Sounders deactivated?

[oregonpachey]

I hope she comes back. 

If you are lurking Sounders, I am thinking of you.

[joenali]

Wasn't her husband reading her posts on here?

[pantsparty]

Um yeah, I don't blame her.

[oregonpachey]

And this is why I hate going out of town, even just for a weekend. I miss too much.

[BlackCanary]

I don't blame her at all. I hope everything works out for her and that she's ok. 

[joenali]

Jul 21, 2013 22:59:33 GMT -5 @gypsy said:

What'd I miss? I heard the general updates, but why the deactivation?

Because her husband was reading her posts behind her back, and she spilled on here that she wanted a divorce.

[gretchenindisguise]

Poor sounders. I hope you're lurking and I hope you're doing ok. We're all pulling for you.

[wrathofkuus]

Fucking husbands, being so godsdamned nosy and taking away their wives' support systems. Mr. Sounders, this kind of thing is why a woman doesn't want to be married to you!

[ax2]

I hope she can come back to us at some point. Talk about a rough go. We're thinking of you Sounders!

[Saint Monica]

(heart) you sounders  ((hugs))

[bananapancakes]

Big hugs to you Sounders!

[luckyval]

Ditto @jehc

This makes me sad and worry for her - if someone gets an update, let us know

[lola]

She is here. She has a new name. She posted it this weekend, but asked for people to not quote it, but I think she's around somewhere.

[Deleted]

Jul 22, 2013 8:39:59 GMT -5 toledo said:

If a regular's H cheated on her and acted like he was planning to leave, would you judge her for snooping a bit on his computer/phone?

You should be a little more clear on what you are getting at here. This reads like you are saying Sounders cheated on her H.

[littlesthobo]

Jul 22, 2013 8:49:03 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Jul 22, 2013 8:39:59 GMT -5 toledo said:

If a regular's H cheated on her and acted like he was planning to leave, would you judge her for snooping a bit on his computer/phone?

You should be a little more clear on what you are getting at here. This reads like you are saying Sounders cheated on her H.

Edited because I'm really not around enough to presume I know the real story. But she has alluded to this, yes?

[luckyval]

Jul 22, 2013 8:50:21 GMT -5 littlesthobo said:

Jul 22, 2013 8:49:03 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

You should be a little more clear on what you are getting at here. This reads like you are saying Sounders cheated on her H.

So then she was perfectly clear.

I completely missed this part of the story

[speckledfrog]

I need to start opening more posts.

[wrathofkuus]

Snooping a bit... no. But even so, you tune the hell out when you see that it's not communications between your spouse and the affair partner, not keep reading that even though it isn't part of the cheating.

[curtains]

Jul 22, 2013 8:51:57 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

I need to start opening more posts.

You read my mind

[wrathofkuus]

Toledo, I will admit that I am a little biased since her husband is a rather paternalistic older man. I'd probably think he should raze her life to the ground if they'd been equals.

[eb777888]

Jul 22, 2013 8:51:22 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Jul 22, 2013 8:50:21 GMT -5 littlesthobo said:

So then she was perfectly clear.

I completely missed this part of the story

Me too.

[Deleted]

Jul 22, 2013 9:01:41 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Jul 22, 2013 8:51:22 GMT -5 luckyval said:

I completely missed this part of the story

Me too.

me three.

ETA:  therefore i have no opinion one way or another.  i hope everyone involved is doing as well as can be expected.

[Deleted]

I must have missed part of the story. I still think its inappropriate to be throwing around insinuations and thinly veiled accusations. Sounders is a regular, she just miscarried and is going through a divorce. FFS.

[lola]

Jul 22, 2013 9:01:41 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Jul 22, 2013 8:51:22 GMT -5 luckyval said:

I completely missed this part of the story

Me too.

Eek. Yeah. Me too.

[Deleted]

Jul 22, 2013 8:52:58 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Snooping a bit... no. But even so, you tune the hell out when you see that it's not communications between your spouse and the affair partner, not keep reading that even though it isn't part of the cheating.

i think when a person has crossed the line into snooping, they don't snoop just until they learn the precise information they were previously seeking, no more, no less.

[Kristinmo]

Jul 22, 2013 9:05:14 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

I must have missed part of the story. I still think its inappropriate to be throwing around insinuations and thinly veiled accusations. Sounders is a regular, she just miscarried and is going through a divorce. FFS.

It was not an insinuation, she was stated a fact which was confirmed by Sounders.

[MWOS]

I don't know what her husband being older has to do with anything.

She admitted to cheating/emotional affair
He asked her to go to counseling
She refused

Now they're getting divorced. If the roles were reversed, we would have no issue with this

[ElizabethBennet]

Jul 22, 2013 9:08:28 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

Jul 22, 2013 9:05:14 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

I must have missed part of the story. I still think its inappropriate to be throwing around insinuations and thinly veiled accusations. Sounders is a regular, she just miscarried and is going through a divorce. FFS.

Sounders posted about it herself...today.

No one's accusing her of anything.

Where?

[iamgrace]

Yeah, I'd be snooping too in her H's position

[Deleted]

Jul 22, 2013 9:12:02 GMT -5 toledo said:

Jul 22, 2013 9:05:14 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

I must have missed part of the story. I still think its inappropriate to be throwing around insinuations and thinly veiled accusations. Sounders is a regular, she just miscarried and is going through a divorce. FFS.

maybe you should open more posts, too.