I don't really have a costume, If H and I do anything he will be Shaun from Shaun of the dead and I made a girly t-shirt that his best friend wears that says "I got wood"
Post by captainmel on Aug 30, 2013 10:42:05 GMT -5
We are going on a special cave tour tomorrow where you get to crawl around inside the cave with a small group. I'm so excited.
Does anyone want to foster River? He's mad that he can't go outside so he's been peeing everywhere. I offered to trade my boss for her baby but she said that was a horrible trade.
I want something with a lot of avocado on it to eat right now.
Tonight I've got a dress fitting and then I'm going to the gym. My gut is out of control.
Tomorrow I'm helping my BFF pack up her U-Haul. Tears are pretty much a guarantee. I hope to spend the afternoon on the couch watching football because dammit, I need it.
Sunday we'll go to the pool for the last time this season, then I'll go to the gym. Chores are on the docket after that.
Monday I'll run some errands - hopefully it will be the last time I haunt the aisles of Michael's looking for crap to finish these wedding projects.
Tuesday I have The Doctor Appointment to find out if I'll be medically cleared to carry a baby anytime soon. Usually doctors want patients to wait 2 years after treatment. If she says I can go forward sooner rather than later, I'll likely end up self-injecting Lovenox everyday and be under the care of a high-risk OB/GYN. Part of me feels crazy for even considering this. But what's the alternative? Surrogacy is out of the budget. The barriers to adoption are daunting. For a domestic one, we'd wait forever; and for an international one I cannot be on a plane longer than a couple of hours. Sorry, that got long. I'm a stressball.
Listen. I love fall. I really do. But winter comes after it. So we got this love/hate thing going on.
Well if you lived in NC than you'd love winter because it's basically a little bit of a cooler fall stretched over until spring.
How is this fair? Here in OK we get the 100 degree summers, the tornado springs, we don't really have a fall-just summer to winter, and then we get blizzards and ice storms in winter. I swear this is the WORST state weather related.
Well if you lived in NC than you'd love winter because it's basically a little bit of a cooler fall stretched over until spring.
How is this fair? Here in OK we get the 100 degree summers, the tornado springs, we don't really have a fall-just summer to winter, and then we get blizzards and ice storms in winter. I swear this is the WORST state weather related.
Maybe you should consider moving to NC too. Seriously though, we get all of that and ice storms sometimes. Not usually blizzards/snow though.
Well if you lived in NC than you'd love winter because it's basically a little bit of a cooler fall stretched over until spring.
How is this fair? Here in OK we get the 100 degree summers, the tornado springs, we don't really have a fall-just summer to winter, and then we get blizzards and ice storms in winter. I swear this is the WORST state weather related.
You have just described my state. We don't have tornados but we do get so dry here in the winter that my nose bleeds and my fingers crack around the nail.
And Muddled, 50 degrees is cardigan weather. Sorry...
Post by starrieskies on Aug 30, 2013 11:53:27 GMT -5
Today I have to decide if I'm going to let stbx take DS for the night tonight... I don't really want to because I've been playing nice and let him have DS every weekend since we left, and I want to be able to play and hang out with him too!! I'm a little bitter that he's becoming the "fun parent" when I'm stuck doing the everyday discipline... I told him that he can only have him for one day this weekend and the rest are mind. I'm considering tonight because his brother's step son (he's 8) has a football game in town tomorrow and stbx wants to take DS. Plus I can use that time to go and get all my loan docs signed and finalize that... I know it makes sense to just say ok, but I don't want to and I'm going to stomp my feet and pout for a little while before I give in.
cuddlyevil I'm glad you like the card and the blanket! I was really hoping you'd get it before the weekend.
Today I have to decide if I'm going to let stbx take DS for the night tonight... I don't really want to because I've been playing nice and let him have DS every weekend since we left, and I want to be able to play and hang out with him too!! I'm a little bitter that he's becoming the "fun parent" when I'm stuck doing the everyday discipline... I told him that he can only have him for one day this weekend and the rest are mind. I'm considering tonight because his brother's step son (he's 8) has a football game in town tomorrow and stbx wants to take DS. Plus I can use that time to go and get all my loan docs signed and finalize that... I know it makes sense to just say ok, but I don't want to and I'm going to stomp my feet and pout for a little while before I give in.
cuddlyevil I'm glad you like the card and the blanket! I was really hoping you'd get it before the weekend.
Maybe I've missed you updating, but how is he doing in terms of manipulation with you? Has he become angry yet or is he still in the hurt/pleading phase?
Post by cuddlyevil on Aug 30, 2013 12:05:17 GMT -5
I love the blanket it's soft and smells nice. I may or may not have snuggled with it a bit.
You have beautiful penmanship too Starries (for realz you guys, it's lovely). The card and blanket are going to stay with me here at work to remind me to keep my chin up.
Post by starrieskies on Aug 30, 2013 12:11:10 GMT -5
He's still pleading and trying to get me back. He, in fact, asked me if I wanted to go to the football game with him and he seemed shocked when I told him no. How awkward would that be?? He also wants us to go on a "date" this weekend. I said no to that too.
Really, the root of my whining is that I wanted to take DS to the beach this weekend, and was planning on doing it on Saturday because that's when the weather's going to be the nicest. If he does the football game with his dad, we'll have to do it on Sunday, or just postpone it for another time altogether. He's never seen the ocean, so it was going to be something special for just the two of us.
This is silly of me, and it's not that big of deal, I know. It is important that he get to spend time with stbx's family too, and it's a pretty rare occasion when BIL is in town and that whole side of the family can get together. I should not deny him that opportunity. I know this, but I'm not done whining about it yet.
I love the blanket it's soft and smells nice. I may or may not have snuggled with it a bit.
You have beautiful penmanship too Starries (for realz you guys, it's lovely). The card and blanket are going to stay with me here at work to remind me to keep my chin up.
I may or may not have purchased special fabric softener just to wash it in for you.
How is this fair? Here in OK we get the 100 degree summers, the tornado springs, we don't really have a fall-just summer to winter, and then we get blizzards and ice storms in winter. I swear this is the WORST state weather related.
You have just described my state. We don't have tornados but we do get so dry here in the winter that my nose bleeds and my fingers crack around the nail.
And Muddled, 50 degrees is cardigan weather. Sorry...
He's still pleading and trying to get me back. He, in fact, asked me if I wanted to go to the football game with him and he seemed shocked when I told him no. How awkward would that be?? He also wants us to go on a "date" this weekend. I said no to that too.
Really, the root of my whining is that I wanted to take DS to the beach this weekend, and was planning on doing it on Saturday because that's when the weather's going to be the nicest. If he does the football game with his dad, we'll have to do it on Sunday, or just postpone it for another time altogether. He's never seen the ocean, so it was going to be something special for just the two of us.
This is silly of me, and it's not that big of deal, I know. It is important that he get to spend time with stbx's family too, and it's a pretty rare occasion when BIL is in town and that whole side of the family can get together. I should not deny him that opportunity. I know this, but I'm not done whining about it yet.
Did he not have DS last weekend? Your turn.
Please talk to your atty about drawing up a temporary custody order of some sort to work out visitation and the like. It will be so much easier for you to plan and enforce if it's in writing.
Post by starrieskies on Aug 30, 2013 12:39:38 GMT -5
We're going to have temporary orders in place next week, I think. I just need to get my documentation to her and my statement (with the rest of the retainer of course). She really wants stbx to have a dv assessment and complete any recommended therapy prior to having further unsupervised visitation.
She also pointed out, however, that it's going to look better to the courts if I'm flexible and I allow stbx time with DS when he asks for it... So many things to consider...