Post by starrieskies on Oct 5, 2013 0:03:10 GMT -5
I kind of expected him to think that way, but for some reason it hit me like a ton of bricks. I'm appalled that he would say that about me, and more appalled that people we hung out with on a regular basis actually believe him!
None of these feelings are logical. Logically I know that I can't control what others say or think, and it really doesn't matter. If they actually believe that I would move on that quickly, they never bothered to get to know me. But it still hurts.
I know it's late and no one is around, but I am hoping that getting this of my chest will help me sleep tonight.
Big hugs starrieskies. I am not surprised by his shitty behavior but the content is surprising. I kind of want to take a cattle prod to his testicles. Your one friend is amazing and everyone else has sided with your bad H.
Big hugs starrieskies. I am not surprised by his shitty behavior but the content is surprising. I kind of want to take a cattle prod to his testicles. Your one friend is amazing and everyone else has sided with your bad H.
More hugs.
I just think that if he can fabricate another reason for the divorce, he absolves himself of any wrong doing and gets to make me the bad guy. It won't be long before he's told this lie so many times that he'll start to believe it too. There's no arguing with him about it, and I'm not going to say a word to him or any of his friends if I see them. I'll just pretend I don't know he said it. Honestly I wish I didn't know.
I am glad your friend stood up for you. Sometimes that is all it takes. But divorce is divisive and there will be people who believe his lies. It sucks donkey balls. The best you can do is ignore, ignore, ignore.
He's always been impressively selfish. He's just continuing the same behavior as always. Don't you really dislike all of his friends anyways? I wish you didn't know either but it is just another thing to validate your decision to get rid of him.
Big hugs, starries. Just keep reminding yourself that if this is the worst of the backlash, you are doing a-ok. You know the truth and anyone who lives you does too. We're separating the wheat from the chaff here. You are going to get through this.
You can handle this. It sucks and I know it hurts right now, but this is a blip on the radar. It won't matter a bit in 3 years. You will barely remember it. Let him fly his petty flag.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 6, 2013 1:29:03 GMT -5
You guys really are amazing. I'm truly humbled that you are so willing to support me the way you have even though we've never met irl.
In new randoms, today was amazing as well. I took DS to see cloudy with a chance of meatballs 2, then took him to the state capitol, took pictures by the tree I had planted on the capitol grounds in his name, went to see a friend, and now I'm trying to sleep on the couch because DS spiked a fever out of the blue at about 5pm. Everytime I think I'm going sleep I hear him coughing down the hall. I should just go down there and snuggle with him. I might get sick in the process, but I could use the extra snuggles and he probably could too.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 6, 2013 9:31:11 GMT -5
Well I was hoping his fever would go down overnight, but no. At least we did lots of fun stuff yesterday, so I don't feel like the whole weekend was wasted on the couch.