My mom snuck in while they were putting in a catheter. We're seriously debating not telling anyone for the next one until the baby's here.
I cannot believe she was allowed to get into your room!
Maybe our hospital is extra secure but there are 2 sets of locked doors with cameras and phones to get through before someone can even get into our area. And visitors can't even know if we're in labor because that's personal medical information. Plus, before allowing visitors we have to give our permission.
Do I really need to make one of those? I feel like it rarely goes as planned anyways..
I kind of feel that's like saying we may have to or want to detour so why get directions when heading on a road trip. just because you may have to change things doesn't mean you shouldn't have an idea of how you would like to see things go. especially given that the US doesn't have the best maternity care compared to other developed nations. Educating yourself about your options and making decisions about how you HOPE to deliver can be empowering and help make sure you and baby don't get railroaded by the system.
Yup. Get the baby out the safest way possible for both of us.
You had no opinion about trying to BF and when, whether to circumcise, whether you wanted to have an epidural, who you wanted with you, rooming in or nursery, etc? whether you wanted a family friendly c/s if one became necessary and wasn't an emergency requiring general anesthesia? a birth plan is more than just how you want to deliver and it shouldn't be inflexible it should be a starting point for a discussion with your care provider about what to expect and if there any any differences from what you imagine and how (if possible) they can safely be adjusted.
I'm amazed that so many women are so do whatever to me I don't care when it comes giving birth. Just because its unpredictable and may not go as planned doesn't mean you shouldn't educate yourself and have opinions about your care and let your OB/midwife know what they are?
maybe its because was making informed medical opinions for myself and discussing them with my pediatric endocrinologist at 16 because he wanted me to be an advocate for myself.
Yup. Get the baby out the safest way possible for both of us.
You had no opinion about trying to BF and when, whether to circumcise, whether you wanted to have an epidural, who you wanted with you, rooming in or nursery, etc? whether you wanted a family friendly c/s if one became necessary and wasn't an emergency requiring general anesthesia? a birth plan is more than just how you want to deliver and it shouldn't be inflexible it should be a starting point for a discussion with your care provider about what to expect and if there any any differences from what you imagine and how (if possible) they can safely be adjusted.
I'm amazed that so many women are so do whatever to me I don't care when it comes giving birth. Just because its unpredictable and may not go as planned doesn't mean you shouldn't educate yourself and have opinions about your care and let your OB/midwife know what they are?
maybe its because was making informed medical opinions for myself and discussing them with my pediatric endocrinologist at 16 because he wanted me to be an advocate for myself.
I was induced at 34weeks after my water broke a few weeks before. I had a VERY complicated pregnancy. When you are in a situation like that, they tell you what to expect not the other way around. I wanted her out the safest way possible and wanted an epidural should I decide I needed one. I got to see my daughter (the side and back of her) for a minute before they rushed her out of the room. After she was stabilized, they brought her into me for two minutes before she was transferred to the NICU where she stayed for three weeks. I didn't get to touch her until hours later.
I wanted to go as med and intervention free as possible and for as long as I could handle (I told them not to offer me drugs and that I would let them know when/if I wanted them). That being said the last question on their form was "what is your one unacceptable outcome for labor and birth" and I said going home without a baby. At the end of the day all that matters is a healthy mom and healthy baby.
I am probably being way to sensitive to this comment, but I think it is an odd way to say that coming home without a baby is unacceptable. Sometimes it just happens. I never in a million years thought I'd have such a shitty labor that my baby died from it, but it happens, and you have to accept it. Things like that aren't unacceptable because sometimes they just happen.
You had no opinion about trying to BF and when, whether to circumcise, whether you wanted to have an epidural, who you wanted with you, rooming in or nursery, etc? whether you wanted a family friendly c/s if one became necessary and wasn't an emergency requiring general anesthesia? a birth plan is more than just how you want to deliver and it shouldn't be inflexible it should be a starting point for a discussion with your care provider about what to expect and if there any any differences from what you imagine and how (if possible) they can safely be adjusted.
I'm amazed that so many women are so do whatever to me I don't care when it comes giving birth. Just because its unpredictable and may not go as planned doesn't mean you shouldn't educate yourself and have opinions about your care and let your OB/midwife know what they are?
maybe its because was making informed medical opinions for myself and discussing them with my pediatric endocrinologist at 16 because he wanted me to be an advocate for myself.
I was induced at 34weeks after my water broke a few weeks before. I had a VERY complicated pregnancy. When you are in a situation like that, they tell you what to expect not the other way around. I wanted her out the safest way possible and wanted an epidural should I decide I needed one. I got to see my daughter (the side and back of her) for a minute before they rushed her out of the room. After she was stabilized, they brought her into me for two minutes before she was transferred to the NICU where she stayed for three weeks. I didn't get to touch her until hours later.
Eta: this was an informed decision.
hopecounts I hope response this helps you be less sanctimonious in the future.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Wel I am the queen of breezy, so obvs I did not. I had zero concept or idea what to expect with Jack. With Leo he needed to be. A scheduled. Csection to prevent him dying. Obvs I didn't get much control in that scenario.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Yup. Get the baby out the safest way possible for both of us.
You had no opinion about trying to BF and when, whether to circumcise, whether you wanted to have an epidural, who you wanted with you, rooming in or nursery, etc? whether you wanted a family friendly c/s if one became necessary and wasn't an emergency requiring general anesthesia? a birth plan is more than just how you want to deliver and it shouldn't be inflexible it should be a starting point for a discussion with your care provider about what to expect and if there any any differences from what you imagine and how (if possible) they can safely be adjusted.
what? All of this was asked by the staff without a birthplan, lol.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Aug 17, 2013 21:25:12 GMT -5
I had one, and things went according to plan.
It's been 6 years, but it was something like:
Goal is med free birth Don't offer drugs Would like to labor and deliver in water No eyes, no thighs Delayed cord cutting Help breast feeding ASAP, if needed.
Sure it was specific, and yes I would have been upset (having a med free vag birth was important to me) but I set myself up well for it via choosing my hospital and care provider, so I was confident that I could have what I wanted, or that if I couldn't, it would truly have been medically necessary.
Just throwing it out there as an example of getting exactly what I wanted. I was thrilled with how it went. My hospital definitely used the plan to help assign l&d nurses, so for that reason alone it was helpful for me.
Yup. Get the baby out the safest way possible for both of us.
You had no opinion about trying to BF and when, whether to circumcise, whether you wanted to have an epidural, who you wanted with you, rooming in or nursery, etc? whether you wanted a family friendly c/s if one became necessary and wasn't an emergency requiring general anesthesia? a birth plan is more than just how you want to deliver and it shouldn't be inflexible it should be a starting point for a discussion with your care provider about what to expect and if there any any differences from what you imagine and how (if possible) they can safely be adjusted.
I'm amazed that so many women are so do whatever to me I don't care when it comes giving birth. Just because its unpredictable and may not go as planned doesn't mean you shouldn't educate yourself and have opinions about your care and let your OB/midwife know what they are?
maybe its because was making informed medical opinions for myself and discussing them with my pediatric endocrinologist at 16 because he wanted me to be an advocate for myself.
Well bless your shriveled little heart.
Signed, Yet another NICU mom, who delivered 5 weeks early.
PS: Maybe it's because my hospital is staffed by professionals and not railroaders, but every nurse asked about my preferences while I labored. And while I did advocate for my preferences such as skin-to-skin, I really could not give a single little fuck about any of my preferences when DD came out and the pedis standing by were conserved about her breathing.
Also I never felt as if I had to state my opinion. Both times I felt so respected that I truly felt they were doing what was best for us. Like I wanted to nurse and they were like of course. I wanted my babies as soon as possible and their answer was of course that is what we do.
My only plan was to get the babies out safely. I knew I was going to have a csection. The only thing I would change is that I would have liked to have held them before my parents and in laws did. I hemorrhaged and H was kicked out of the OR with the babies. Overall, it was a pretty good experience.
Post by PeonyParty on Aug 17, 2013 22:33:22 GMT -5
I did, but I went into it knowing anything could happen, which I feel made all the difference in having an actual written plan. I did it because my midwife had a form with multiple options to choose from, a lot of which I never would have thought of until we were at the hospital. I also had a very specific plan regarding things after birth, such as circumcision (which ended up being a moot point, but we didn't find out the sex while pregnant), vaccinations, the eye goop, skin to skin, breastfeeding, cord clamping/cutting, etc. I think it's always a good idea to have something that makes you discuss with your partner and healthcare provider all outcomes to a situation and prepare as best you can for all possibilities.
Post by dragonfly08 on Aug 18, 2013 12:22:51 GMT -5
My plan both times was.. 1. go to hospital 2. get pitocin (both of my kids were induced) 3. get epidural 4. have baby, preferably without additional interventions like forceps or an episiotomy but I know my OB only did either if ABSOLUTELY necessary, and I agreed that ultimately she should be the one making that call
I did try to BF, roomed in most of the time (but also definitely made use of the nursery) but those things weren't really planned out. I went with the flow, and the nurses asked pretty much every step of the way what my preferences were at the moment. And with my second, especially, I was just glad she was breathing at birth since she had the umbilical cord wrapped pretty tightly around her neck. Anything beyond my doc getting her out safely was meaningless to me for a while.
Most of these things that people say they put in their plan, are things we ask about when a patient first arrives. Preferences on privacy, skin to skin contact, visitors, plans for pain control, who will be present for delivery, etc are things I need to know to take care of my patient. Even if people don't have a plan, they all have an idea of how it will go and feeling those ideas out and doing our best to make them happen gives them a sense of control which is very important during this process.
I would never show up with a 5 page plan, and find that the people who do are usually not open to having a discussion about their expectations vs. reality. But I do think having an opinion or an idea of what you want and communicating with your care providers is important.