Honest answer? Because you're constantly defensive about proving that you DO have it all together. You're easy to rile up. No skittles gets you riled up.
Embrace that you're figuring it all out, that you maybe don't have your dream job and dream career at 24 (?) and you might not be so fun to poke.
Okay, I'll take that.
I don't have it all figured out. But I'm not a complete hot mess either. And it's hard not to get defensive when people are ganging up on you and telling you how much you suck at this that or other; or you can't do this because of that.
I'm still learning and growing. And chasing those dreams. Whatever they may be.
Can I give you an genuine suggestion, then? Try participating on this board like a regular person. Stop with the exaggerations, lies, and deliberately posting total crap just to rile up people. Other than whatever entertainment value you personally get out of behaving like that, I don't see benefit you get out of your participation here in that manner. You'd probably gain a lot more by being yourself and being honest.
I think having your shit together is a myth. Everyone's got something. My shit's all over the place but depending on what you focus on it may appear I've got it together.
Bliss I think you're more honest about it and you're also marching to the beat of a different drummer than most of MM. Trying to compare your life to that of most on the board is like comparing apples to oranges. What you're doing sounds crazy to a lot of us but if it's what makes you happy, just own it and who cares what anyone else thinks?
I know there is a free spirit trapped within me that sometimes wishes she had spent less of her life trying to get her shit together and more of her life living it.
Because a majority of the boards thinks I should fit into their bubble. I do own it, yet other people throw it in my face like I'm doing something wrong. Like following my passions and chasing my dreams is a bad thing. That I'm suppose to sit at a job I hate and bitch about it on the interwebs. I'm perfectly content with myself and where I"m headed. But it's so annoying for others to continually belittle me and tell me how much of a hot mess I am. Or how I'm a special snowflake. I don't think that, I'm brave and did something a lot of people won't do.
I know that my life is FAR from most of MM and that's fine. That's what I enjoy about this, I learn. However, others just poke fun or are just plain assholes to me because of the choices I've made.
Honest answer? Because you're constantly defensive about proving that you DO have it all together. You're easy to rile up. No skittles gets you riled up.
Embrace that you're figuring it all out, that you maybe don't have your dream job and dream career at 24 (?) and you might not be so fun to poke.
Okay, I'll take that.
I don't have it all figured out. But I'm not a complete hot mess either. And it's hard not to get defensive when people are ganging up on you and telling you how much you suck at this that or other; or you can't do this because of that.
I'm still learning and growing. And chasing those dreams. Whatever they may be.
Then quit coming on here and pointing out the stuff in your life that make it a 'hot mess'! When you come on this board and blab about having your cell phone turned off and how you might be having your car repossessed soon don't be surprised when people tell you that you might want to get back on your feet financially before you jump into the LA dating scene. No one said that you CANT date; SO just said that until you get 'your shit together' (aka, get your phone turned back on and figure out IF you will have a car) that maybe you should refrain from dating for NOW.
If you dont want people to tell you things you dont want to hear....QUIT coming on these boards and oversharing your problems!
Post by alleinesein on Oct 9, 2013 16:16:56 GMT -5
I bought a pack of Birthday Cake Oreos b/c they got rave reviews on GBCN and they were fucking GROSS! First time in my life that I ever threw out an almost full package of oreos.
My UO: The wealth distribution video reminded me. I think taxes should be a LOT higher. I would love to see Congress add more brackets and increase the % for each existing one. The growing income gap is just gross and frankly embarrassing. I don't know how people can think otherwise.
I like progressive tax systems. I'd be happy to see this, too.
I highly doubt it could ever actually come to pass any time soon, though.
I have something! I thought of it last night. Basically, I think that super strict veganism is in some ways a socially acceptable way to maintain disordered eating.
I have a few friends who pretty much eat fruit and vegetables and have a focus on no added oils, no gluten, choosing super foods, etc. I just feel like when you get to the point that simply fueling your body takes up a huge portion of your day - because at that level you have to plan every. single. bite., shop at specialty stores, cook 99.9% of things at home - that there's a level of obsession required that strikes me as potentially worrying.
I would actually extend this beyond strict veganism to include things like strict paleo or strict gluten free or strict no fat (when there is no actual health issue generating the need to follow these diets).
It makes life a bit of a pain, too, because we like to have folks over for supper, and people deciding on a whim to avoid entire categories of food makes for a difficult meal to plan. I also see it as a bit of a control issue for those choosing such diets.
That's not an allergy. Did she say she had an allergy? If so, she was just wrong. Those are things she's intolerant to, or that make her tired. Not that she's allergic to.
Yes, she told the server she had severe allergies to the items on the list. She told me they made her tired when I asked what happened if she ate them.
I used to have a rather embarrassing reaction to citrus, and once someone was hounding me about what would happen if I ate it. I didn't want to go into it because it was EMBARRASSING, but she would. not. stop. Anyway, asking someone "what happens" to them with a particular allergen just rubs me the wrong way.
I don't care how good people say Gravity is, I can't bring myself to watch it. The only way you could make a movie about floating off into space worse for me is if it involved slowly drowning or the heat death of the universe at the same time. Then I read an interview with Commander Hadfield (the Space Oddity guy) and aparently this is exactly every astronaut's worst fear.
I am glad my seven-year-old dream job was digging up dinosaur bones and not becoming an astronaut.
It's strangely one of my worst fears and yet there is 0% of it ever happening to me. Because, you know, I am not an astronaut and don't go into space.
I think gluten-free diets are bullshit if you don't have celiac or some kind of documented intolerance. Not eating wheat is not beneficially for regular people, IMO, and too much of a PITA for not being necessary.
I plan on spending the next 30+ minutes updating my budget spreadsheet and watching HIMYM. I'm still at work. This is probably only flameworthy if you are my employer.
I've got a nice wine buzz. It is 3 PM. The rain started up again as soon as I got to my car, so I ran back inside to the comfy couch. And then realized I only had one bottle of wine left. In the car.
It is going to be a very long, dry, few weeks. Hold me.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Oct 9, 2013 17:10:55 GMT -5
i HATE it when my mom implies that dd's middle name of June is a direct reference to my stepdad's mom ?!? mmmm no, its the link to dad's family (my paternal gma's name was June as well).
i've chalked to up to lingering bad vibes from their HEINOUS divorce nearly 20 years ago but it drives me nuts that my mom thinks i'm 'honoring' a woman i barely know in my dd's name *-)
FYI - My amazing grandma paid my phone! I just got an email that said "thank you for your payment." She called up herself, entered my number and last 4 of my social and paid it. That woman is amazing and has always encouraged me to CHASE MY FUCKING DREAMS!! (had to say it.
ETA - I didn't even ask her. My mom mentioned it to her and walla she paid it. Of course I'll be paying her back, but now I can get a bartending gig. Get trained and start making a little bit before I start my FT job in a few weeks. Eek. I feel better. And god, I want to hug that woman.
Yes, she told the server she had severe allergies to the items on the list. She told me they made her tired when I asked what happened if she ate them.
I used to have a rather embarrassing reaction to citrus, and once someone was hounding me about what would happen if I ate it. I didn't want to go into it because it was EMBARRASSING, but she would. not. stop. Anyway, asking someone "what happens" to them with a particular allergen just rubs me the wrong way.
Now that you mention it, it bothers me, too. It's always awkward, and I don't know what good it does a person to know "what happens" when I ingest one of my allergens (peanuts and fish, FTR, and the answer is, "A whole lot of no good, and possibly death"). LOL. The prodding is especially weird. Especially if you're out to a meal with many other people and the interrogator just will not stop asking specific questions after learning of the allergy.
Oh, and people who decide they need to be my protector are also weird. I've been allergic to these foods my whole life; I can inquire about ingredients myself, thank you.
FYI - My amazing grandma paid my phone! I just got an email that said "thank you for your payment." She called up herself, entered my number and last 4 of my social and paid it. That woman is amazing and has always encouraged me to CHASE MY FUCKING DREAMS!! (had to say it.
ETA - I didn't even ask her. My mom mentioned it to her and walla she paid it. Of course I'll be paying her back, but now I can get a bartending gig. Get trained and start making a little bit before I start my FT job in a few weeks. Eek. I feel better. And god, I want to hug that woman.
That was nice of her! Make sure you call her AND send a thank you card (a cheap one!).
My flameful is that I often tell myself that my friends have received some sort of monetary assistance from their parents or are drowning in debt when I get jealous of their vacations or apartments.
It's quite petty of me and for the most part I'm really happy for them, but sometimes the things the do/have are just so unrealistic.
I used to have a rather embarrassing reaction to citrus, and once someone was hounding me about what would happen if I ate it. I didn't want to go into it because it was EMBARRASSING, but she would. not. stop. Anyway, asking someone "what happens" to them with a particular allergen just rubs me the wrong way.
Now that you mention it, it bothers me, too. It's always awkward, and I don't know what good it does a person to know "what happens" when I ingest one of my allergens (peanuts and fish, FTR, and the answer is, "A whole lot of no good, and possibly death"). LOL. The prodding is especially weird. Especially if you're out to a meal with many other people and the interrogator just will not stop asking specific questions after learning of the allergy.
Oh, and people who decide they need to be my protector are also weird. I've been allergic to these foods my whole life; I can inquire about ingredients myself, thank you.
My standard response is it starts with projectile puking and gets worse from there, do you really want to know the rest. Usually that embarrasses them into silence.
I'm afraid I'm going to say something really inappropriate on my last day of work. Things are SO awkward. My boss is stressed to the max because he has no staff and the one person they've hired recently is driving everyone insane so much that I'm sitting in a different cube the rest of the week and everyone openly talks about how they wish they were quitting too. I want to be like "peace out, you reap what you sow assholes."
I think Seinfeld is one of the worst shows ever. EVER
:::sits next to Pugz::: DH and my in-laws think this is the best, funniest show ever in the history of mankind. I...don't. I have had to learn to tolerate it for the purpose of family harmony.
I have something! I thought of it last night. Basically, I think that super strict veganism is in some ways a socially acceptable way to maintain disordered eating.
I have a few friends who pretty much eat fruit and vegetables and have a focus on no added oils, no gluten, choosing super foods, etc. I just feel like when you get to the point that simply fueling your body takes up a huge portion of your day - because at that level you have to plan every. single. bite., shop at specialty stores, cook 99.9% of things at home - that there's a level of obsession required that strikes me as potentially worrying.
In some cases I definitely agree. My best friend dealt with eating disorders and depression for many years and thankfully is in a much healthier place now. But she is vegan and has straight out admitted to me that it's her way of restricting herself without getting sick.
FYI - My amazing grandma paid my phone! I just got an email that said "thank you for your payment." She called up herself, entered my number and last 4 of my social and paid it. That woman is amazing and has always encouraged me to CHASE MY FUCKING DREAMS!! (had to say it.
ETA - I didn't even ask her. My mom mentioned it to her and walla she paid it. Of course I'll be paying her back, but now I can get a bartending gig. Get trained and start making a little bit before I start my FT job in a few weeks. Eek. I feel better. And god, I want to hug that woman.
That was nice of her! Make sure you call her AND send a thank you card (a cheap one!).
I did call her and thanked her on FB (she's got 20+ likes so far). The cheapest I could think of! LOL.
I sometimes worry that people judge me for eating gluten free. I don't have celiac's or a documented intolerance. I just cut out gluten after my emergency bowel resection to see if it helped my crohn's disease, and it appears that it has (although it's impossible to attribute better health to GF alone, as I've also started medication and I got rid of a very diseased portion of my intestine).
I sometimes worry that people judge me for eating gluten free. I don't have celiac's or a documented intolerance. I just cut out gluten after my emergency bowel resection to see if it helped my crohn's disease, and it appears that it has (although it's impossible to attribute better health to GF alone, as I've also started medication and I got rid of a very diseased portion of my intestine).
I promise I'm not a food diva!
I know of a few people who have given up gluten for similar reasons, although they have not been formally dx'ed with Celiac. If anyone judges you for that, fuck 'em. It's not your problem. I have also noticed that the people I know who have medical reasons for being GF are considerably less divaish about it than people who just choose to give it up.
Yes, she told the server she had severe allergies to the items on the list. She told me they made her tired when I asked what happened if she ate them.
I used to have a rather embarrassing reaction to citrus, and once someone was hounding me about what would happen if I ate it. I didn't want to go into it because it was EMBARRASSING, but she would. not. stop. Anyway, asking someone "what happens" to them with a particular allergen just rubs me the wrong way.
Confession: a small, small part of me enjoys the shocked, slightly horrified look people always get when I answer this question with "I go into anaphylaxis, stop breathing, and may die in front of you." Just a little bit.
To be fair, I'm telling the truth when I say that. It really happens, and I really can die. I just get so sick of idiots who insist food allergies are not a real problem.
This is disgusting. And fuck off with even beginning to comprehend the reasoning behind such a commitment like veg*nism. Reducing it to just a "cover" for an Ed (which by the way is not a character flaw) is demeaning and ignorant. If you replaced the word vegan for Jewish, would that still make her uncommitted to recovery? Does someone have to eat-all-the-foods in order to be "committed" or hell, even "normal"? It would seem so in this thread. How sad that a board full of "intelligent and educated" women can be at once so myopic and nitwitted, yet so critical when it comes to anything relating to, well anything they don't know shit about.
For the record, since I brought up the topic originally - although you may have been more specifically referring to the post(s) you quoted - I obviously don't think ALL vegans are masking some raging ED. Which, by the way, is a health problem, regardless of what it says about your character, and would ieally be treated medically in order to allow for recovery.
tacom, don't worry, I don't really care what you eat I don't even care what these people I'm referring to eat, I just hope that they really are in a healthy mindset about it all and have my slight doubts about that.
- Eating Vent: I have been dining with a lot of colleagues, clients, etc this week, and there's one person who is just getting on my last nerve. They are a picky eater and have to make a ZOMG big deal about it at every meal. "You guys, I don't want to share any appetizers, I'll just order my own since I have really specific tastes," "Oh you're ordering that SPICY SOUP - how can you eat that, I'm a picky eater and never eat that," "They don't have a chicken dish on the menu, I'm a picky eater so I might just get a few appetizers and a soup and salad instead of an entree." NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR PICKY EATING BULLSHIT!
- Shoe Vent: You know what, if you think it's crazy that I have expensive shoes, keep that opinion TO YOURSELF. I don't need to hear about it A MILLION TIMES. Also, you lost over $800 bucks at the craps table last night, so your shit is more stupid than my shoe fetish OKAY PEOPLE!