marie3246, your coworker is a tool. Gavel. Pick the name you love and toss her insensitive comment out of your mind.
I am seriously loving the second trimester. I have a noticeable (but not uncomfortable) belly and I have a ton of energy. I used my day off yesterday to clean out all my kitchen cabinets, toss old spices/questionable food items, scrub the fridge, and just organize the crap out of everything. I cleared out one of our deep drawers and have mentally tagged that as a spot for bottles and baby stuff and also cleared out another cabinet for more baby stuff. We live in a small apartment, so space is a premium.
I am jealous of all the people getting snow! Sometimes I really love living in FL, but more and more I miss the seasons and winter, but H likes to remind me that I am forgetting all the shoveling and scraping ice off the cars haha.
I am starting to get really stressed about the baby coming soon. We haven't officially decided that Viola will be her name, but it is the only one H likes and I love it as well. I love that it comes from my side of the family too. For some reason though, I can't shake the feeling that everyone is going to hate it and ask us WTF we were thinking. I keep having dreams reliving my coworker making that nasty comment at my shower and am dreading taking the baby to work to seeing this coworker because I know she won't ever keep her mouth shut. Im an avoider at all costs and I hate that I let her allow me to feel bad about it, but I still can't shake the feeling. I spent all morning trying to come up with some more common names that I liked and found a few, but I am worried I will regret it later on.
It makes me sad for you that you are worried about the name of your daughter. It is easier said than done to just say "forget what other people think." I can say with 100% honesty that Viola is a beautiful name. I have a friend with that name and she usually goes by "Vi" but the name sounds so regal and classy.
I really think that people aren't used to hearing certain names so it might seem shocking. But Viola is a totally normal name! If that is what you and your husband love, go for it and announce it with pride! It is the name of a lead character of a Shakespeare play, you know!!!
When we first were going through names we made the mistake of telling our parents. They made us feel like shit about name choices. We were so mad at them. Since then our mouths have stayed shut.
Post by humpforfree on Jan 21, 2014 15:23:47 GMT -5
My husband and I are working from home due to the snow today. He is done with work & went outside to work on our house (building an addition/house) and I went to hold up a wall while he nailed it in. He is using the air nailer and when it nailed the baby jumped. Lol. It is all active and awake now. I swear I will fight my husband if the nailer puts me in labor.
IMO, most people will not make negative comments on a name after the baby is here and the name is done. I'm sure a few will, but hopefully most will be polite enough not to. It seems that ppl are more vocal when names are still options and not attached to an outside baby.
At the end of the day, if you love the name and it means something to you - go for it! This is your daughter and your all's choice. No one else really matters.
I hope people can keep their mouths shut, but who knows. I really wish she wouldnt have told everyone at my shower, but nothing that can be done now. I really need to just let it go, but for some reason I keep having these crazy dreams and hesitations. H and I really need to sit down and decide and I need to not let anyone else get in my head.
Easier said that done but this is def true. It's really no ones biz what name you pick. In the end you'll be the one hollering the name across the room so it's important that YOU love it.
For the record, one of my mentor's name is Viola and I think it's super classy :-)
I am jealous of all the people getting snow! Sometimes I really love living in FL, but more and more I miss the seasons and winter, but H likes to remind me that I am forgetting all the shoveling and scraping ice off the cars haha.
I am starting to get really stressed about the baby coming soon. We haven't officially decided that Viola will be her name, but it is the only one H likes and I love it as well. I love that it comes from my side of the family too. For some reason though, I can't shake the feeling that everyone is going to hate it and ask us WTF we were thinking. I keep having dreams reliving my coworker making that nasty comment at my shower and am dreading taking the baby to work to seeing this coworker because I know she won't ever keep her mouth shut. Im an avoider at all costs and I hate that I let her allow me to feel bad about it, but I still can't shake the feeling. I spent all morning trying to come up with some more common names that I liked and found a few, but I am worried I will regret it later on.
It makes me sad for you that you are worried about the name of your daughter. It is easier said than done to just say "forget what other people think." I can say with 100% honesty that Viola is a beautiful name. I have a friend with that name and she usually goes by "Vi" but the name sounds so regal and classy.
I really think that people aren't used to hearing certain names so it might seem shocking. But Viola is a totally normal name! If that is what you and your husband love, go for it and announce it with pride! It is the name of a lead character of a Shakespeare play, you know!!!
I know, I wish I could just get rid of the feeling and let it go. I do feel a bit better about it today and after talking to my mom. When I first told my mom, she was honest and said it wasn't one she would pick, but now she loves it. She also is someone who doesn't give a crap what other people think and I wish I could be more like that. I do love the name Viola and I specifically love my aunt Viola, so that helps as well. I just need to get over caring about others opinions, I know we can't all have the same taste.
I had a rough night's sleep last night with some fun digestive issues. I woke up to find out that EVERY SCHOOL DISTRICT IN THE AREA has cancelled school. Except for mine.
Ugh, ugh, ugh.
I should be happy because of how snow days affect my leave, but I could SO have used it today.
What part of IL are you in, bricco? We barely got a dusting; no school closings around here today! Probably for the best since we have finals this week and I'm home anyway.