Weird questions people ask

[bowies]

Jan 12, 2014 9:23:52 GMT -5 eav2c said:

I hate these questions and I feel like people are so totally clueless. A few of my close friends asked if it was planned and I said "no, actually, I slipped and fell on my H." Now that I'm having a second and he is a boy too I get a lot of pity comments, LOL! I always say that gender doesn't determine what your child likes or how their personality will be. I could have boys who love dolls and the color pink or girls who love trucks and blue. I've realized with my first that they have their own tastes and gender absolutely does not define my child. He tries to nurse his Wiggles doll while racing trucks around the living room. I will happily be a mom of boys only... no pity necessary! 

I was a total tomboy!  Santa brought me Care Bears and Hot Wheels.  And when my little brother came on the scene I repurposed all those dresses I hated to wear by dressing him in them.  Even now he'll patiently shop with our mother and I'm the one watching football. Ha!

[andthentherewere10]

My mom's first question was "How will you have time for a child with all that you do?" and the second one was "How old will your H be when you deliver?" (He's quite a few years older than I am).

This was all after I had already told her we had been trying for a long time to conceive so clearly these were not concerns of mine, ie this wasn't an accident!

[Yankees21]

I only got one "were you trying?" Thank god. The most awkward one has been people asking how I'm feeling, because the answer has been shitty the whole time, and I don't really know how to answer.

[FastHands]

Jan 11, 2014 19:45:56 GMT -5 kershnic said:

My in-laws, who we told at 13w with everyone else, asked if I was getting prenatal care... They knew we'd been trying a really long time and they knew we're a same-sex couple so obviously using fertility treatment.... but then we stopped going to the doctor after we got pregnant???

My grandma was the best response though - she pretty much asked a dumbfounded "how?" Discussing donor sperm with your 89 year old grandmother is a funny thing.

Ok your gma is kind of cute/funny.

[lilles]

How many tries did it take you to get pregnant?

[Deleted]

My boss when I was showing her and other (male) boss my maternity photos: "Did you take any naked ones?" lmao

Friend's h at a wedding: "If you don't mind me asking, have you had any complications with your pregnancy?" wtf dude...like I would tell you if I was.

[pitterwoo]

My H's sister texted him today to ask if I have a lot of gas.

He said no, but that he does. Lol it's true.

[rbp]

oceanspray wins this thread. LOL

My brother did ask me who the father was. But he always says shit like that, so it was just a ribbing.

[timorousbeastie]

This wasn't really a question, but it made me laugh this morning, so I had to add it here...

Several years ago, I had cancer. I've been in remission ever since, but there was the possibility that the chemo could have affected my fertility. I still have annual checkups with my oncologist to make sure everything looks good. I had my appointment this morning; since I hadn't seen my onc in a year, he didn't know I was pregnant. He walked into the room and saw my big belly (I'm 37 wks). His eyes went wide and he excitedly said, "Hey! I didn't kill your ovaries! Excellent!" I love him (of course, he then went on to scold me for not finding out the sex, because he wanted to know )

[starlily]

MIL's reaction to finding out we're having another girl: "Guess you'll have to try again for a little boy!"

Um, fuck no.

Sadly, I expect some of my family to say the same. Old cultural traditions (Asian on both sides) die hard.

[anna7602]

1) you're going to find out the sex this time, aren't you? (Actually, people always say "gender" instead of "sex," which annoys me even more.) the answer: nope. I was quite happy not knowing last time and my feelings haven't changed since. Either way, baby # 2 is gong to use DD's old crib, stroller, crib sheets, etc.

2) "oh, it will be so good for DD to finally have a sibling." Thanks, everyone, for indicating that you think only children are weirdos.

3) "where was the baby conceived?" Yes, we just moved back to the U.S. from another country this past summer, but is it really any of your business? Also, can you not do basic math?

[VillainV]

Jan 15, 2014 22:33:35 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

1) you're going to find out the sex this time, aren't you? (Actually, people always say "gender" instead of "sex," which annoys me even more.) the answer: nope. I was quite happy not knowing last time and my feelings haven't changed since. Either way, baby # 2 is gong to use DD's old crib, stroller, crib sheets, etc.

2) "oh, it will be so good for DD to finally have a sibling." Thanks, everyone, for indicating that you think only children are weirdos.

3) "where was the baby conceived?" Yes, we just moved back to the U.S. from another country this past summer, but is it really any of your business? Also, can you not do basic math?

H and I get some weird looks too.   We conceived very soon after I got back from being deployed to Afghanistan, but because of how pregnancy dating works, early on it sounded like I had conceived before I got back.  Like I was "12 weeks" pregnant but had only been home for 10 weeks, or whatever.  

ETA: funny enough, the weekend we DID conceive we were visiting some friends of H's family, and the husband used to be an OB before he retired (and the wife worked in his practice).  When we shared the news that I was pregnant, of course they knew EXACTLY when we had conceived, and they thought it was funny that it was the weekend we visited them :-) 

[timorousbeastie]

Jan 15, 2014 22:33:35 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

3) "where was the baby conceived?" Yes, we just moved back to the U.S. from another country this past summer, but is it really any of your business? Also, can you not do basic math?

I've also been asked if we conceived on a particular trip we took last year. We took that trip in January 2013. I'm due in February 2014. No. Just no. 

[Deleted]

I haven't told anyone we are expecting and I rarely leave the house so no one has seen my belly but I really can't believe some of these questions you ladies are getting. I am dreading going back to the office next month and getting some of those.

[bowies]

I have another one (more a comment than a question).

For about a month during my first tri, I pretty much looked like death warmed over thanks to morning sickness. A coworker could tell I wasn't feeling well and asked what was wrong and I hesitantly told him I had been nauseous (assuming he'd put two and two together). Well, last week when I finally told everyone that I was pregnant, he visibly relaxed and said "Oh thank God, I thought you were bulimic!"

Really? That's the first place you go to? :/

[Deleted]

From my sister this morning (in an high pitched girlie squeal) - how is the little baby doing?

Me - stfu, how am I supposed to know? I haven't even been to the first u/s yet. Stop bugging me.

[mellimel19]

Jan 15, 2014 22:33:35 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

3) "where was the baby conceived?" Yes, we just moved back to the U.S. from another country this past summer, but is it really any of your business? Also, can you not do basic math?

Oooh I'd have fun with this question!

a) In a bar bathroom
b) In a public park
c) On our kitchen table

I could keep going and going. I realize people mean in which country was the baby conceived, but hey, I think a stupid question warrants a stupid answer

[kermit]

I'm sure I'll have a slew of inappropriate/rude comments to share after I tell work next week, but today I went to the dentist and had to refuse x-rays, which was fine. When the dentist came in to check stuff out the hygienist told him I was pregnant and he asked if I'd been sick/had symptoms and I said no, I've had very minimal symptoms and feel pretty normal. Then he said "well maybe it's just a false alarm". ^o) Like I really wasn't pregnant. I know he was joking, but that's not a very sensitive thing to say.

[D2M]

kermit ugggggh what an A-hole.

[rbp]

Jan 17, 2014 12:24:12 GMT -5 kermit said:

I'm sure I'll have a slew of inappropriate/rude comments to share after I tell work next week, but today I went to the dentist and had to refuse x-rays, which was fine. When the dentist came in to check stuff out the hygienist told him I was pregnant and he asked if I'd been sick/had symptoms and I said no, I've had very minimal symptoms and feel pretty normal. Then he said "well maybe it's just a false alarm".  Like I really wasn't pregnant. I know he was joking, but that's not a very sensitive thing to say.

WTF? That is so weird and insensitive.