Take lot of naked pictures of yourself because you'll never look like that again.
Like iamgrace and @misoangry, I was in a good place and wouldn't change anything from when I was 25, except for this. I don't think I'll ever be as fit as I was back then.
Now, if I could go back to my 17 y.o. self, I'd tell myself two things: 1) you won't want to go to law school after all, so go for a finance degree instead; and 2) you need to stop being such a raging bitch to your parents because they don't deserve it.
I'm 25 now. It's been a really shitty year. Based on some recent happenings and things we're still holding out for, I hope I can tell myself in a year or so that it WILL get better, take a deep breath or three, and stay calm. Things have a way of working themselves out.
Post by bluetopaz on Sept 24, 2013 17:14:40 GMT -5
I'd tell myself to get over my fear of change, and that staying in a job just because it's safe and comfortable is never going to lead to anything positive.
Post by aprilsails on Sept 24, 2013 17:32:44 GMT -5
25 was a really good year for me. I would only tell myself to get off my ass and stop putting off my professional practice exams. Also create a filing system to get your paperwork and banking under control.
Post by rugbywife on Sept 24, 2013 17:43:22 GMT -5
- spend less money, save more so you can travel - eat less, exercise more - don't sweat being single, at 30 you will meet the most amazing man and you will marry him, so stop eating nutella on wonderbread by the loaf full.
Everything. I would create a huge packet of info for myself.
Infertility will resolve, don't go to this infertility doctor, go to this one, don't do IVF, your grandma is going to pass away on this date, don't waste your time, money, effort with a medical coding course. Go to this dentist, don't go to this one, your first baby is going to be a boy, don't circumcise, you will be in a home eventually--be patient, don't get the root canal--get the tooth pulled, get some sunshine, don't be afraid of it, you need the Vitamin D, plenty of it. Accept this job, don't accept/apply this one or ones. Don't take birth control pills. Read these books, don't waste your time on these. Your family sucks, you know that right? Get your dress, this dress, at this wedding store. There would be investment advice too. And lots of childcare/baby products advice. And avoid your son's lip injuries by getting rid of this stuff/doing these things.
Take the time to figure out what you really want to do with your life. When you figure it out, go for it, with passion and don't let anyone stop you. Being a hamster spinning the wheel gets old fast.
And get the hell out of that relationship now!!! Run and run hard from him.
- don't marry him. Even if he is going to be your husband someday. You don't have to marry him right this second.
- nurturing people doesn't need to be ALL you can do. You are fucking smart. Do something with it. You can nurture people too & make a great kugel.
- say goodbye to your friend. She's dying, you know it. Don't be a douche.
- the second you realize you might be falling in love with your boss, go for it. He might be in love with you too, & even though its wildly inappropriate, it might be lots of fun
- don't make out with your BFF so much. She's hot, but it gets annoying at parties.
- keep working out.
- make sure you keep up with friends, it's harder to make friends when you get older. -
Post by bonquiqui on Sept 24, 2013 19:04:16 GMT -5
Dear 25 year old Bonquiqui,
Don't take things or people for granted, because your life is going to completely change in 8 years. I want you to enjoy all of these little moments in your life, because things will never be the same. Nurture relationships, love as hard as you can, and gain your own independence. Finish school now. Go out and find yourself, and don't remain stagnant in a relationship, and let your identity be your husband. The one person you can count on 100% of the time is you, not him, and never forget that. You are stronger than you believe, smarter than you think, and will survive without a man.
Learn to love yourself, because you deserve it. Follow your dreams, and once you realize what you want, never let it go. Trust yourself, because you have to believe in yourself and everything you are, and you will pull through.
You are not defined by a man, and you need to explore to find out who you are. Love yourself, i mean it. Don't roll your eyes, and say that you don't need to, because, yes you do. Even though your life is wonderful now, things will change. Your life will be shaken up, but you are strong, and you will come out on top. One day you will be happier than you ever imagined. You just have to believe in yourself.
Not everyone is going to love you. You can't please everyone 100% of the time, so stop wasting your time trying. You have a big heart, some people will take advantage of that, but never stop loving.
Please remember that you will make it. You will be ok. When things seem to be falling apart, they are actually falling together.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Do you love stroller fit? I am thinking of enrolling in a program here in a few months!
It was my first class and unfortunately I didn't. I have a bad shoulder and it was way more strength training then I thought it would be. It was way beyond my physical capability. I am hoping they will refund me the rest of the classes because I can't do it. That being said, if you don't have a messed up back I think you will enjoy it. It was nice to meet people too. I wish I could have stayed so I could form more mommy relationships
I thought it would be more like running and jogging with the stroller, that sounds hard!
Well, I was 25 when I was pregnant and had the boys.
So, from June-July '11 I would tell myself to take boudoir photos b/c the body is bangin' and leavin'. And go out at night more.
Pregnant Sarah I would tell to enjoy the pregnancy more, and stash more cash away. Don't move to the north shore -- look earlier for a cheaper twins friendly place and hold out for something along a regular train line.
Generally speaking though I think I did 25 pretty right, I have to say. From July 2010 through January 2012 was the best time of my life so far if you look at the whole. (I always feel bad saying that b/c it was before the boys, and my family life and love has expanded so much more and is better, but work/life balance and holistic satisfaction has plummeted). The CF time sucked but I feel like it did bring me and Jake closer in a lot of ways that I still feel.
Don't take things or people for granted, because your life is going to completely change in 8 years. I want you to enjoy all of these little moments in your life, because things will never be the same. Nurture relationships, love as hard as you can, and gain your own independence. Finish school now. Go out and find yourself, and don't remain stagnant in a relationship, and let your identity be your husband. The one person you can count on 100% of the time is you, not him, and never forget that. You are stronger than you believe, smarter than you think, and will survive without a man.
Learn to love yourself, because you deserve it. Follow your dreams, and once you realize what you want, never let it go. Trust yourself, because you have to believe in yourself and everything you are, and you will pull through.
You are not defined by a man, and you need to explore to find out who you are. Love yourself, i mean it. Don't roll your eyes, and say that you don't need to, because, yes you do. Even though your life is wonderful now, things will change. Your life will be shaken up, but you are strong, and you will come out on top. One day you will be happier than you ever imagined. You just have to believe in yourself.
Not everyone is going to love you. You can't please everyone 100% of the time, so stop wasting your time trying. You have a big heart, some people will take advantage of that, but never stop loving.
Please remember that you will make it. You will be ok. When things seem to be falling apart, they are actually falling together.
Love, the future bon
I hope it is okay that I am quoting you. I am also going to pretend that this is written to me(I'm 25). Thank you for writing this.
Don't take things or people for granted, because your life is going to completely change in 8 years. I want you to enjoy all of these little moments in your life, because things will never be the same. Nurture relationships, love as hard as you can, and gain your own independence. Finish school now. Go out and find yourself, and don't remain stagnant in a relationship, and let your identity be your husband. The one person you can count on 100% of the time is you, not him, and never forget that. You are stronger than you believe, smarter than you think, and will survive without a man.
Learn to love yourself, because you deserve it. Follow your dreams, and once you realize what you want, never let it go. Trust yourself, because you have to believe in yourself and everything you are, and you will pull through.
You are not defined by a man, and you need to explore to find out who you are. Love yourself, i mean it. Don't roll your eyes, and say that you don't need to, because, yes you do. Even though your life is wonderful now, things will change. Your life will be shaken up, but you are strong, and you will come out on top. One day you will be happier than you ever imagined. You just have to believe in yourself.
Not everyone is going to love you. You can't please everyone 100% of the time, so stop wasting your time trying. You have a big heart, some people will take advantage of that, but never stop loving.
Please remember that you will make it. You will be ok. When things seem to be falling apart, they are actually falling together.
Love, the future bon
I hope it is okay that I am quoting you. I am also going to pretend that this is written to me(I'm 25). Thank you for writing this.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"