Blown away by her expectations

[piper]

I am trying to help my SAHM SIL find work.

She called at 4:00 needing a résumé submitted by 6:00 for a job that "was in the bag". So I sat down with her a put together a resume, cover letter, etc.

Turns out, when they see that she has absolutely NO experience, that the job is not in the bag. They were somewhat ok with having to train her a bit but when she started making demands about flexible hours, not being avail for OT, etc. they told her the job was no fit for her.

I, along with her dh, have been trying to explain that with her lack of degree and limited computer knowledge that she is not going to get her dream job right away.

I talked to her on Friday and she said that she received an offer from a temp agency, full time, longterm temp, somewhat flexible hours, and willing to train, but only $12.50 an hour. I said it was great and she should consider it. Her response "I won't take anything under $30 grand.

I don't even want to help her anymore.

[lime]

Sept 29, 2013 13:15:20 GMT -5 piper said:

I don't even want to help her anymore.

This is absolutely the correct response. 

[ohiowan]

No experience? At all?

[ohiowan]

How many kids does she have? Are they school age, or would they need daycare?

[orangeblossom]

Reality will bite her in the butt soon enough.

You were nice to help her, but I wouldn't do much anymore. You've explained to her that her perception is different than her reality. Let her deal with it from now on.

[wowhead]

People like that piss me off to no end. I mean really, why even bother working for $30k when you're making nothing now.

The only acceptable excuse for this is if childcare would cost equal to or more than the proposed income.

[LeggsBenedict]

I'm going to pull all of my hair out just reading that.

[looseseal]

My sister was very similar. She has a high school diploma and some experience in a retail store. Now she wants an office job with great benefits, perfect schedule, and $13-14/hr. (We're VLCOL, that's hard to get here.) I was helping her with her resume and asked if she had experience with any Office software, like Outlook or Excel. She snapped back that she wasn't an idiot, she knew how to send a fucking e-mail.

Best to let her figure it out on her own, but I understand how frustrating it is when you want to help.

[WOT?*]

Is this your brother's wife or your DH's sister? Either way, her husband or brother (or both) need to kick her into reality if she's in the "must have a job" category. You did your part.

[piper]

Sept 29, 2013 13:24:21 GMT -5 WOT?* said:

Is this your brother's wife or your DH's sister? Either way, her husband or brother (or both) need to kick her into reality if she's in the "must have a job" category. You did your part.

Dh's sister.

I offered to lend her a suit for an interview with another temp agency and she declined. The outfit that she described was completely inappropriate but I let it go.

It is incredible to me that she thinks that she is going to walk into an interview making all kind of demands and actually get a job.

[Deleted]

I think she will figure it out when she gets enough rejections. Otherwise, I would just stop helping her, you're wasting your time!

[mansplain]

Ugh. Good luck to her!

[FishChicks]

Does she actually WANT a job? Either way, you're awesome to have helped her as much as you've done.

[snickers]

You cannot help those who do not want to be helped.
She needs to get over the hourly wage thing, grow up, and get a job.
It was very nice of you to help.

[emjacobs]

FI's best friends wife was like that, HS diploma and some time volunteering, took a few years off to be a SAHM, worked a few months in retail and then decided that she should be management and she wouldn't accept a position for anything less than M-F and a minimum of $50k/year + benefits. Good luck princess.

[ginger]

Oh SIL. I don't think I'm a good fit to help you.

[eb777888]

She's dumb.

[MWOS]

thanks, Obama!

[sparkythelawyer]

She doesn't want to work. She just wants to say she tried. She'll be pregnant within a year.

[mansplain]

What sparkythelawyer said.

[missmaddie]

Sept 29, 2013 14:02:05 GMT -5 @lauriergirl28 said:

I think she will figure it out when she gets enough rejections. Otherwise, I would just stop helping her, you're wasting your time!

I disagree. People who act like this never figure it out and it will always be someone else's fault.