Post by stealthmom on Sept 7, 2013 16:02:57 GMT -5
OMFG I'd be looking for a new school like yesterday.
That is COMPLETELY age and developmentally approrpiate behavior. If they can't handle it they shouldn't be in the business. Seriously I am like SO pissed off for you.
If the director wanted to see a true fit, I would show her one.
WTF? as all the others said. A especially dislike the consequence of him calling you to get him as if he's been arrested and your his one phone call. That seriously irks me.
DS never threw "fits", so I can't speak to that part of this. But it sounds as though he wasn't in any way aggressive, so I don't see why redirection wouldn't work. DS did sometimes have trouble with the logic of sharing and taking turns as being interchangable concepts. In his mind, they are not.
And he's really not aggressive, even at home. He definitely went through a hitting phase, but it's long sice passed. The worst he'll do is throw something, but I assume they would've said that if he had done it.
We're working on the sharing. When he takes a toy from his brother he'll say "I'm sharing wif Wucas!" well, I guess. Kind of. But it's more like Lucas is sharing with you, lol. So he's really good at sharing as long as he's the one who's being shared with!
Omg you guys are making me feel so much better and that my kid isn't a total failure. I mean, I didn't think he was, but this is also my first experience with preschool as a parent so I was trying to leave them some shred of credibility.
Do I even bring him back on Tuesday to get a full account from the teacher? Or do I just keep him home, raise hell to get tuition back, and look for a new place for him?
I would call on Monday and ask the teacher to call you back so you can get more details. What was he doing, what did they do, how did he respond, what time did he go to the office, did he go more than once, etc.
Thanks for this. For some reason I was completely ignoring Monday, haha. But this is a good set of questions and I'll start there. I'm guessing their answers will tell me all I need to know.
I would be LIVID. He sounds like a totally normal 3yo, or at least similar to how my DD was. And uh, 3yo's are disruptive! They're supposed to be sometimes, it's the nature of the age!
The expectations sound way off, the "discipline" is WAY off, and the rewards for not having a rough day...?
I'm with you 100% on not calling him bad. I doubt I would be able to contain myself if somebody called DD "bad" in our presence- I wouldn't even wait until they were done talking, I'd get down to DD's level and tell her that she wasn't bad, there was nothing bad about her. She may have have a rough day, had a hard time controlling her emotions, made some less than positive choices but SHE was not bad.
I would have to fight to get any tuition returned and not bring my child back. Or even just eat the cost. Being shamed and parading "good" kids and prizes in front of him is terrible, and if that's what they do on the second day I'd worry it only gets worse.
I don't even know where to post an intro here! I was on TK/TN/TB since 2003, mostly local boards. I was m_and_m.
"I speak without reservation from what I know and who I am. I do so with the understanding that all people should have the right to offer their voice to the chorus whether the result is harmony or dissonance. The worldsong is a colorless dirge without the differences that distinguish us, and it is that difference that should be celebrated not condemned." -Ani Difranco
I would call on Monday and ask the teacher to call you back so you can get more details. What was he doing, what did they do, how did he respond, what time did he go to the office, did he go more than once, etc.
Thanks for this. For some reason I was completely ignoring Monday, haha. But this is a good set of questions and I'll start there. I'm guessing their answers will tell me all I need to know.
I would be LIVID. He sounds like a totally normal 3yo, or at least similar to how my DD was. And uh, 3yo's are disruptive! They're supposed to be sometimes, it's the nature of the age!
The expectations sound way off, the "discipline" is WAY off, and the rewards for not having a rough day...?
I'm with you 100% on not calling him bad. I doubt I would be able to contain myself if somebody called DD "bad" in our presence- I wouldn't even wait until they were done talking, I'd get down to DD's level and tell her that she wasn't bad, there was nothing bad about her. She may have have a rough day, had a hard time controlling her emotions, made some less than positive choices but SHE was not bad.
I would have to fight to get any tuition returned and not bring my child back. Or even just eat the cost. Being shamed and parading "good" kids and prizes in front of him is terrible, and if that's what they do on the second day I'd worry it only gets worse.
Yeah I figured managing their behavior/teaching them social skills at 3 was just as big, if not bigger, part of the preschool experience than learning their shapes, letters, colors, whatever. So I was really surprised to hear that that is what the problem was. I feel bad that my kid got in trouble and sent home because he was acting his age :/
Post by sailorgray on Sept 7, 2013 16:22:44 GMT -5
I was going to say that you need to get a new preschool when I read the part about them calling you over sharing. Good Lord. Run and don't look back. That is ridiculous. I also think schools need to get over this whole sharing crap. It's good to a point.
I was going to say that you need to get a new preschool when I read the part about them calling you over sharing. Good Lord. Run and don't look back. That is ridiculous. I also think schools need to get over this whole sharing crap. It's good to a point.
He totally needs to learn to share. But at one point (in my extreme rage) I did say to my husband "how come the other kid didn't just have to wait his turn?! Why did he only want to play after Ben made something cool?!" I'm laughing at myself now. Sharing is a good skill that he needs a solid grasp of.