SAHM question. Schedules.

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Are you on a schedule during the week? Meaning, do you as the parent get up at the same time everyday, have a routine and so on? 

Ive put Wy into a few classes so we could get into a bit more of a schedule. I get up when he gets up and that is usually between 8 and 9 am unless I have something planned in the morning. Then we make and eat breakfast and by the time that is all done, BAM! Nap time! So then we (well he) naps and I get ready for the day which means that we actually dont get our day started till after nap which is 1 or 2 pm. I also do all the cleaning/ laundry during the morning/ nap time. 

Anyway, back to the original question- Are you on a schedule as a parent, or just follow your kids cues?

[Deleted]

No schedule, I just go with her flow. The only consistent thing we do is I go to the gym MWF mornings but that can be between 8:30-11am so its not even consistent!

[TrudyCampbell]

Yes, we're pretty much on a schedule.

7am- my husband wakes Violet up. We didn't used to do this but it allows time for him to do PT with her. I stay asleep.
7:45ish- breakfast
8am- he leaves for work and I get up.
11am- lunch/snack/milk
12ish- nap
2 or 3ish- she wakes up from nap and gets another snack
7pm- dinner
8pm-bedtime

ETA during her nap I shower, do some stuff around the apartment, and lately I nap too because I am pregnant and feel like balls. 

[TrudyCampbell]

Wait, did I not answer your question? Was this about my adult schedule? I'm confused.

[monkeybabe]

I just kind of follow Zoe's cues. She wakes up around 7:30-7:45 every day and we play around downstairs until Patsy comes down at 8:30. I feed her breakfast then, because she nurses when she wakes up and I want her to actually eat her breakfast. After that she gets a bath. Then it's errands/park/playing around the house until 11:30-12, or whenever she takes her nap. I fiddle fart around during nap time (Usually until ~2) and get nothing done, then it's more errands/play/housework until Patsy gets home at ~6:30.

ETA: Zoe's bedtime can vary wildly, so that's not set in stone.

[muppetinma]

We're on a pretty decent schedule. He wakes up, eats, and goes to bed at roughly the same time every day. His nap is fairly consistent, but is a little flexible based on our schedule. I like having a schedule and knowing what to expect every day, even if sometimes it makes it hard to do certain things. I also LOVE knowing that at 7:15 or so every night, I'm DONE. I know the kid is in bed and falling asleep. 7:15-whenever I go to bed is MY time.

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Sept 10, 2013 10:32:39 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Wait, did I not answer your question? Was this about my adult schedule? I'm confused.

More your schedule opposed to kids. As in you get up every morning at 7, have a shower, get ready, then get Violet up. 

Im just finding my morning are lost by my non schedule. I try not to get ready with Wy running around. If I have morning// lunch plans I actually set my alarm and get up and ready first. Im just wondering if I should be doing it everyday. 

[jaime183]

my SAHM days are coming to an end but until now we had a schedule... although it's flexible.

Ideally,
6:30 I get up and shower while DH is still home
I have breakfast and coffee
7/8?-9 Luke wakes up, eats breakfast, plays here
9- leave for whatever 9:30 activity we have planned (we go out everyday at 930)
11- give Luke a snack (while we are out)
11:15/30- leave and head home, he falls asleep in car
Transfer him to crib
11:45-2/230 nap
230- Lunch
Play at home or out
430- snack
545 daddy home!

[heyjojo]

No schedule, really. He wakes up usually between 8-9 and we have breakfast, play, watch a cartoon. Sometimes I take him into town for story time or so I can get a coffee. He mostly only takes 1 nap a day and I try to coordinate my errands around it, but if its earlier or later we just go with the flow. He has 1 afternoon gym class that is a bit of a problem because he always seems to want to sleep 15 min before we get there.
Other times (like right now) he decides to take a morning nap and I've been stuck with him sleeping on me for a while now, screwed up my plans to tidy up.

[TrudyCampbell]

I shower in the morning very quickly while she plays in the bathroom on days I plan to go out before her nap.

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Sept 10, 2013 10:33:39 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

We're on a pretty decent schedule. He wakes up, eats, and goes to bed at roughly the same time every day. His nap is fairly consistent, but is a little flexible based on our schedule. I like having a schedule and knowing what to expect every day, even if sometimes it makes it hard to do certain things. I also LOVE knowing that at 7:15 or so every night, I'm DONE. I know the kid is in bed and falling asleep. 7:15-whenever I go to bed is MY time.

But what about you? Do you get up with Andrew or before? 

Wy is on a schedule himself, just not me. lol. As I sit here in my pajamas and probe as Wyatt sleeps. I MEAN EATS.

[lauranicole91]

Not technically a SAHM but I spend a lot of time at home with her. We have no schedule. I just follow her lead. Which usually consists of her waking anywhere from 7:30-9. We mostly waste away our morning unless we have specific plans. Nap is usually at about 1:30 and lasts till 2.30/3. I'm a lazy piece of lard so I nap with her every day.

I shower when DH gets home from work because there is an hour gap between him coming and me leaving for work.

Cleaning gets done when DH and I are both at home. That sometimes means 11pm or inbetween work shifts or it just waits till our day off.

[monkeybabe]

Zoe and I bathe together, lol. Two bird, one stone.

[Deleted]

I'm on a very loose schedule. We have things planned most mornings (M: I work a few hours T: mom group every other week W: music class TH: library story time F: gymnastics class) then she naps around 12-2ish and then T/TH afternoons I babysit and the other afternoons are open for play dates, relaxing, errands, chores, Etc...

I get up when she gets up (between 730-8) and try to nap when she naps since she's still up so much at night.

[Deleted]

Not really. I made a cleaning schedule for myself recently. It helps me feel more accomplished to have it all written down. I try to shower when he naps or he gets in with me. On days that we want to do something in the morning, I either wake up before him or shower the night before so that that can get ready.

[muppetinma]

Sept 10, 2013 10:37:05 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

Sept 10, 2013 10:33:39 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

We're on a pretty decent schedule. He wakes up, eats, and goes to bed at roughly the same time every day. His nap is fairly consistent, but is a little flexible based on our schedule. I like having a schedule and knowing what to expect every day, even if sometimes it makes it hard to do certain things. I also LOVE knowing that at 7:15 or so every night, I'm DONE. I know the kid is in bed and falling asleep. 7:15-whenever I go to bed is MY time.

But what about you? Do you get up with Andrew or before? 

Wy is on a schedule himself, just not me. lol. As I sit here in my pajamas and probe as Wyatt sleeps. 

I don't really have one, because DH is always in and out.  There is very little consistency there.  When he's OOT, I wake up around 7-ish, lay in bed, check e-mail, etc.  I'll get Andrew out of bed at 8.  (He's usually up earlier than that, just playing around in his crib)  If it's not balls hot, I run with him around 11-ish.  That way, I can throw him down for a nap and hop right in the shower.  Even if I don't run, I usually shower while he naps.  I usually eat dinner after he goes to bed, just so I can cook without the ankle biter getting in the way.  I'll try to do 30 minutes of housework after dinner, which is just enough to keep this place running.  Bedtime for me can be as early as 9:30 or as late as 1 or 2, depending on a million different things.  

[cat19]

No schedule...

[orriskitten]

I'm on a schedule with gg. She has to go to a bus for the senior center between 8:30-9. I am usually up with the baby before then, but if not and days she doesn't go (Sat- Mon) I sleep until Mel wakes up.

I'm not on much of a schedule and just follow Mel's cues.

[mala]

This is our schedule lately, subject to change

I wake up between 630 and 730, shower, get dressed, go downstairs and have some me time on the computer
B wakes up between 730-830 these days. Get her changed and dressed.
we eat breakfast and she nurses on and off for 30 min at which point I tell her we're done and she can have more at bedtime.
Playtime/watch super why while she finishes her breakfast.
Tuesday and Thursday we go to playgroup at the library.
After we get home she plays until lunch- about noon
Lunch
Nap lately has been at 2 or 3 and shes often only sleeping 30 min.
Park if the weather is good.
Play outside at home around 530/6ish to say hello to the 2 year old next door when he comes home
Dinner at 630
On bath nights, bath is at 715
Bedtime starts between 730/8 depending on how shes acting
Alone time for mommy/cook dinner if I haven't eaten yet, snuggle with the dog so she knows I love her
do the dishes/laundry
In bed anywhere from 930-11

[rjamz]

I wake up at 6:30 to eat and shower before he gets up. Sometimes he wakes up around then, but he's good at hanging in his crib for a while.

He naps around noon and that's when I eat and do cleaning I can't do when he's around (like mop)

[devonpow]

Yes, very much so. Now I need to be because Henry us in school, but even when I just had Henry we were on a schedule. But, I have early birds too. Sleeping until 7 is late for us.

current schedule: 

6 - E wakes up (on a good day, lol).
6:30 - E's breakfast
6:45 - wake up H, give him breakfast, wake up DH so I can get ready
7:30 - out the door to walk H to school (8 AM drop off)

Morning activity - My Gym Mondays, gym daycare Wednesdays, music together Fridays 

11 - lunch
11:45 - nap (hopefully)
2:15 - leave for school pick up

Afternoon - Henry's afternoon activity. Swim Monday, soccer Thursday, playgroup Friday.
Other days we may do a play date or just hang at home. 

5-5:30 - kids dinner, then E's bath
6:30 - E goes to bed
7:30 - H goes to bed

[AndyCohen]

Sept 10, 2013 10:35:29 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

Sept 10, 2013 10:32:39 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Wait, did I not answer your question? Was this about my adult schedule? I'm confused.

More your schedule opposed to kids. As in you get up every morning at 7, have a shower, get ready, then get Violet up. 

Im just finding my morning are lost by my non schedule. I try not to get ready with Wy running around. If I have morning// lunch plans I actually set my alarm and get up and ready first. Im just wondering if I should be doing it everyday. 

H and I stay up until 1:00, so waking up before 9:00 to shower is not fun. I do it 2-3 times a week if we have something planned before her nap. If not, I just throw my hair up in a bun and we at least get out to the playground for a bit. I just work around her schedule which is very set, and play it by ear how sleepy I am in the morning if I want to get up early.

[devonpow]

Oh, and for me, I shower at night certain days (when we have a class to go to right after school drop off), or I shower after the gym on Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday. I have a sitter Monday and Thursday and that is when I do most of my errands. During his nap I eat lunch and straighten up. We have a cleaning lady every other week so that is when the big cleaning gets done

[mscatra]

We do a schedule around here, but it's somewhat in flux/not yet fixed because we're finally transitioning down to one nap and I'm trying to figure out what works best. I usually wake up between 7-8am. If I have plans for the morning I will set my alarm for 7 and get myself together. She wakes up between 8-9am and I get her dressed and give her breakfast. If I didn't already, I get ready after her breakfast while she plays or watches TV. Sometimes we do a small snack around 10am (depending on wakeup time). Lunch for both of us around noon (usually 11:30 if no snack), and nap around 12:30-2:30, which is when I get some stuff around the house done. Snack at 3:00. Dinner for both of us at 5:30ish. Bedtime usually around 7:30 for her, then free time for me! This will change a bit when my H stops working nights, but not a ton.

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Sept 10, 2013 10:35:29 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

Sept 10, 2013 10:32:39 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Wait, did I not answer your question? Was this about my adult schedule? I'm confused.

More your schedule opposed to kids. As in you get up every morning at 7, have a shower, get ready, then get Violet up. 

Im just finding my morning are lost by my non schedule. I try not to get ready with Wy running around. If I have morning// lunch plans I actually set my alarm and get up and ready first. Im just wondering if I should be doing it everyday. 

What time does he nap usually?

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Sept 10, 2013 11:26:37 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Sept 10, 2013 10:35:29 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

More your schedule opposed to kids. As in you get up every morning at 7, have a shower, get ready, then get Violet up. 

Im just finding my morning are lost by my non schedule. I try not to get ready with Wy running around. If I have morning// lunch plans I actually set my alarm and get up and ready first. Im just wondering if I should be doing it everyday. 

What time does he nap usually?

IT depends on when he gets up. So between 1030 and noon. Today will probably be closer to noon. 

[biblionerd]

nah, no schedule.

[eav2c]

I have no schedule, really. Colin has a lose schedule most days and I just fit things in. I nap with him 99% of the time though and do household things at night.

[carawestt]

Sorta. I wake up at around 8:30, while Lincoln sleeps til 9 or 10. I make and eat breakfast. I shower and clean when he naps at noon or 1. That's about as scheduled as it gets.

[ruby412]

Not SAHM anymore, but I did up until a couple of weeks ago! We were on a schedule. By the end of this summer, it looked like this:

7/7:30 - both of us wake up
8 - breakfast
9:30/10 - morning snack
11:30/12 - lunch
12/12:30 - nap
2 or 3 - wake and snack
5:30/6 - dinner
7 - bedtime

We would usually go do something in the morning from 9 - 11 or 11:30 like errands, park, playdate, etc. Then sometimes we'd go out again in the afternoon or sometimes, we'd hang in, do laundry, etc. During nap I usually ate lunch, and played on my computer. Sometimes I'd prep dinner. I like(d) having a routine and knowing how our day would look each day!