I would be upset too. I understand mornings can be hectic with children. However two minutes in the morning to say Happy Birthday and land a great big smooch on you wouldn't have killed him. I'm sure it wasn't intentional. Maybe he felt he didn't need to since your family celebrated last night? I don't find that acceptable but maybe your DH does?
With Fifths, you are supposed to feel whiny and flu like until you get the red areas. If you have the red stuff, you should start feeling better soon, stay out of the sun!
My doc said adults don't normally get the rash, but I am watching out for it. My fever broke last night- so I hope it is done soon. I was so freaking exhausted yesterday I could barely move. And my joints hurt!
I'm sure your husband will acknowledge your birthday later today. I know that it hurt not to hear it first thing this morning, but many people aren't truly together in the morning. Your going through your routine, trying to get things done and get out the door, and don't really get a chance with your thoughts enough to think your way through the day right away. Once he does, I'm sure he'll remember, and will make it a point to mark the special day (or is it possible that he thought/felt like he already did yesterday, since you celebrated with family)?
I know we celebrated yesterday. I'm not pissed because there wasn't a diamond tennis bracelet and expensive coffee waiting on me as I awoke, I'm pissed because he didn't even say happy birthday. I don't think I'm being unreasonable.
Everyone at work remembered and has been very sweet
All I'm saying is that it's a bit early to be pissed. Some people don't think the clearest in the mornings. He may have been so focused on getting out of the house and to work so that he can leave on time tonight and spend the whole evening with you, but with this way of thinking, you'll spend the whole day upset and not be able to enjoy tonight, regardless of what he might have in mind.
Would it have been nice for him to acknowledge it was your birthday? Yes. Would I have felt a little let down if my husband didn't mention it before work? Yes. But would I cry over it, say he "forgot," and be pissed? No. I'd cautiously hope that he would say/do something later, and try to focus on other things that would make my day happy.
Happy Birthday Lazarus! I hope you have a better day, and that he's sent you some surprise at work. ((hugs)) Have you taken any motrin, had any coffee? you poor poodle.
Ibuprofen and I have a keurig in my office that is brewing some Starbucks right now. I brought the good creamer. And I'm about to eat my cupcake.
Thanks everyone. I am going to punch him in the gonads.
I always make his birthday morning so special, I just wanted the same!
This is reasonable, but if he doesn't do it on your own, you'll have to tell him that it would make you feel really special if he could pamper you on the morning of your birthday. It's not uncommon for two people in a relationship to have different ideas of how to celebrate and show they appreciate one another.
I know we celebrated yesterday. I'm not pissed because there wasn't a diamond tennis bracelet and expensive coffee waiting on me as I awoke, I'm pissed because he didn't even say happy birthday. I don't think I'm being unreasonable.
Everyone at work remembered and has been very sweet
All I'm saying is that it's a bit early to be pissed. Some people don't think the clearest in the mornings. He may have been so focused on getting out of the house and to work so that he can leave on time tonight and spend the whole evening with you, but with this way of thinking, you'll spend the whole day upset and not be able to enjoy tonight, regardless of what he might have in mind.
Would it have been nice for him to acknowledge it was your birthday? Yes. Would I have felt a little let down if my husband didn't mention it before work? Yes. But would I cry over it, say he "forgot," and be pissed? No. I'd cautiously hope that he would say/do something later, and try to focus on other things that would make my day happy.
Meh. You are a better person than me.
I am not going to let it ruin my day (my friends from work just asked me where I want to go to lunch and I cannot wait) but the fact of the matter is he hurt my feelings. Whether there is a logical excuse or not - I cried this morning and it wasn't like I just made the decision to cry. Those feelings came from being hurt by the person I love the most forgetting something that is important to me. Of course I will forgive him, but being hurt isn't something I can push aside and just cautiously hope that he will acknowledge me. That's all.
Ibuprofen and I have a keurig in my office that is brewing some Starbucks right now. I brought the good creamer. And I'm about to eat my cupcake.
Thanks everyone. I am going to punch him in the gonads.
I always make his birthday morning so special, I just wanted the same!
This is reasonable, but if he doesn't do it on your own, you'll have to tell him that it would make you feel really special if he could pamper you on the morning of your birthday. It's not uncommon for two people in a relationship to have different ideas of how to celebrate and show they appreciate one another.
I know we celebrated yesterday. I'm not pissed because there wasn't a diamond tennis bracelet and expensive coffee waiting on me as I awoke, I'm pissed because he didn't even say happy birthday. I don't think I'm being unreasonable.
Everyone at work remembered and has been very sweet
All I'm saying is that it's a bit early to be pissed. Some people don't think the clearest in the mornings. He may have been so focused on getting out of the house and to work so that he can leave on time tonight and spend the whole evening with you, but with this way of thinking, you'll spend the whole day upset and not be able to enjoy tonight, regardless of what he might have in mind.
Would it have been nice for him to acknowledge it was your birthday? Yes. Would I have felt a little let down if my husband didn't mention it before work? Yes. But would I cry over it, say he "forgot," and be pissed? No. I'd cautiously hope that he would say/do something later, and try to focus on other things that would make my day happy.
oh for heaven's sake. stop minimizing and dismissing laz's feelings. you wouldn't cry? bully for you. laz would and did. no one in either scenario is the better person here.
laz, you want to cry i'll pass you some kleenex. since IT'S YOUR FUCKING BIRTHDAY AND YOU'RE ALLOWED TO FEEL OR DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!**
All I'm saying is that it's a bit early to be pissed. Some people don't think the clearest in the mornings. He may have been so focused on getting out of the house and to work so that he can leave on time tonight and spend the whole evening with you, but with this way of thinking, you'll spend the whole day upset and not be able to enjoy tonight, regardless of what he might have in mind.
Would it have been nice for him to acknowledge it was your birthday? Yes. Would I have felt a little let down if my husband didn't mention it before work? Yes. But would I cry over it, say he "forgot," and be pissed? No. I'd cautiously hope that he would say/do something later, and try to focus on other things that would make my day happy.
oh for heaven's sake. stop minimizing and dismissing laz's feelings. you wouldn't cry? bully for you. laz would and did. no one in either scenario is the better person here.
That stinks. And I would be sad too. Especially since I try to make DH's birthdays special too.
Happy birthday!
ETA: I saw your update that this isn't your first go round on this. Now I am pissed for you. I can come and give him a nut punch. When he asks why, I will just say "You should know why! Quit forgetting to acknowledge your lovely wife's birthday!" (ok, I probably wouldn't nut punch a stranger but I would yell at him.
All I'm saying is that it's a bit early to be pissed. Some people don't think the clearest in the mornings. He may have been so focused on getting out of the house and to work so that he can leave on time tonight and spend the whole evening with you, but with this way of thinking, you'll spend the whole day upset and not be able to enjoy tonight, regardless of what he might have in mind.
Would it have been nice for him to acknowledge it was your birthday? Yes. Would I have felt a little let down if my husband didn't mention it before work? Yes. But would I cry over it, say he "forgot," and be pissed? No. I'd cautiously hope that he would say/do something later, and try to focus on other things that would make my day happy.
Meh. You are a better person than me.
I am not going to let it ruin my day (my friends from work just asked me where I want to go to lunch and I cannot wait) but the fact of the matter is he hurt my feelings. Whether there is a logical excuse or not - I cried this morning and it wasn't like I just made the decision to cry. Those feelings came from being hurt by the person I love the most forgetting something that is important to me. Of course I will forgive him, but being hurt isn't something I can push aside and just cautiously hope that he will acknowledge me. That's all.
I'm really not trying to be an asshole here. I just was trying to gently make sure that you didn't let this ruin your day, because it doesn't have to, and he most likely didn't *want* to hurt you. In fact, he likely has the best of intentions. It would also suck to be kinda pissed at him all day, and then later find out that he had something great in mind for later in the day (I've been there before, and felt awful for thinking he didn't care).
I'm glad to hear that you are otherwise enjoying your day. I really hope you have a good day.
All I'm saying is that it's a bit early to be pissed. Some people don't think the clearest in the mornings. He may have been so focused on getting out of the house and to work so that he can leave on time tonight and spend the whole evening with you, but with this way of thinking, you'll spend the whole day upset and not be able to enjoy tonight, regardless of what he might have in mind.
Would it have been nice for him to acknowledge it was your birthday? Yes. Would I have felt a little let down if my husband didn't mention it before work? Yes. But would I cry over it, say he "forgot," and be pissed? No. I'd cautiously hope that he would say/do something later, and try to focus on other things that would make my day happy.
oh for heaven's sake. stop minimizing and dismissing laz's feelings. you wouldn't cry? bully for you. laz would and did. no one in either scenario is the better person here.
laz, you want to cry i'll pass you some kleenex. since IT'S YOUR FUCKING BIRTHDAY AND YOU'RE ALLOWED TO FEEL OR DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!**
**within reason. keep it legal.
Dang it. Well, I guess I have to cancel my plans for this afternoon.
I'll confess to being the worst wife in the world. DH's birthday was a couple days before a big exam, and I completely forgot about his birthday. Your husband, on the other hand, still has the rest of the day to redeem himself. Try not to be too hard on him! I know I feel worse than my DH for forgetting his b-day.
To make it up to him, I've dedicated this entire week, starting today, to celebrating his birthday. I'm calling it "birthday week." That might sound lame, but I'll find any excuse I can to celebrate special occasions (so long as I remember them, lol).
I'll confess to being the worst wife in the world. DH's birthday was a couple days before a big exam, and I completely forgot about his birthday. Your husband, on the other hand, still has the rest of the day to redeem himself. Try not to be too hard on him! I know I feel worse than my DH for forgetting his b-day.
To make it up to him, I've dedicated this entire week, starting today, to celebrating his birthday. I'm calling it "birthday week." That might sound lame, but I'll find any excuse I can to celebrate special occasions (so long as I remember them, lol).
Am I the only person who would shout " hey, dickface, forget something? it's my birthday!" on the way out the door?
NOPE Happy Birthday Laz!!!!!!!!! You are completely allowed to feel however you want, @ least for the next 2 hrs until your Bday lunch w/ co-workers Srry Cville ruined your afternoon plans w/ 'keep it legal' order, but (SIGH) probably for the best... Huge happy birthday hugs, Laz!!!
Post by camelblossom on Aug 12, 2013 8:58:53 GMT -5
Happy birthday! If it is any consolation, it's my birthday and I'm sick as hell too. I'm spending the morning getting a strep culture. I hope your day gets better.