His name is going on the card for sure. I wish I could properly describe her reaction to the gifts we've given her over the last decade. Somewhere between disgust and complete indifference. Last year I got her a pretty necklace from Swarovski ($50 limit) and she asked me if the stones were diamonds. I might have laughed in her face.
On the card my ass. lol Can your dh not shop? Surely he can get his own mother her own gifts.
We usually do it together. The one year I flat out refused to buy his gifts, he went to the mall a couple days before Christmas, got everyone shitty gifts and it stressed me out like 10X more than just doing it. Now I make him go to the mall with me late November.