but at times it is exhausting being their child, lol.

This sounds so familiar! Ugh. Yes, it's from a place of concern and love, etc. that doesn't make it less annoying, and mine loved my exH so much that it's a little awkward.

From what I've read in the past, your parents and my parents could hang out and quietly judge Thor and my BF together!

[ElizabethBennet]

My parents like my H more than they like me lol.

[Deleted]

Yes. My h is my stepdad's fishing buddy.

[Knight]

My mom likes him well enough but sometimes she gives off a he's-not-good-enough-for-you vibe. I think it's only because he moved me an hour away and we're planning on moving another 2 hours away soon. She kinda latched onto me after my dad died and me moving was hard on her.

[eb777888]

Yes, but all adults adore my H, especially old adults.

[BlackCanary]

Yep! They are usually on the look out on food that he can eat since he has a ton of allergies. 

He asked for my dad's "permission" to marry me, my dad responded with "take her off our hands!" Thanks Dad, I love you too. 

[KKD]

Yes, my parents love my H. They are perpetually grateful to him for breaking me out of my teenage misery and taking me off their hands. lol.

I did learn a couple years ago that my one uncle does NOT like him (because H is quiet compared to my loud family and doesn't like to party like the rest of them), but that uncle is an alcoholic asshole so neither of us cares what he thinks.

[iamgrace]

I think they're kind of indifferent. Both my parents care more about themselves than anything else.

[thecatdidit]

Jul 17, 2013 15:53:19 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

My whole family loves J. My mom wishes he made more money, but she still loves him and they all love how happy he makes me.

Does she say this directly? How does she know how much he makes?

[mskitkat]

I think so. They don't dislike him, but they don't know him very well, either. We live far away, and DH is very quiet and shy. It takes a lot of alcohol to get him to talk to people other than me and his side of the family. Even if they didn't really like him, they wouldn't tell me, because they know how happy he makes me.

[mariafromnj]

My parents both love DH. I am super close with my family and I don't think I every would have been ok with someone they didn't like. They know me better than anyone so if they saw something that gave them a red flag, they would have probably been right.
They liked my ex but didn't think he would make me happy long term but they never pushed me on it. They were absolutely right about him.

[kaybee85]

Yes, my mom really loves M. My dad also really liked him and knew we were engaged before he passed away (he died 7 months before we got married).