I'm just going to leave this for starrieskies- I saw a cute Halloween decoration the other day that made me think of you. There were a few gallon milk jugs with ghosty eyes and mouths hanging out with white string lights in them. It was nice and could be something gun to do with DS. I don't think I'd save the results, though.
I'm getting excited for Halloween. It will be time to pick up some pumpkins soon. A lot of our neighbors have gone all out with the decorating already. I love it.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 22, 2013 8:51:12 GMT -5
Muddled that's a great idea! I don't think I'd save the results either, but the decorating possibilities are endless!
I've been in a funk for the last few days, so I pulled out my bright yellow shirt in the hopes that the sunny color will brighten my mood at least temporarily. If that doesn't work, I'm buying some Apple cider and a bottle of rum.
Muddled that's a great idea! I don't think I'd save the results either, but the decorating possibilities are endless!
I've been in a funk for the last few days, so I pulled out my bright yellow shirt in the hopes that the sunny color will brighten my mood at least temporarily. If that doesn't work, I'm buying some Apple cider and a bottle of rum.
I did some kickboxing at 11:15 last night, that helped my mood some--but I'm sleepy today.
I'm feeling blah. I contacted a local saint bernard rescue group to foster and they already wanted us to take a dog this week. We have about 4-6 more weeks with Max, who goes in for his 2nd/3rd HW treatment tomorrow. I felt a little bad that I wanted a saint bernard more.
And speaking of this sbr, it caused a bump in the road w/ DH and I. I am frustrated because I love them, I want my own dog and I know we're not on the same page as far as that goes. I think he'd be happy if we never had another one ever again and well, most of you all know how I feel about that.
Muddled that's a great idea! I don't think I'd save the results either, but the decorating possibilities are endless!
I've been in a funk for the last few days, so I pulled out my bright yellow shirt in the hopes that the sunny color will brighten my mood at least temporarily. If that doesn't work, I'm buying some Apple cider and a bottle of rum.
Google "milk jug ghosts" and you'll see what I mean.
The one I saw just had the jugs hanging out on the stoop with a string of lights set on top of them so that a couple of the lights were actually in the jugs. It was less complex than some of those photos, but all you need is a couple of jugs, a black sharpie and a string of lights.
I'm feeling blah. I contacted a local saint bernard rescue group to foster and they already wanted us to take a dog this week. We have about 4-6 more weeks with Max, who goes in for his 2nd/3rd HW treatment tomorrow. I felt a little bad that I wanted a saint bernard more.
And speaking of this sbr, it caused a bump in the road w/ DH and I. I am frustrated because I love them, I want my own dog and I know we're not on the same page as far as that goes. I think he'd be happy if we never had another one ever again and well, most of you all know how I feel about that.
I am missing Sheba so badly lately.
Ok, no more dogs until you have placed the one you have. You know that you cannot handle more than 2 at a time.
Do not feel badly that you want a St. Bernard. Don't even. Your foster doesn't know, nor does he care. The guilt hurts no one but you.
If you think that you would like to have an SB at some point in the future, I actually think that the rescue is a great idea. H only has bad experiences with SBs, yes? He has never known one other than Murph? This would be a good way to introduce him to some more and show him that they don't all have Murphy's issues without a long term commitment. Do they have events that you can attend to ease H into this?
Muddled, we would never do three dogs again - don't worry. I told the guy we couldn't handle another right now, but I'd like to be waiting in the wings for when our golden is adopted. I wanted to just get the paperwork handled so we would be approved whenever/if that time comes.
You're right that H has only ever known Murph and that was a terrible experience with SBs. I thought fostering them would be a perfect way to show him that they are (mostly) lovable, goofy dogs. I think he has a fear of them now though and I think the other issue is that he wants to just plain be done with fostering dogs. He is happy w/ just us and Willow, but I have told him that's not enough for me. I get it too because fostering is exhausting, but we initially decided to do this so I could potentially find another dog. Now it's looking more and more like he doesn't/didn't want that and that's why we're not really on the same page.
I went back to Target yesterday and ended up with a Ninja master prep, which seems like both a blender and food processor. It was cheaper than the Ninja blender, by a lot. Yay!
And my soup is finally done, and is delicious.
Yesterday at work ended pretty fucking terribly. I'm nervous about fallout today. We'll see how it goes. I know we did the right thing.
And part of me is angry because - great - he gets his family with his dog (I know, I know - she is our dog) that he has always had, but am I supposed to just accept that? I feel like it's unfair that my wants go unheard. And really, that's not his fault because I have not voiced them until now.
I am tired of putting everyone first and not getting the things I want. I literally have written out a list of things I want this morning rather than stress about everyone else's problems/issues.
Muddled, we would never do three dogs again - don't worry. I told the guy we couldn't handle another right now, but I'd like to be waiting in the wings for when our golden is adopted. I wanted to just get the paperwork handled so we would be approved whenever/if that time comes.
You're right that H has only ever known Murph and that was a terrible experience with SBs. I thought fostering them would be a perfect way to show him that they are (mostly) lovable, goofy dogs. I think he has a fear of them now though and I think the other issue is that he wants to just plain be done with fostering dogs. He is happy w/ just us and Willow, but I have told him that's not enough for me. I get it too because fostering is exhausting, but we initially decided to do this so I could potentially find another dog. Now it's looking more and more like he doesn't/didn't want that and that's why we're not really on the same page.
That is really difficult. I'm sorry doglove. All I can offer is hugs. It does sound like conversations are in order to understand each other's points of view and why it's important/what's driving it. I hope he starts to come around soon.
And part of me is angry because - great - he gets his family with his dog (I know, I know - she is our dog) that he has always had, but am I supposed to just accept that? I feel like it's unfair that my wants go unheard. And really, that's not his fault because I have not voiced them until now.
I am tired of putting everyone first and not getting the things I want. I literally have written out a list of things I want this morning rather than stress about everyone else's problems/issues.
Good for you for realizing this and starting to do something about it. Your voice deserves to be heard and your needs are just as important as other's needs.
No, dogs tend to show partiality. I'm sure Willow loves you, but there's always one person they choose to be theirs and I imagine that is H.
I am hearing (seeing) a lot of "it looks like" and "I think he". It makes me think that you are doing some assuming when it comes to H's stance and you haven't discussed it outright. You know what I'm going to say from here.
What's the rest of this list? Is it all H related or are you not getting what you need from other relationships as well?
I went back to Target yesterday and ended up with a Ninja master prep, which seems like both a blender and food processor. It was cheaper than the Ninja blender, by a lot. Yay!
And my soup is finally done, and is delicious.
Yesterday at work ended pretty fucking terribly. I'm nervous about fallout today. We'll see how it goes. I know we did the right thing.
If you know you did the right thing, there is nothing to be nervous about. Just defend your position if need be. You've got this.
Post by dixienormous on Oct 22, 2013 9:21:40 GMT -5
I'm still in my funk. I just can't seem to shake it.
Tonight I will be enjoying a solo night (once PF goes to bed) and I plan on using it to catch up on my shows, eat ice cream and possibly enjoy my boyfriend Johnny Walker.
Also I need to go to Target to return a comforter we bought the other night. I will return it, buy coffee and 2 pillows (the cheapies because they're just decor bed pillows) and that is it.
Good morning. I am back from Vegas. Had a lot of fun but am exhausted. My flight arrived at midnight and with the train I got home at 1:30. I'd rather be sleeping.
No, dogs tend to show partiality. I'm sure Willow loves you, but there's always one person they choose to be theirs and I imagine that is H.
I am hearing (seeing) a lot of "it looks like" and "I think he". It makes me think that you are doing some assuming when it comes to H's stance and you haven't discussed it outright. You know what I'm going to say from here.
What's the rest of this list? Is it all H related or are you not getting what you need from other relationships as well?
Yes it's a conversation I realized this morning that needs to take place. So I plan to have it tonight.
It's a life list I guess. I know you and I talked last week about me taking on other people's baggage and that's something I talked with my therapist about yesterday.
I went back to Target yesterday and ended up with a Ninja master prep, which seems like both a blender and food processor. It was cheaper than the Ninja blender, by a lot. Yay!
And my soup is finally done, and is delicious.
Yesterday at work ended pretty fucking terribly. I'm nervous about fallout today. We'll see how it goes. I know we did the right thing.
If you know you did the right thing, there is nothing to be nervous about. Just defend your position if need be. You've got this.
Thanks. It's mostly the parent's reaction I'm concerned about and what extra hoops we may have to jump through or how this will impact the kids. I will stand with my coworkers because I know we all did the best we could and followed the law (& our legal obligations).
Hugs, doglove. Echoing muddled, it sounds like you're taking the right steps to feeling better and getting more empowerment over your dog circumstances.
I got a side eye from H last night for a $260 Target bill. I pointed out that at least $75 of that was diapers, wipes and puffs, so MY portion was pretty low for a whole month and he should be thanking me. (but not really because wait until the next one, whoooo boy)
H gave me a ring after the party Saturday for surviving the first year and thanking me for being such a good mom and working so hard. Its a little silver band with one centered stone. He's so sweet.