Post by captainmel on Sept 15, 2013 12:47:26 GMT -5
tiramisu, if my store has it in stock I will check it our for us.
River is still peeing places but we bought a bunch of feliway stuff and a thundershirt yesterday. Our vet and I are hoping this will work instead of another medicine for him to take. We double checked that he doesn't have a UTI and he's fine there.
tiramisu, if my store has it in stock I will check it our for us.
River is still peeing places but we bought a bunch of feliway stuff and a thundershirt yesterday. Our vet and I are hoping this will work instead of another medicine for him to take. We double checked that he doesn't have a UTI and he's fine there.
Do you watch My Cat From Hell? Jackson Galaxy has an online store that includes a cleaner that's supposed to be really good (better than Nature's Miracle) that I want to get. There are also a bunch of other things, including Spirit Essences, some of which I want to get.
You two are making me want to go shopping and bring home a cat... I'm not sure either of these is a good ideas right now...
I think I just started doing a word problem in my head. If we all start driving towards each other at a constant rate of speed, at which Target will we all meet up?
Post by starrieskies on Sept 15, 2013 13:27:48 GMT -5
Ummm... one of my best friends' bf just posted on fb that he's "finally single" WTF?? I'm sad she hasn't said anything to me. We just had lunch earlier this week, and I'm dying to know what's going on. I'm worried about her. I sent her a text, but she hasn't responded...
Ummm... one of my best friends' bf just posted on fb that he's "finally single" WTF?? I'm sad she hasn't said anything to me. We just had lunch earlier this week, and I'm dying to know what's going on. I'm worried about her. I sent her a text, but she hasn't responded...
Wow, he sounds like a douche. I hope your friend is doing okay.
You two are making me want to go shopping and bring home a cat... I'm not sure either of these is a good ideas right now...
I think I just started doing a word problem in my head. If we all start driving towards each other at a constant rate of speed, at which Target will we all meet up?
Post by captainmel on Sept 15, 2013 13:58:50 GMT -5
starrieskies, I vote you go shopping and get a cat. tiramisu, maybe I can sign River up for that show. I will have to look into the cleaner. I really like one called kids n pets and it seems to work really well.
starrieskies, I vote you go shopping and get a cat. tiramisu, maybe I can sign River up for that show. I will have to look into the cleaner. I really like one called kids n pets and it seems to work really well.
starrieskies, I vote this too, BTW. From Jackson Galaxy: If we want every cat to have a home, part of the equation is.. more. We need more members of Team Cat Mojo! Folks who never thought they'd share their home with cats need to be brought onboard - so spread the mojo. Let 'em know what cats add to your life. And speaking of adding? If you have a cat...get another. We can do this!! jacksongalaxy.com/2013/09/14/the-get-a-cat-t-shirt-series/
So see? You'd be doing a good deed.
Mel, the magic he works with people and their cats is so cool. If Sofia and Leo weren't getting along better, I'd be considering signing up for his show too.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 15, 2013 14:29:11 GMT -5
Maybe I will consider it when I have my own place. But if I am starting at my parents house, I would consider that a little intrusive since they aren't really cat lovers.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 15, 2013 14:34:46 GMT -5
Got the update from my friend. She went out with the girls last night and had to much to drink. So she spent the night at her friends house. Her bf is poised because she didn't come home. She tested him last night to let him know she would be home in the morning and he told her if she didn't come home, they were through. Yep... douche. Maybe he can be stbx's new roommate.
Got the update from my friend. She went out with the girls last night and had to much to drink. So she spent the night at her friends house. Her bf is poised because she didn't come home. She tested him last night to let him know she would be home in the morning and he told her if she didn't come home, they were through. Yep... douche. Maybe he can be stbx's new roommate.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 15, 2013 15:29:42 GMT -5
LOL autocorrect thinks pissed=poised!
I can't imagine why it would be preferable to have the person you love drive 30 minutes dunk just to get home as opposed to sleeping it off first and driving home sober the next day.
Post by captainmel on Sept 15, 2013 16:40:51 GMT -5
tiramisu, my target had one xl of the navy sweater. I thought it felt really soft and nice. The men's section looked like it hadn't been touched but I thought the cardigans were a little scratchy. You would want long sleeves underneath.
starrieskies, is this the friend whose controlling dickbag idiot bf ruined your girls' night?
Yes, as a matter of fact it is, solidifying his space on the douche bag list. I was thinking about that earlier too, and remembering how quick I was to take the blame for his douchetastic behavior. Even when everyone told me not to feel bad about it, I still did. Of course you were all right. He's a jerk and just needed to feel like he was in control, and I let him.
starrieskies, is this the friend whose controlling dickbag idiot bf ruined your girls' night?
Yes, as a matter of fact it is, solidifying his space on the douche bag list. I was thinking about that earlier too, and remembering how quick I was to take the blame for his douchetastic behavior. Even when everyone told me not to feel bad about it, I still did. Of course you were all right. He's a jerk and just needed to feel like he was in control, and I let him.
I have to remind myself that these are learning experiences, but mostly they make me feel dumb.
You're not dumb! We all have to learn these things through doing, whether it's going through it ourselves or watching others go through it. Your STBXH conditioned you to second-guess yourself and to take the blame, it makes sense that you're not automatically doing the opposite yet. You'll get there, just be gentle with yourself.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 15, 2013 23:23:55 GMT -5
The absurd part of it all is that if another poster had come in with the same story, my response would have been the same as what you all told me. But when I'm in that situation my brain seems to default to doormat mode even though deep down I know it's wrong.
The absurd part of it all is that if another poster had come in with the same story, my response would have been the same as what you all told me. But when I'm in that situation my brain seems to default to doormat mode even though deep down I know it's wrong.
See above. He conditioned you to think this way. You will get past it.
Post by captainmel on Sept 16, 2013 4:58:23 GMT -5
I just want to hug you starrieskies. Your friend deserves hugs too. You were trained to react in a certain way. Your STBX took complete advantage of and you're taking the control away from him. You aren't stupid at all in fact you're the opposite of stupid because you've taken amazing steps in building your self esteem separate from that jerk.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 16, 2013 10:48:15 GMT -5
LOL! Not River specifically. I just miss having a cat. My cat died shortly after stbx and I bought our house.
I miss his cuddles and playing fetch with him. He used to come running from across the room and jump up into my arms when I got home. Then he'd climb up on my shoulder and sit there like a parrot. He was a very unique kitty.